Thanks!

thanks!

Message edited 12/3/2012 11:26:19 AM.

Very in need of help with family member (regular poster in hiding)

wow. i truly understand what you are going through. I think you need to find it in you to pull him aside as his sister and talk to him. try to have a heart to heart with him. you are never going to know if you can help if you don't attempt to talk to him. maybe that is what he needs..........it's hard, believe me i know because i struggle with the same thing. but something is going to have to be said eventually. And if you put it off it will just get worse. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. but i think you have to take time and think about the right way to go about trying to help him. does he do drugs or drink? sometimes that plays a big part in it.

Re: Very in need of help with family member (regular poster in hiding)

Thanks!

Message edited 12/3/2012 11:26:40 AM.

Very in need of help with family member (regular poster in hiding)

how about if you did it as a family? sort of like an intervention?

Re: Very in need of help with family member (regular poster in hiding)

The thing is truly CRAZY people dont know they are crazy and refuse to get help & will act out extremely aggressive if you suggest such a thing. This sorta reminds me of my FIL and SIL who suffer for some sort of similar mental illness. My FIL 65 yr old con man because he refused to work most of his life even when raising children , he even looks physically crazy and his life was mostly consume by OCDs & freaking out about them along with a history of outburst of scarey rage episodes. I guess the exception was he could put up a front and seem at times to act kinda like a semi-normal, traditional dad/FIL/grandfather here and there (making it easy to cave in to his deception) but most of the time he was a complete nutjob and from what we know of from his family that he has been like this since childhood. It lead him to basicly becoming homeless. Biggest mistake was trying to help him or giving him a chance to be part of our life when he seemed to calm down a bit . Well this past October while my husband was at work , he held me and my children hostage- saying he was pretty much going to kill me and kidnap my kids. He's hiding in the woods & living in a car on the run now. It was the worst day of my life and I still am suffering severe PTSD from it. What lesson I learned it, if someone has been clearly crazy for that long and they cannot acknowledge it meaning they cannot or will not get help if that is even possible- just LET GO of them because you never know how it can backfire on you. It's a good chance of them not only verbally assaulting you if you rub them the wrong way but they can physically attack you or worse. It's sad and it sucks to have to do it but some people you just cannot help and you have to protect yourself especially if you have a family of your own.

Message edited 12/3/2012 12:19:32 AM.