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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
I do not understand it at all.
I am doing cartwheels when the summer is over.
Having kids is fun but exhausting, school is a break for them and for us, what is there to cry over?
So silly IMO.
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by BetterVersion
I do not understand it at all.
I am doing cartwheels when the summer is over.
Having kids is fun but exhausting, school is a break for them and for us, what is there to cry over?
So silly IMO.
I don't think it's silly in the least, sorry. I don't think most moms cry every single school year, but it's quite normal to cry when a child starts kindergarten..it's just one of those "moments" I guess. Like when parents cry when their kid leaves for college or at their childs wedding..it's just a bittersweet moment I think. I'm not saying one HAS to cry, I just think it's totally normal...
It's funny because I cry and get overwhelmed for a moment but I DO relish the "me" time I get once school starts, lol. I miss them, but I also like the quiet for a few hours.
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For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
My child isn't even born yet and won't be in K for another 5 years but I'm still emotional when thinking about it. I think it's just natural... for most.
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
I was crying with happiness today. I'm so happy my daughter started school today! I did the running man I was so happy! Woo! I am. So happy she is growing up and the baby days are behind us!
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by maybebaby
Posted by BetterVersion
I do not understand it at all.
I am doing cartwheels when the summer is over.
Having kids is fun but exhausting, school is a break for them and for us, what is there to cry over?
So silly IMO.
I don't think it's silly in the least, sorry. I don't think most moms cry every single school year, but it's quite normal to cry when a child starts kindergarten..it's just one of those "moments" I guess. Like when parents cry when their kid leaves for college or at their childs wedding..it's just a bittersweet moment I think. I'm not saying one HAS to cry, I just think it's totally normal...
It's funny because I cry and get overwhelmed for a moment but I DO relish the "me" time I get once school starts, lol. I miss them, but I also like the quiet for a few hours.
No need to apologize.
Who says we all have to agree?
I think it's silly, you don't. That's awesome 
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by beachgirl
I cry for several reasons
- since I became a mom I have turned into a complete sap so I cry at a lot of things!
- I am a WAHM so I am my child's first point of contact for everything since birth - I have in home babysitters but the kids still come to me if they need comfort
- I cry because I worry - will my DS remember to go to the bathroom on time or will he continue playing until the very last minute and then he will have to wait to get the teachers attention before he can go
- I cry because it feels SO weird to me to be dropping off my child somewhere for an entire day - I know this is beyond strange to some people but I still feel its weird and my DD is going into second grade
_ I cry because I worry about someone bullying them and them having to sit all day in school scared or confused as to what is going on
- I cry for insane reasons such as "will my DS be able to open his yogurt tube and if not will snack time be over by the time the teacher can get to him"
_ I cry because when my kids fall and hurt themselves the only real source of comfort to them is me - thats just the way it is and I wont be there when that happens
_ I cry especially hard for kindergarten as its such a long day and it will be longest that my kids will have been away from me every
_ I cry now since Newtown CT as its a real worry for me that an atrocity like that could happen in my childs school
- I cry because I just LOVE these little beings to the depths of my soul and beyond and I miss them when they are gone :(
PS My kids NEVER see me cry - never, ever...I wear my sunglasses for days like this and do my crying in the parking lot and in the way home. Its all positive as far as they are concerned.
Exactly. My son will be 2 and he is watched by family but I know when he starts school it will be an emotional day.
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Iansmommy - okay you completely sent me over the edge with that poem you posted - thanks a lot glad you didn't post it this morning or I may not have been able to get through the day.
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by BetterVersion
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I do not understand it at all.
I am doing cartwheels when the summer is over.
Having kids is fun but exhausting, school is a break for them and for us, what is there to cry over?
So silly IMO.
I don't think it's silly in the least, sorry. I don't think most moms cry every single school year, but it's quite normal to cry when a child starts kindergarten..it's just one of those "moments" I guess. Like when parents cry when their kid leaves for college or at their childs wedding..it's just a bittersweet moment I think. I'm not saying one HAS to cry, I just think it's totally normal...
It's funny because I cry and get overwhelmed for a moment but I DO relish the "me" time I get once school starts, lol. I miss them, but I also like the quiet for a few hours.
No need to apologize.
Who says we all have to agree?
I think it's silly, you don't. That's awesome
We definitely don't all have to agree, I just wouldn't really refer to someone getting emotional over their kid going to school as silly. That's all. Everyone is different and has different emotions. But tears over letting go just isn't "silly" to me.
I watched my son go through years of therapy and we thought he may never be able to go to a typical school, so the morning I said goodbye as he walked into kindergarten really brought out the tears. It was just incredibly bittersweet and emotional for me.
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by BetterVersion
I do not understand it at all.
I am doing cartwheels when the summer is over.
Having kids is fun but exhausting, school is a break for them and for us, what is there to cry over?
So silly IMO.
I think because it is the first year for many, if not all of these moms. My kids are older and I am READY to send them to school and I am not even home all summer with them. I am tired of having no food in the house, tired of having a house that looks like a tornado hit it when I come home for lunch, tired of the fighting. While I love my kids, I like my quiet time too. I think it might take some moms awhile to realize that their kids are ok and that now is THEIR time to do something for themselves. It is just another step in parenting to let them go.
