Preggo w/ #2?

I just found out that DH and I will be due with our on my DS 2nd birthday. All of the sudden I'm overwhelmed with...

How can I love another baby like I love my DS?

I can't imagine my DS as a big brother when he is still my at 16 months

How am I going to celebrate DS 2nd birthday and make him feel special

How am I going to move DS out of his room and give it to

HOW CAN I AFFORD 2 KIDS?!?!?!?!?!

Thanks for letting me put it out there!

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I have 4 boys! My first 2 are 17 months apart. I was sooo worried about loving the new baby like I loved my first....I cant even explain what happens, but its like your heart grows when each new baby comes. Not only do you love the new baby, but you love your first even more when you see them love and interact with the new baby.

It is an indescribable, amazing, life changing feeling....and you won't know the extent of it until your new baby is here

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Thank you!

Preggo w/ #2?

UGH I feel the same way. I am 5 weeks with #2 and I am so obsessed with my dd who will be 2 next month that I cant imagine being able to feel the same way about another child. But I do know that as soon as that baby is in our arms we will realize how it IS possible. And I cant wait to see my dd in the role of big sister. Going to be pretty awesome :)

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Congrats!!! I am also preggo with #2 and DS is almos 16 months. I am very nervous about being able to love 2 babies like I love DS but my Mom and Sister tell me it is something that just happens. I also feel bad for DS because I feel like he didn't have too much time to be alone and I don't want him to feel bad. However, everyone tells me that even though it will be hard at first everything will just fall into place like it did when DS arrived. Lots of hugs!! You can do it!

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I hope this helps coming from a mom who thought the same things when #2 came, but now we're on #3!

Posted by BabyHopes15


How can I love another baby like I love my DS? You will. Love multiplies. You will see how much your DS loves his new sibling and that will make your love for both of them grow. You may love each one in different ways, but you will love them both.

I can't imagine my DS as a big brother when he is still my at 16 months. We had our DD when DS was 18 months old, he definitely looked more like a toddler when DD came along, but them being so close in age is great. They are best friends, and DS tells DD all the time that he loves her. (Makes my heart melt).

How am I going to celebrate DS 2nd birthday and make him feel special . Our DC will be born around DD's 3rd baby, so I'm kind of in the same spot. I plan to have the birthday party a week before her birthday and celebrate as normal. She will feel special because it is her day and all her family will be there. That is what matters.

How am I going to move DS out of his room and give it to . Do you have to move DS out of his room? If you can make another room the babies room, do that. If you want to keep that room as the nursery, you can have DS pick out stuff for his new big boy room.

HOW CAN I AFFORD 2 KIDS?!?!?!?!?! You just do, honestly, it wasn't difficult cost wise to go from 1 child to 2 children. My kids share a meal when we go out to dinner, DS is now potty trained, so that saves a little money on diapers. Each kid is off of formula-obviously. You just make it work.

Thanks for letting me put it out there!

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Congratulations!!!!! I am in the same boat, although we were actively trying for almost 1 year. Even though we were prepared and trying, it still scares me. We are blessed with twins this time, so that is making me even more nervous!!!! My DS will be 2 next month, so I will be a 3 under 3 Mommy. He is my entire world and part of me feels so guilty about bringing two new babies into this home, but I know that everything will work out. I love my siblings so much, and I'm so happy that I am able to give my DS life long friends.

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Posted by want2beamom

I have 4 boys! My first 2 are 17 months apart. I was sooo worried about loving the new baby like I loved my first....I cant even explain what happens, but its like your heart grows when each new baby comes. Not only do you love the new baby, but you love your first even more when you see them love and interact with the new baby.

It is an indescribable, amazing, life changing feeling....and you won't know the extent of it until your new baby is here

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Posted by want2beamom

I have 4 boys! My first 2 are 17 months apart. I was sooo worried about loving the new baby like I loved my first....I cant even explain what happens, but its like your heart grows when each new baby comes. Not only do you love the new baby, but you love your first even more when you see them love and interact with the new baby.

It is an indescribable, amazing, life changing feeling....and you won't know the extent of it until your new baby is here

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I had the same feelings you did. I am only 22 weeks with my 3rd and my first are twins so I can't say how it will turn out but I think your heart just grows so you can share more love.

