Anyone planning not to tell family when water breaks?

I know everyone has their own comfort zone in regards to hospital visitors. I don't mind visitors later, but I will not be able to deal with people in the waiting room while I'm in labor. Anyone else feel this way? What are your plans then to inform people.....I'm thinking the first communication will be to say that the baby is here.

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I didn't tell anyone but my BFF when I went into labor with my DC1. I didn't tell my parents I was in labor until I needed a c-section.

I am hoping for a vbac this time, and I plan on doing the same.

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I pretty much have no choice but to tell my MIL and my parents....My MIL lives next door, and my parents will either be staying with us or still in Alaska, so it won't be a choice either way!! FIL will be told just so he doesn't feel left out, he is planning to be here when the baby is born, (lives in Florida)....Just as long as they don't continuously bombard me in my room, I'll be fine with it!!

Anyone planning not to tell family when water breaks?

All of our family lives at least 2 hours away, so we'll probably make the call when I'm admitted to the hospital. We did the same thing with my first, and figured it would still give both of our parents enough time to travel up. Well, I ended up having a pretty quick labor and dd was born before either of our parents got on the road. We had a couple of hours to ourselves with our little munchkin before we had any visitors and it just worked out perfectly!

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I would like to not tell anyone but unfortunately I think we'll need to have ILs come get the dog, so they will have to know. But I may tell everyone we are not having any visitors until the baby is actually here. I do NOT want anyone but DH and maybe my sister (if she can make it) at the hospital for the actual birth. And I want at least a bit of time after baby arrives before being bombarded by people.

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My mom and dad will have DS #1 so they obviously will know. My family knows my wishes in regards to visitors. I've told my parents to make it well known that I do not want a lot of visitors in the hospital. I'm ok with mom, dad, siblings and my closest friends. I will be having twins and am already overwhelmed by that and trying to breastfeed. I do not want too much excitement and people coming and overstaying their welcome. People are going to have to wait to visit me for small amounts of time at home when things calm down a bit. I do not want to feel like I have to entertain people. DS #1 was born out of state and it was so nice just having DH, my mom and one of my best friends visit in the hospital.

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I will be telling family but I know they won't be coming to the hospital (except for our parents) until after the baby is born anyway. I don't really expect anyone other than parents to be the ones in the waiting room and even then, I plan on having my dh give them the word that it's coming closer because otherwise they could be waiting a LONG time.

Anyone planning not to tell family when water breaks?

If you dont want visitors, try not to tell anyone when you go into labor. I very clearly stated that I did NOT want anyone waiting for me while I was in labor. People told me I was silly, that I wouldn't care when the time came.

Well, as my legs went into the stirrups for active labor . . . in walks a nurse saying my ILS were there and would like to come in. I said ABSOLUTELY not. . . and then DH had to go out to talk to them. . .then, as I pushed for over three hours I DID think about them and kept panicking that they were sitting out there waiting for me. Maybe its crazy, but I felt a LOT of pressure.
Finally, they left and DD was born so they had to come back anyway. . . .they tried to tease me about me making them come back but I let them know that they didn't respect my wishes. It still makes me upset.

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It doesnt bother me at all! If anything it adds to the excitment in sharing the great news. We are staying team so I think it will be hard for everyone to NOT want to be there and wait to hear if it's a boy or girl.

Anyone planning not to tell family when water breaks?

With DS I did not want anyone in the delivery room other than DH and I made that very clear. I thought labor was going to be very long so we told ILs and my mom not to come to the hospital until I was 8 cm. My water broke at 3:30am and I called my mom and Dh called the ILs. I progressed a lot faster than I thought I would and was pushing by the time they got to the hospital. It kind of worked out perfectly. Just be clear with your wishes and hope they listen!

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This is something I have struggled with too. I don't want to be that person who calls people saying its time just to find out it was a false alarm.
We would like to wait until the baby is born, but to be honest we said we were going to wait until 10w to tell our families and 10 min after BFP everyone knew!

Anyone planning not to tell family when water breaks?

I keep thinking about not telling anyone until after he is born. Our parents are 4 of the most annoying people in the world and I don't know if I want to deal with them. I told them originally we would call them when we went into labor but please don't come up until after DS is born. My dad told me I didn't own the hospital and it wasn't my decision. And MIL said "we'll just come and sit in the lobby and you won't know". This might be a game time decision.

We went up to the hospital when SIL was in labor. We were there for almost 24 hours and it was a long process. I sent DH and FIL home to rest and get some sleep and I stayed with my MIL (SIL and her are really close and I didn't think it was right if she were to leave). I was exhausted and SIL was so out of it after delivery that I felt bad being in the room and visiting so soon.

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We will not tell anyone but inlaws and my parents who will have our DC #1 and dog. We were bombarded with people at the hospital with DC #1, people we weren't even close with! People wanted text, facebook, and every update-I'm talking cm dilated! We feel it is/was a private special time that should be shared with only close family members. It was nice to spend time alone as a new family and we plan to do the same again. We will ask for less/no visitors this time! I will tell people after I give birth and they can stop by when we are home, and pick up my vacuum lol!

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we didn't tell family until after DD was born. I didn't want people in the waiting room...just dh.

Anyone planning not to tell family when water breaks?

My ILs live oos and my parents are deceased so there won't be any lurkers. My family isn't big on visiting in the hospital so I'm lucky that we'll get alone time.

Anyone planning not to tell family when water breaks?

I had my mom, dad, inlaws, SIL, brother and SIL in the waiting room. They were NOT allowed in the delivery room while I was in labor, I was sort of a ***** about it but I was in pain and did not want anyone there lol

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when my water broke we told our family that we were heading to the hospital. But as a PP said if you don't want anyone in the hospital then don't say anything until after the baby is here. I had visitors in the L&D room(parents, IL's, DH's granmda) like 10 min after I gave birth and I was so exhausted I could barely keep my eyes open.

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I don't want to tell anyone either until baby is here. The problem is that I talk to my mother so often that I'm not sure how I'll avoid it unless I go into labor at night. DH's family is oos but I'm sure he'll call or text, which irks me too. I would really love it to just be DH and I and then we can let everyone know. I definitely don't want people around the hospital but at most it would probably be my parents and maybe my cousin who is a dr and my obgyn was hers and delivered her son!