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by BetterVersion
I do not understand it at all.
I am doing cartwheels when the summer is over.
Having kids is fun but exhausting, school is a break for them and for us, what is there to cry over?
So silly IMO.
Silly? What is there to cry over? Bit insensitive much? 
You might be doing cartwheels, good for you, but I didn't find anything cartwheel worthy about sending my 4 yr old baby into the world without me after almost five years of being with her 24/7. It's very emotional to have one chapter of your life closing and a new one beginning. I don't find anything silly about that. Not at all. I don't need a break from her, I'd rather have her home with me. I missed her like crazy today. Silly me.
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by BetterVersion
I do not understand it at all.
I am doing cartwheels when the summer is over.
Having kids is fun but exhausting, school is a break for them and for us, what is there to cry over?
So silly IMO.
Silly? What is there to cry over? Bit insensitive much?
You might be doing cartwheels, good for you, but I didn't find anything cartwheel worthy about sending my 4 yr old baby into the world without me after almost five years of being with her 24/7. It's very emotional to have one chapter of your life closing and a new one beginning. I don't find anything silly about that. Not at all. I don't need a break from her, I'd rather have her home with me. I missed her like crazy today. Silly me.
Right there with ya. And while I do love the occasional break and "me" time, it felt very unnatural at first to send Johnny off for a full day after being home with me for all those years. It is such a short time in life when you think about it...five years to spend the days together and then they grow up like THAT. It's insane. I love watching them grow and then I wish I could just stop time. Sigh..
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
I'm a sahm and my dd is only 2.5. Just thought of her going to school brings me to tears. I'm going to be a wreck when that day comes!
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
I know, these 5 years have felt like a blink. It goes TOO fast. And while I am excited to watch her grow up it still makes me so sad that those 5 years are over. They were the BEST 5 years of my life and the only time in HER life where I will be the center of world. From today forward, she will need me just a little less each day...........she will make friends, get involved in new things, and before I know it will be looking into the eyes of a young woman ready to tackle the whole world on her own.
I try so hard to savor each moment and take it all in but it never feels like enough time. I would love to slow it all down. I was excited for her today and proud to see her take that first step into the world on her own but it tore my heart apart too. She's still my baby girl, I just don't feel ready for all of this change. I wish I could hold her close and stop the clock..........even if for only a few minutes. 
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
I will be honest, last year as DS went to kindergarten, I cried because I was nervous for him. I was nervous he wouldnt adapt, I was nervous the kids wouldnt befriend him, I was nervous he would be scared, or it would be difficult, etc. I cried the first day, and felt LOST without him for the first week.
This year I teared up, didnt really cry, because I am so proud of him. He switched schools this year, as of yesterday he didnt know anyone in his class, had never taken a bus to school, etc. I was nervous he would be anxious about it but he didnt even look back, and yesterday I actually had to go on the bus in the afternoon to get him off. He was so deep in conversation with a new friend he didnt notice the bus was sitting in front of his house! SO I am super Proud of the person he is becoming. I am proud that this kid who has a strong desire to learn and knows school is the place for that, takes on new challenges head on.
Then I walked in to my quiet house with my 2yo and soaked in the quiet. No begging to go somewhere, or play some game, etc,, no fighting with his brother and the tears melted away and I said "I am going to get used to this!" lol
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
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Posted by BetterVersion
I do not understand it at all.
I am doing cartwheels when the summer is over.
Having kids is fun but exhausting, school is a break for them and for us, what is there to cry over?
So silly IMO.
Silly? What is there to cry over? Bit insensitive much?
You might be doing cartwheels, good for you, but I didn't find anything cartwheel worthy about sending my 4 yr old baby into the world without me after almost five years of being with her 24/7. It's very emotional to have one chapter of your life closing and a new one beginning. I don't find anything silly about that. Not at all. I don't need a break from her, I'd rather have her home with me. I missed her like crazy today. Silly me.
It is hard but it is also good for the parents to find their own thing to do when the kids are in school. I am sure everyone did something before they had kids and you can go back to that. We as parents and women need to grow just as much as our children are growing. We can't and shouldn't stop our lives for 18 years JUST for our kids.
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by BetterVersion
I do not understand it at all.
I am doing cartwheels when the summer is over.
Having kids is fun but exhausting, school is a break for them and for us, what is there to cry over?
So silly IMO.
Two words to stop your cartwheeling.
Homework battles.
That's enough to make me want to cry.
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For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
I'm a WOHM mom with a 5 YO first grader. I cry like a baby every year because it goes by too fast. My little girl is growing up so fast and it's bitter sweet. Every year is another milestone a year closer to her becoming a "big" girl and it's hard for me. So yes I cry..like a baby.
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
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Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by BetterVersion
I do not understand it at all.
I am doing cartwheels when the summer is over.
Having kids is fun but exhausting, school is a break for them and for us, what is there to cry over?
So silly IMO.
Silly? What is there to cry over? Bit insensitive much?