I worry about all the things you do money, time, the craziness but I feel blessed and I know it will all work out!

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It just happens. I think every mom has that worry..but it's love at first sight all over again. Its amazing!! And wait till you see the two of them together...its just the best. Congrats to you!

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I'm in the exact same boat - due with DD2 on DD1's second birthday (in two weeks!!)

I'm not worried about loving another child like I did with DD1. I just know I will.

It was hard to imagine DD1 as a big sister, but I have friends with little babies that we see fairly often. DD adores them. She only wants to give them kisses and "make nice." Seeing her with other kids made me realize how wonderful she'd be with a in her family.

We made DD's second birthday party on 11/4 even though her actual birthday isn't until the 30th. She had a lot of fun and got some cute gifts.

We also had to move DD1's room. I did it 4 months before my EDD. I wanted to make sure I had more than enough time between the move and the new baby so she didn't associate the two events. We basically bribed her. She loves Sesame Street, so we set up a room with that theme. She loves her new room, STTN the first night she was in there, and barely goes into the old nursery.

As far as money goes... we'll just figure it out. My girls will have everything they need, including two parents that love them. Your two kids will have the same, and that's what matters most!!!

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Thank you all for this! I'm hoping to get preggo w/ #2 soon, and DD1 is 19 months old. I am terrified that I won't love the next one as much as DD... I'm totally obsessed with her (a SAHM and really so obsessed, it's unreal). I am also still nursing #1 & she gets up 1 or 2 times a night to eat still, so I'm not sure how that'll work.

I'm also upset that I waited to have kids till later. I'm now 31 1/2, and I want 4 kids (but will prob wind up having 3 so that I can be done by 35)... I'd really like them more spaced out so I can enjoy each one individually, but I feel the biological clock. So, there's that regret/anxiety about not being able to enjoy my DD & later kid(s) individually as much.

I know it'll all work out, but, oh the stress.

Also, I'm nervous about getting sick while preggo & still having to care for #1. How will I change her poopie diapers if smells get to me? Will I make her scared to brush her teeth if she sees me gagging on my toothbrush, as I didn when I was preggo with her?

Oye oye oye.

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Congrats!!

I am having the same feelings..how can have any more love for the twins I am expecting when I love my DS more than anything?! And also I am thinking HOW am I going to afford 3 kids??

As everyone keeps telling me..."it will all work out".

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i found out i was pregnant with DS when DD was only 18 months old! i seriously almost and i cried...DS pregnancy was a surprised we wanted to wait at least 6-8 more months before trying for baby #2...but then very quickly i realized how great it would be to have my kids so close in age (2 years and 2 months apart) as far as the loving 2 kids the same part of your concern....you just DO...i love both the same from the start. it was such a great experience to have DD have a baby brother so young they were able to grow together and now they are 5 and 7 years old and DS started kindergarten and loves being in the same school as his big sister!

as far as the birthday celebrations ...i always made sure each child had their own seperate birthdays, this was never an issue my kids each always felt special on their day...
the part about moving rooms....your child is still young enough to adjust and it may take time but its better to move him now than when is older i think IMO...
as far as the affording it part...i clipped lots of coupons shopped in bulk at bj's wholesale, i did not take a family vacation for 2 years (also due to the fact both kids were just so little fly anywhere or still taking scheduled naps) holidays were great i got both kids alot of stuff to share which saved $ (of course they got individual gifts but it was nice to buy toys both could use) family helped with spoiling both kids they always bought clothes so i never had to worry about that....just dont stress too much, it all somehow works out! now my concern is if i am currently pregnant with baby NUMBER 3! someone please tell me how THAT works LOL wont know for another week or so to test ....good luck to you, believe me when i say its amazing having 2 children and seeing them grow up together!

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Thank you again...I find comfort knowing others feel the same and we'll make it through when we see

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the thought of not loving anything more than my DS never even crossed my mind!


I guess its because I grew up an only child and always longed for a sibling. When I found out I was pg with #2, I felt so good because I was giving DS a sibling....the ultimate gift.

Of course I worry about how we will handle it, finances, work, etc....but overall I just always felt like the reason we were even having a second one was for the benefit of the first. There is NOTHING wrong with only children....I've had a great life, but since my husband and I are both only's, I felt that I just had to provide more family for my DS...no cousins or anything. I know this is the right thing for our family.