When Motherhood Never Happens (Article)

Good CF article..

http://jezebel.com/5908514/when-motherhood-never-happens?utm_campaign=socialflow_jezebel_facebook&utm_source=jezebel_facebook&utm_medium=socialflow

Also:


http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/05/06/its-not-that-i-dont-want-children-exactly/

Message edited 5/10/2012 10:27:04 AM.

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Thanks for posting! She brought up a lot of great points.

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The comments beneath the article are entertaining.

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thanks for sharing

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Thank you for posting this.

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Thank you. I usually find I can't relate to most CF articles, but I liked this one.

This part pretty much describes me, and it is very weird:

Other women work, love, live, only to discover that they've crossed an unmarked border into new territory, where everything looks exactly the same, only now you're that woman who never had kids.

What complicates things is not really having career accomplishments, as mentioned in the article. Most people think that sometimes you can have both, but if not, it is because you chose one or the other (career or family), but it is kind of depressing to realize you don't have either.

Actually that is a topic I have been meaning to post about.

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(Ugh my long response got deleted because LIF logged me out..so annoyed...but))..

I love reading the comments on that story and the NY Times article that is also mentioned at the bottom in the Links.

The take-away from this article for me is how true it is that women are pressured to have kids because of family, friends, society. DH and I are "only" kids, my only exposure to physically holding a baby didn't come until only a few years ago (none of my closest relatives are young moms) and the fact that I live in a family oriented place like LI (as opposed to the Upper East Side of NYC) makes it much harder to live and enjoy the CF lifestyle. Remove those outside pressures, and your choice to be CF really is the best thing in the world...lol.

I also agree with the NYT article that if your feelings about children are "ehh. meh..maybe, maybe not.." then you have no business being a mom. It indicates a level of undecisiveness and that is not a good sign for a mom. I would not want to be thrown into motherhood because of the biological clock, outside pressures or "what if you regret not being a mom when you're 70?". I think most women who are ambivalent about motherhood or unsure, have already made a decision (conscious or not) to not be one. Being a parent should be an active, 'I really WANT this' feeling..because the responsibilities that come along with that title are pretty enormous, IMO). I think she definitely hit the nail on the head with that observation.

Message edited 5/10/2012 10:24:40 AM.

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