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jteach
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struggling with an issue about being a working mom
I am a teacher. Had the best summer ever with my family. My 20m dd and I are attached to the hip. I spend basically every minute with her a nd love it.
Well she is starting "school" a 2yr old program twice a week for 2 hours on thursday. I cant drop her off or pick her up. It is breaking my heart and giving me anxiety. My husband will have to attempt to do her hair pretty, attempt to take a good pic of her on her 1st day, attempt to do all the things that surround the 1st day of school, attempt to do all the things that I want to do. I only say attempt because lets face it he is a man lol.
I just want to be there for this event but there is no way I can take off the 1st week of school and my school is too far from hers to try and run there and get coverage for a period or two.
Ugh sorry, I just needed to get this all out. How do you handle missing things due to your work. I will 100% be crying on thursday at school feeling sorry for myslef and wondering if my baby girl is wondeeing why her mommy isnt there 
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Posted 9/1/12 10:35 AM  |
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MichLiz213
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Re: struggling with an issue about being a working mom
 I'm not there yet, (DS is 13 m) but I worry about this all the time. Do you leave much earlier than she does? Is she awake before you leave? Maybe you can do something special after school when you get home.
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| Posted 9/1/12 10:54 AM |
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jteach
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Re: struggling with an issue about being a working mom
Posted by MichLiz213
I'm not there yet, (DS is 13 m) but I worry about this all the time. Do you leave much earlier than she does? Is she awake before you leave? Maybe you can do something special after school when you get home.
Thanks, but I teach high school and leave my house by 630. Most mornings she isnt even up yet. Its great necause I get out early enough that when she goes to elementary school I will be able to get her off the bus but she gets out ar 12 from this program so I miss drop off and pick up
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| Posted 9/1/12 10:59 AM |
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TheNextStep
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Re: struggling with an issue about being a working mom
I'm in the same situation.
I am a teacher. DH will be dropping DD at her first day of preschool on Wed.
I'm going to have to teach him how to make a ponytail.
And although I am devastated about missing her first day
(and every 1st day), I think about how lucky I am to have months off in the summer and weeks off during the year, which is way more than my other FTWMoms have.
HTH
Hugs!
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| Posted 9/1/12 1:36 PM |
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Teachergal
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Re: struggling with an issue about being a working mom
Posted by TheNextStep
I'm in the same situation.
I am a teacher. DH will be dropping DD at her first day of preschool on Wed.
I'm going to have to teach him how to make a ponytail.
And although I am devastated about missing her first day
(and every 1st day), I think about how lucky I am to have months off in the summer and weeks off during the year, which is way more than my other FTWMoms have.
HTH
Hugs!
This is how I feel. When I start to feel bad about missing certain things, i think about how lucky I am in other respects. You can do it! You are much stronger than you think you are. 
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| Posted 9/1/12 1:50 PM |
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lyss4525
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struggling with an issue about being a working mom
You CAN take off the first week of school - I have plenty of friends (I am a teacher) who have missed the first DAY to take their child to kindergarten. You don't have to make excuses - use a personal day and go.
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| Posted 9/1/12 2:04 PM |
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KPanas
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Kathy
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struggling with an issue about being a working mom
I am not there yet, my DD is only 10mths but it is something I think about all the time. I pass by an elementary school on my way to work and I cry thinking about how I won't be able to drop her off or pick her up from school. Ugh being a working mom is so not for me :(
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| Posted 9/1/12 2:15 PM |
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Jacksmommy
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Re: struggling with an issue about being a working mom
Posted by lyss4525
You CAN take off the first week of school - I have plenty of friends (I am a teacher) who have missed the first DAY to take their child to kindergarten. You don't have to make excuses - use a personal day and go.
This! I have several coworkers that have taken off for their dc first day. In my district, you can't use it as a personal day, they were just "sick". DS meet the teacher day is Wednesday. DH is taking off from work. I will wake him up early that day, get him ready, and love on him until I have to leave for work. Same thing Monday on his first day of school. There are so many benefits to being a teacher that outweigh this for me!
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| Posted 9/1/12 2:52 PM |
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jteach
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Re: struggling with an issue about being a working mom
I know I CAN take off but I would not. I dont thi k it is fair toy students and the guilt would eat at me lol. Maybe I will feel more comfortable doing this on her 1st day of kindeegarten but not 2yr old preschool lol.
And thanks for the reminder about all the perks us teachers get. Sometimes you need someone else to put thinhs into perspective. Just gonna ask dh to take a ton of pics for me and save my sick days for motjers day parties and holiday celebrations 
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| Posted 9/1/12 3:00 PM |
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Michmouse
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Re: struggling with an issue about being a working mom
Hi sweetie- Ugh.... I feel your pain. I am also about to leave DS after a wonderful summer to return to teaching. My advice to you is to call in sick. I missed one pre school event with DS and it still bothers me today. After that missed event I have taken time off for any and all events. Yes, I understand your devotion to your job but also know how you are going to feel if you miss this special day.
Good luck and listen to your heart.
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| Posted 9/1/12 3:37 PM |
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butterfly20
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struggling with an issue about being a working mom
just remember, you'll take off for her first day of kindergarten. Plus you could still do her hair before you have to go off to work, and take a picture with her at home.
I guess it doesn't bother me as much since my son started full day daycare while he was still a newborn. Now he's three and the full day preschool officially starts a new school year Tuesday, I got excited that he got a school supply list but didn't even think about dressing him up or taking pictures.
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| Posted 9/1/12 3:55 PM |
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whyteach
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Re: struggling with an issue about being a working mom
I could ave written this myself. I am a teacher and struggle with the same thing. My DD is starting kindergarten this year. She's been in the same school but I would still love to be there on her first day. My husband will go. Luckily, I have a very understanding principal. She has let me take off or leave early to make all classroom parties.
I struggle with not being able to do other things like be an active member of the PTA and not go to meetings at her school because their are all during the day.
I guess, we as working moms just do the best we can. But I completely understand where you are coming from!
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| Posted 9/1/12 9:40 PM |
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