CIO - Progressive Waiting Approach

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WHO GIVES A POO WHO GIVES A FUDGE !!

CIO - Progressive Waiting Approach - GREAT SUCESSSSSSS!

I had read and put in my notebook Jenn627 experience. Thanks for sharing!!!!

Here's mine.

I EBF my tiny tot who is 5.5months. I also pump for daycare. Since she was 8 weeks I started the routine after bath time(depending on the night) I read and nurse her at 8pm. That could last 15-20mins. I would put her in her crib. At that age she would wake up twice for a feedings but as weeks went on she she would wake up once and then poof she started sttn. Maybe once in a while she would wake up but I would just nurse her and she would go back to sleep in 5-10mins.

For some strange reason a little over a week ago she stopped sttn and would wake up once. No big deal. Then she started waking up twice. Then three times!! I didn't make a big stink about because I thought she might be going through a growth spurt so I didnt want to deny her any food. Growth spurt my ass. She's been using me to soothe. This is a big no no for me. I say for ME because Montessorri (which I love to death) is very big on self soothing. I don't want it to be one way at daycare and another way at home.

Night one - Nice bath. Started nursing and reading to her at 8pm. At 8:20pm I put her in her crib. Here's when the fun starts.lol
A little after 12:15am she started crying Did the 3, 5, 7, 10, 10, etc. until a little after 2am when she finally fell asleep and slept til 630am. It seems long but it really wasn't This is because she did soothe herself a few times and would fall asleep for a few minutes. Once that happened I needed to RESTART THE CLOCK. I did the stern voice which wasn't to hard because at that time my voice is shot.lol I did change her diaper at one point but I can't remember the time. DH is a very good sleeper so he would wake up every 30mins saying WE SHOULD GIVE HER A BOTTLE. I said in a very stern voice NO.lol Good thing is her cries weren't very hard. No tears. I feel it went very well.

Night two- Started nursing and reading to her at 8pm. Put her in her crib at almost 830pm. She woke up a little after 12am. Did the 5 minutes, 7, 10, . This time it took about 20mins. When I went in the last time she stayed quiet for a few seconds looking at me with this face. ummmm why are you speaking to me that way? lol She slept til 630am

Night three- Started nursing and reading to her at 8pm. Put her in her crib at 830pm. I HAD TO WAKE HER UP AT 6:40AM FOR DAYCARE. At 5:45 I heard her making some sounds and she was moving around in her crib but she soothed herself back to sleep.

I'm sure I will need to do this going foward but knowing that it works is GREAT!!

Method pinned in the mom support thread at the top of this page.

EDITED FROM ORIGINAL POST BY SUMLYNMAD:

this is the progressive waiting approach...

so, nite one:
progression is 3 minutes, 5, 7, 10, 10, 10, 10....

nite 2:
5 minutes, 7, 10, 13, 13, 13, 13....

nite 3:
7 minutes, 10, 13, 15, 15, 15....

nite 4 (usually not needed)
10, 13, 15, 17, 17, 17....

progress as such if needed for more than 4 nites...

these times simply mean this:

when DD/DS starts to cry, look at your watch, after the 3 minute mark, go in, tell them in a STERN voice "mommy's here, i love you, but its time for nite nite...its nite nite time, ill see you in the morning, mommys here...."

Do not stay in the room for longer than 1-2 minutes...the point is to reassure them that you are not abandoning them...and I say STERN voice bc, well, dont use your mommy voice, that soft voice that they love so much...be stern and matter of fact....

the crying will probably intensify as you leave the room, but look at your watch again as u leave, and you wait until they have been crying for 5 minutes before you go in again....repeat at 7 minutes, 10 10 10....etc...

BUT, and this is a HHHHUUUUGGGEEEEE but....

If, at any time, they stop crying or start to whimper, do not go in!! Even if you are due to go in, don't- this is a sign they are soothing themselves, which is what you want....

say you are on a 10 minute wait, and at 7 minutes they stopped crying, but a minute later, started crying again, this does not mean wait 2 minutes and go in...this means, you RESET the CLOCK!!! Make sure they are crying the full amount of time....

and thats that, continue with nite 2, and for me, nite 3 was a breeze....

Posted 1/16/13 9:29 AM