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Lana811
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Need Advice
Thank You for your opinions.
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alli3131
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Re: Need Advice
IMO I think you are wrong. It was a wedding so you knew it would be a 5-6 hour event. If your DH didn't want to be up late he should have said no up front.
Just because they come home early some nights you can't assume it will always be like that.
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DumpsterBaby
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Re: Need Advice
Posted by alli3131
IMO I think you are wrong. It was a wedding so you knew it would be a 5-6 hour event. If your DH didn't want to be up late he should have said no up front.
Just because they come home early some nights you can't assume it will always be like that.
Exactly what I was going to write. Don't assume anything.
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chilltocam
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Re: Need Advice
Posted by alli3131
IMO I think you are wrong. It was a wedding so you knew it would be a 5-6 hour event. If your DH didn't want to be up late he should have said no up front.
Just because they come home early some nights you can't assume it will always be like that.
I agree - weddings are different than just going out to dinner. If I knew someone was going to a wedding, I would expect that they would be there for at least 6 hours - (ceremony, cocktail hour and reception) - plus travel time.
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Need Advice
Posted by alli3131
IMO I think you are wrong. It was a wedding so you knew it would be a 5-6 hour event. If your DH didn't want to be up late he should have said no up front.
Just because they come home early some nights you can't assume it will always be like that.
I agree.
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| Posted 6/14/12 4:55 PM |
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Lana811
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Re: Need Advice
ok I completely understand that, but we have babysat for other weddings and they always come home early.
Dont you think they should have give us a time frame when they always do?
It kinda feels like they were planning on staying late bringing people home and not telling us anything
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PearlJamChick
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Re: Need Advice
I feel like you guys underestimated the amount of time they'd be at the wedding.
Most weddings are at least 4 hours long. Some are longer - if the ceremony is also being held at the hall, if they add a Venetian hour, if the opt for an extended cocktail hour, etc.
So, they ask you guys to be ready at 6 p.m. for babysitting. Then there's travel time to the wedding. Figure it starts at 7, I guess? If that's the case, I would assume that it would end at midnight. Plus travel time.
I don't think they were trying to take advantage; if anything, as you stated, they've always cut their nights short when you guys watch their kids. It sucks that they had to leave early, and really, how were they supposed to know how long it would last?
It's not worth a big to-do over. You had six months' notice; if your husband had work the next day, then he should've stayed at home while you watched the kids, or they could've dropped the kids at your place. Lesson learned for the next time.
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MsSissy
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Re: Need Advice
I'm not sure why you wouldn't have asked what time the wedding was till. Especially knowing your DH had to be up early, it's something I would've covered as soon as they asked us to babysit.
Sorry, I think you guys were wrong.
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LSP2005
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Re: Need Advice
Posted by alli3131
IMO I think you are wrong. It was a wedding so you knew it would be a 5-6 hour event. If your DH didn't want to be up late he should have said no up front.
Just because they come home early some nights you can't assume it will always be like that.
I agree too. If your DH needed to sleep he should have laid down for a nap. There was no reason for you to call them and make them feel badly. You and your DH need to apologize. It was a wedding. I would not have expected them to come home early. It is not like a regular night out.
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| Posted 6/14/12 5:00 PM |
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Lana811
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Re: Need Advice
TY
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DumpsterBaby
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Re: Need Advice
Again, you are assuming that they would come home early.
You did not establish a timeframe.
Weddings are generally 5-6 hours. I'd be pizzed too if my sibling was babysitting and then got mad that I came home later than they ASSUMED...it's not a typical night out!
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Lana811
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Re: Need Advice
Posted by DumpsterBaby
Again, you are assuming that they would come home early.
You did not establish a timeframe.
Weddings are generally 5-6 hours. I'd be pizzed too if my sibling was babysitting and then got mad that I came home later than they ASSUMED...it's not a typical night out!
I understand but they only stayed later because they had to bring other people home. If they had babysitters at home why would you car pool?
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JenniferEver
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Re: Need Advice
Posted by alli3131
IMO I think you are wrong. It was a wedding so you knew it would be a 5-6 hour event. If your DH didn't want to be up late he should have said no up front.
Just because they come home early some nights you can't assume it will always be like that.
I agree.
Also, if you needed to leave by a certain time, you should have let them know, otherwise my assumption would be they're going to stay through the end of the wedding and it could be a very late night
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Posted by Lana811
Posted by DumpsterBaby
Again, you are assuming that they would come home early.
You did not establish a timeframe.
Weddings are generally 5-6 hours. I'd be pizzed too if my sibling was babysitting and then got mad that I came home later than they ASSUMED...it's not a typical night out!
I understand but they only stayed later because they had to bring other people home. If they had babysitters at home why would you car pool?
Either way, you guys offered to babysit. If you offer, you are offering for the entire event. If you wanted them back at a certain time, you should have asked them to be back by that time. Dh should apologize. If he needed a full night's sleep, he should have stayed home or napped.
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Lana811
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Re: Need Advice
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Posted by Lana811
Posted by DumpsterBaby
Again, you are assuming that they would come home early.
You did not establish a timeframe.
Weddings are generally 5-6 hours. I'd be pizzed too if my sibling was babysitting and then got mad that I came home later than they ASSUMED...it's not a typical night out!
I understand but they only stayed later because they had to bring other people home. If they had babysitters at home why would you car pool?
Either way, you guys offered to babysit. If you offer, you are offering for the entire event. If you wanted them back at a certain time, you should have asked them to be back by that time. Dh should apologize. If he needed a full night's sleep, he should have stayed home or napped.
TY
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Lillykat
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Re: Need Advice
I think if your DH had to be up early maybe you should have asked how long they anticipated being gone for. This would have allowed them to say that they didn't know or that they were driving another couple, or whatever then you could have decided if you should have babysat alone or with your DH. While they might usually come home early a wedding is usually a much longer event. Did you tell them that your DH had to leave at a certain time?
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