visiting relatives and leaving

When you.dh. and kids go see relatives who says its time to go?

When we see inlaws dh expects me to announce that its time
. But I expect dh to announce its time because its his family and they'll inevitably be sad that the kids are leaving even though its well past 8pm bedtime.... I'd rather he be the bearer of bad news since its his family.... if it were my family I'd abe announcing it's time to go.

Message edited 5/6/2013 12:35:35 PM.

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if it's DH family i usually give him that "look" like lets get going and he will take the cue and make the move

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Usually it's me bc DH is a yenta and can talk with everyone. I'm the one paying attention to the kids and I go based on them getting overtired or moody. We usually try to stay late or have a set time when we want to go bc we know when the kids will turn. Lol
If I see them still having fun and stimulated I'll stay a bit.
If I know it's going to be late I always bring pajamas so this way they fall asleep in the car and then carry them straight to bed.

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It's either dh or me. We always plan it out ahead of time and tell family ahead of time how late we are staying.

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Posted by blue11

if it's DH family i usually give him that "look" like lets get going and he will take the cue and make the move

visiting relatives and leaving

haha my kid, my family, my rules, my voice.

He would never say a thing. Thankfully AJ is a night owl but mostly she'll sorta set the mood.. She's old enough to tell us its 'sleepy time' or get a little cranky and we say "well there's our cue..."

I'm never rude about it. I just apologize but say we need to leave. Generally tho, this isn't an issue as AJ will sleep anywhere and in the carseat. I just learned the hard way to wake her up to SHOW her we're leaving and SHOW her the place she's gonig to wake up at. OMG we moved her once and she woke up at 1am crying for her own bed (1300 mi away) and it was horrible! live and learn!


ETA: I have to say its always easier when we are with people who have kids or have had them at one point. They 'get it' better than our single buddies.

Message edited 5/6/2013 2:20:36 PM.

visiting relatives and leaving

At my families house I will announce it usually after DH nudges me, but at his families usually I have to nudge him. It's hard though since my IL are out of state

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Posted by Linda1003

Posted by blue11

if it's DH family i usually give him that "look" like lets get going and he will take the cue and make the move

THIS!!! YOU GIVE THE LOOK..HE ANNOUNCES!!

visiting relatives and leaving

We usually follow the kids lead. We like visiting with the relatives we see so we usually stay until someone has to go to sleep.

visiting relatives and leaving

Either or. Theres no its your family you say it or its my family I say it. Its wheneva one of us wants to leave or one of us notice its time cause of dd.

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Posted by Linda1003

Posted by blue11

if it's DH family i usually give him that "look" like lets get going and he will take the cue and make the move

THIS!!! YOU GIVE THE LOOK..HE ANNOUNCES!!

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Usually me... dH would stay late to both our families if I didn't say something.

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Posted by Mariabella

Posted by Linda1003

Posted by blue11

if it's DH family i usually give him that "look" like lets get going and he will take the cue and make the move

THIS!!! YOU GIVE THE LOOK..HE ANNOUNCES!!

Same!

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We no longed see my family so dh lucked out on that.

Everyone knows 4yo bed time... but he doesn't start looking tired so it just gets stretched... plus like at 515 I'm saying we could head over then he says 615... then we are only getting in the car then.... we get there and relatives leisurely play before even ordering takeout so it's a late dinner and then cookie dough is being baked after 8pm.... so home close to 10 when he should be up in bed at 8

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It's me no matter where we go.

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99% of the time despite whomevers family we are visiting, I'm the one to say let's go. I know when my kids have had enough & its time to head out. If it was up to dh, we would stay up until bedtime.

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Posted by blue11

if it's DH family i usually give him that "look" like lets get going and he will take the cue and make the move

Re: visiting relatives and leaving

Posted by blue11

if it's DH family i usually give him that "look" like lets get going and he will take the cue and make the move

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Interesting, seems like it's the ladies that initiate departure in 90% of the cases.

visiting relatives and leaving

I tell DH what time I want to leave because DD needs to get home before we have a meltdown (ILs live 2 hours away from us) and when its time I remind him and he says okay we gotta go.

visiting relatives and leaving

Both of us. Doesn't matter whose family it is. Now that we have the baby it'll probably be whoever notices she's getting cranky first.

visiting relatives and leaving

Sometimes I say its time to go to dh then I feel like he implies I'm being rude or making a scene.... I guess he will just have to live with embarasement because dh bed time is 8pm and leaving at 8 already means bed at 830 earliest..... and no chores are getting done in the house when we are out so we still have a stack of stinky laundry

visiting relatives and leaving

Since having DS, DH has become the more vocal one when it comes to when it's time to go. DS is a horrible sleeper and if we get home even 30 minutes past his bed time, we pay for it! since then DH is much more quick to say its time to go no matter whose house we are in.