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Lillykat
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WhatNow
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Re: am I being overly sensitive...esp for parents of food allergies...please do not quote. how to handle
I am probably not much help because my own kids have no allergies, although I did when I was a child, but there is a girl in my son's class who has severe allergies.
Her mom is one of the class moms and the little girl has never missed a party, outside or inside the classroom. Her mom is always there with an alternative and the little girl is always happy and totally included. I have never ONCE heard even an inkling of anyone making fun of her food!
If I were in your shoes, I would insist that while it is MY responsibility to provide my child with the safe alternative of whatever food is being served at the event, it is THEIR responsibility to make sure it is served to her in a safe and friendly environment.
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| Posted 9/12/13 8:42 AM |
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LSP2005
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Re: am I being overly sensitive...esp for parents of food allergies...please do not quote. how to handle
If it were my kid I would pick another troop or frankly drop it all together. They are not accommodating your child's needs and it almost seems as if they are purposely picking activities that she cannot join. It really seems awful and I would not want to subject my kid to this.
Also what is up with the other kids saying they won't eat her cupcakes. Frankly, these kids seem mean and have to be learning it from their parents.
My DS has a banana allergy. I have developed allergies since delivering him and every person who has a party has always checked with me to make sure there is something he/I can eat. My DD has a mild egg allergy and we have done the egg challenge to the point where she can eat a little bit of an egg and be ok but we are still asked. I do the same and provide allergy friendly things for guests of my party. I specifically pick items that everyone can eat. And if it is so severe I get something personal for that kid that is pre-wrapped so they don't feel left out.
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| Posted 9/12/13 9:14 AM |
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computergirl
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Re: am I being overly sensitive...esp for parents of food allergies...please do not quote. how to handle
Posted by LSP2005
If it were my kid I would pick another troop or frankly drop it all together. They are not accommodating your child's needs and it almost seems as if they are purposely picking activities that she cannot join. It really seems awful and I would not want to subject my kid to this.
Also what is up with the other kids saying they won't eat her cupcakes. Frankly, these kids seem mean and have to be learning it from their parents.
I agree with this. Sometimes an activity is just not a good fit for various reasons, and it sounds like these girls and these leaders are just not nice. We have no allergies in our family so I don't have experience with this, but I REALLY empathize with you and your DD and I don't think your DD should have to deal with this crap.
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| Posted 9/12/13 9:24 AM |
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BookMom
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Re: am I being overly sensitive...esp for parents of food allergies...please do not quote. how to handle
Posted by LSP2005
If it were my kid I would pick another troop or frankly drop it all together. They are not accommodating your child's needs and it almost seems as if they are purposely picking activities that she cannot join. It really seems awful and I would not want to subject my kid to this. .
I agree. My ds has a severe milk allergy. His teacher always offers an alternative but. It drives me crazy when I find out that everyone had ice cream or smoothies. I have no problem sending in alternatives for a party but I am not a mind reader to know when they are.
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| Posted 9/12/13 9:27 AM |
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KarenK122
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am I being overly sensitive...esp for parents of food allergies...please do not quote. how to handle
I would switch her out to a new troop immediately. It is obvious that they are not looking out for your child's best interest and I wouldn't want to leave her in their care. I also would report them to the Girl Scouts.
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| Posted 9/12/13 10:06 AM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: am I being overly sensitive...esp for parents of food allergies...please do not quote. how to handle
Can you go over their heads to ask for help? I hate that your only alternative is to pull her.
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| Posted 9/12/13 10:34 AM |
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Re: am I being overly sensitive...esp for parents of food allergies...please do not quote. how to handle
Posted by LSP2005
If it were my kid I would pick another troop or frankly drop it all together. They are not accommodating your child's needs and it almost seems as if they are purposely picking activities that she cannot join. It really seems awful and I would not want to subject my kid to this.
Also what is up with the other kids saying they won't eat her cupcakes. Frankly, these kids seem mean and have to be learning it from their parents.
ITA! They sound like mean mommies. I would find her another troop, she can't be the only child with food allergies.
