Was officially discharged from my RE/RI yesterday...

It was a very bittersweet moment, especially since we've been w/ him for years & thru multiple losses. It's odd & sounds so dumb, but I am feeling kind of homeless.
I gave him a big hug & kiss & continuously thanked him-and of course told him not to think he was done hearing from me by any means! He laughed & said that was ok w/ him.
Hoping after seeing more of my OB & peri that I will start to feel more certain. I don't know either one or their staff well enough to feel like I belong... Guessing this is just fear from my past history. Anyone else feel this way?

Re: Was officially discharged from my RE/RI yesterday...

Different situation, but this is how I felt last year when I spent so many years with my previous RE and then made the (VERY HARD) decision to go for second opinions. It felt so odd walking into different waiting rooms... sitting on front of a different man dishing out our case... This was during the time we were looking for a surrogate and having no luck, so second opinions for me was kind of grasping at straws. Ultimately, when we found a surrogate and were back to using my RE, literally the words I said to my dh was that we were "home again". Then after more stuff went down, the surrogate didn't work out, and I cycled at SIRM, there was definitely a sense of comparing every little thing and the "ohhh so this is how it's done here... " moments...

Like I said, obviously different situation... but I know who and what you're referring to and when you're with the same place for so many years, you develop a comfort zone. It's also no secret to any of his patients (present or former) that he has that charm he pulls you under his wings with and truly DOES care about his patients. These days, that's rare.

Just remember that you never walk this path alone. You have me Hopefully I could be the familiar face to get you by.. and I can assure you I'm someone else who truly cares too.

Re: Was officially discharged from my RE/RI yesterday...

Posted by PennyCat

Different situation, but this is how I felt last year when I spent so many years with my previous RE and then made the (VERY HARD) decision to go for second opinions. It felt so odd walking into different waiting rooms... sitting on front of a different man dishing out our case... This was during the time we were looking for a surrogate and having no luck, so second opinions for me was kind of grasping at straws. Ultimately, when we found a surrogate and were back to using my RE, literally the words I said to my dh was that we were "home again". Then after more stuff went down, the surrogate didn't work out, and I cycled at SIRM, there was definitely a sense of comparing every little thing and the "ohhh so this is how it's done here... " moments...

Like I said, obviously different situation... but I know who and what you're referring to and when you're with the same place for so many years, you develop a comfort zone. It's also no secret to any of his patients (present or former) that he has that charm he pulls you under his wings with and truly DOES care about his patients. These days, that's rare.

Just remember that you never walk this path alone. You have me Hopefully I could be the familiar face to get you by.. and I can assure you I'm someone else who truly cares too.

Was officially discharged from my RE/RI yesterday...

anyway youve both made it more than obvious who your doctor is (there really is no other RI anyway ). i know EXACTLY how you feel leaving him. but just remember he is always there for you even if you graduate!! when i was on hospital bedrest before delivering my daughter i emailed him asking him all sorts of questions and he got back to me as if I had just left his office. he always cares. i even emailed him in the morning right before my emergency c-section! I still talk to him maybe once a month or so and I graduated over 2 years ago! i do still feel "homeless" now, my OB was OK but there is really just no comparison. for the rest of your life you will compare every other doctor to him. that's just what happens when you're lucky enough to meet someone who does things differently than the rest (in a positive way of course). i pretty much consider him part of my family now.

congrats on graduating, its a big milestone!!

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