You might be doing cartwheels, good for you, but I didn't find anything cartwheel worthy about sending my 4 yr old baby into the world without me after almost five years of being with her 24/7. It's very emotional to have one chapter of your life closing and a new one beginning. I don't find anything silly about that. Not at all. I don't need a break from her, I'd rather have her home with me. I missed her like crazy today. Silly me.
It is hard but it is also good for the parents to find their own thing to do when the kids are in school. I am sure everyone did something before they had kids and you can go back to that. We as parents and women need to grow just as much as our children are growing. We can't and shouldn't stop our lives for 18 years JUST for our kids.
Who said anything about stopping your life for kids??!! I have plenty of interests and things I love to do but that has NOTHING to do with the fact that it was heart wrenching to send my BABY into the world on her own for the FIRST time after being with me for FIVE YEARS. And truthfully, as much as I have things I enjoy for myself...........being a SAHM, my life is my kids right now which is why this is extra hard on me.
Will I survive? Do I have things to do when she's not here? OF COURSE. But to minimize anyone's feelings about letting their kids go for the first time is obnoxious and rude. (Not you, "BetterVersion")
I have a life of my own too but I'm still EXTREMELY sad about this chapter of my life closing. I just miss my little girl.
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
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Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by BetterVersion
I do not understand it at all.
I am doing cartwheels when the summer is over.
Having kids is fun but exhausting, school is a break for them and for us, what is there to cry over?
So silly IMO.
Silly? What is there to cry over? Bit insensitive much?
You might be doing cartwheels, good for you, but I didn't find anything cartwheel worthy about sending my 4 yr old baby into the world without me after almost five years of being with her 24/7. It's very emotional to have one chapter of your life closing and a new one beginning. I don't find anything silly about that. Not at all. I don't need a break from her, I'd rather have her home with me. I missed her like crazy today. Silly me.
It is hard but it is also good for the parents to find their own thing to do when the kids are in school. I am sure everyone did something before they had kids and you can go back to that. We as parents and women need to grow just as much as our children are growing. We can't and shouldn't stop our lives for 18 years JUST for our kids.
I can only speak for myself but bc I cry when my son starts school in no way means I have stopped my life and no longer do anything that does not center around my son.
I have a husband, a large family, a career, I have friends, I go out, I workout, I have hobbies-- that said I will cry when my baby goes to school.
He isnt my whole life but it is by far the most important part of life, the part that I protect, nuture and love more than anything on this earth so yeah I am going to shed a tear, I am not going to quit my job and home school him, I am not going to cry forever, but the first day my baby goes to school and I have to trust someone other than myself or family to care and teach him you bet youre ass I am going to cry.
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
some of us cried
some of us cheered
yep we all love our kids
Let's all move on with our lives. Those arguing step away from the keyboard.
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by DiamondGirl
Posted by afternoondelight828
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by BetterVersion
I do not understand it at all.
I am doing cartwheels when the summer is over.
Having kids is fun but exhausting, school is a break for them and for us, what is there to cry over?
So silly IMO.
Silly? What is there to cry over? Bit insensitive much?
You might be doing cartwheels, good for you, but I didn't find anything cartwheel worthy about sending my 4 yr old baby into the world without me after almost five years of being with her 24/7. It's very emotional to have one chapter of your life closing and a new one beginning. I don't find anything silly about that. Not at all. I don't need a break from her, I'd rather have her home with me. I missed her like crazy today. Silly me.
It is hard but it is also good for the parents to find their own thing to do when the kids are in school. I am sure everyone did something before they had kids and you can go back to that. We as parents and women need to grow just as much as our children are growing. We can't and shouldn't stop our lives for 18 years JUST for our kids.
I can only speak for myself but bc I cry when my son starts school in no way means I have stopped my life and no longer do anything that does not center around my son.
I have a husband, a large family, a career, I have friends, I go out, I workout, I have hobbies-- that said I will cry when my baby goes to school.
He isnt my whole life but it is by far the most important part of life, the part that I protect, nuture and love more than anything on this earth so yeah I am going to shed a tear, I am not going to quit my job and home school him, I am not going to cry forever, but the first day my baby goes to school and I have to trust someone other than myself or family care and teach him you bet youre ass I am going to cry.
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
.... nothing to see here...........
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by MrsDrMatt
I just do not understand why some people need to justify with great detail and passion their thoughts/opinion to "internet people".
Because this is forum where people ask questions and others answer.
Probably the same reason you feel the need to keep stating your opinion that you don't feel we should do it 
If it means so little to you and you truly don't care don't read the thread.
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Re: For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...
Posted by DiamondGirl
Posted by MrsDrMatt
I just do not understand why some people need to justify with great detail and passion their thoughts/opinion to "internet people".
Because this is forum where people ask questions and others answer.
Probably the same reason you feel the need to keep stating your opinion that you don't feel we should do it
If it means so little to you and you truly don't care don't read the thread.
You are right in certain aspects. The long passionate responses are what I am talking about.
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I get the sadness, I really do. I am just saying that some moms say that they have no clue what they will do without their kids around. I can think of a MILLION things I could do with 7 hours of free time. lol.
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