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| Posted 9/12/13 11:18 AM |
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BargainMama
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am I being overly sensitive...esp for parents of food allergies...please do not quote. how to handle
I would find another troop if you can to be honest. They don't sound like they are very accommodating at all. If you stick it out, as far as Friendly's goes, I would tell them you will make your own frozen treat at home that she is allowed to have, to earn the patch.
It also stood out to me that you had to pay $40 for your year end party. That is what the cookie money is typically used for. This troop just doesn't sound like a good fit.
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| Posted 9/12/13 11:36 AM |
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adeline27
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Re: am I being overly sensitive...esp for parents of food allergies...please do not quote. how to handle
Does your DD enjoy being there and the kids? If yes I would just always supply an alternative food for her for whatever event because chances are it will always be food she's allergic to. I do think they fail to remember to tell you to bring an alternative so I would just bring something anyway in case. If my child felt left out because of stares on what she's eating or mean girls I would take her out. Also friendlys has a watermelon sherbet drink on the menu possibly she can drink that?
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| Posted 9/12/13 11:40 AM |
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am I being overly sensitive...esp for parents of food allergies...please do not quote. how to handle
I don't think your expectations are unfair or overly sensitive. I am a Daisy leader and we have a child with food allergies- we manage to accomodate her and it's not a problem. When it's a big event for all the troops we're told if the kids with allergies should bring snacks or if special snacks will be provided. And $40 for an event is a lot of money. I would look for another troop.
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| Posted 9/12/13 11:48 AM |
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Re: am I being overly sensitive...esp for parents of food allergies...please do not quote. how to handle
I stopped reading your post at the chocolate ornaments. NONE OF THIS IS OK WITH ME. I would be pissed. I would send her with her own snack regardless of whether they have snack or not. At least as a "just in case". It sounds like these women are very rude and inconsiderate. I feel like they are treating your daughter like an outcast and would feel sad if everyone was making chocolates, eating chocolate chip cookies and "dipping" and my child wasn't. You should have been warned in advanced and asked for an alternative. Once or twice, okay NO BIG DEAL... but your post was long and they did it more than a few times. Enough is enough. Have her switched or confront the teachers and tell them this is unacceptable!!!
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| Posted 9/12/13 3:53 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: am I being overly sensitive...esp for parents of food allergies...please do not quote. how to handle
I'm so angry for you.
I agree with looking into another troop & if anyone asks why I'd say that this one does not accommodate dd's allergies.
But not only do they accommodate allergies, it seems like they are very food oriented. Like ridiculously so.
A badge for eating ice cream? really?? Chocolate ornaments for parents? How about an art project? I get that they have to make dinner but they need to change the menu.
Without question you should have gotten your money back as they failed to accommodate.
They suck. They could have easily picked a dessert & said no chocolate.
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DancinBarefoot
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am I being overly sensitive...esp for parents of food allergies...please do not quote. how to handle
My DD doesn't have allergies, but one of her good friends does. I had a cookie decorating party for her birthday at daycare one year. I made arrangments with the Cookie Lady to provide cookies and icing that would accommodate the allergy just so the friend could come from his class into DD's class to celebrate the birthday. I personally would expect way more from a Girl Scout troop.
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Re: am I being overly sensitive...esp for parents of food allergies...please do not quote. how to handle
Hmm. I do think it's a blatant disregard for your DD. I have to say honestly I would pull my DD from that troop. They don't sound like they are considerate, or teaching kindness or compassion, to their daisies.
Now in defense of them, she is unfortunately the only one so I don't think it's fair to the other girls either to have to avoid all things (such as the ice cream trip). Of course your DD should get the patch if she cannot attend under these circumstances IMO.
But it sounds to me like a bad situation, a bunch of heartless people who aren't even TRYING to accommodate. Your DD deserves better than that, and to me it sounds like a losing battle with people who just don't care, totally not in the spirit of girl scouts. I would hate for your child to feel so left out all the time, and since they just don't care, I think she is better off without them.
I hope you don't mind me saying this.
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Goobster
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Re: am I being overly sensitive...esp for parents of food allergies...please do not quote. how to handle
Posted by KarenK122
I also would report them to the Girl Scouts.
I was thinking this as well. But if you rather not start any kind of war, just be done with them. They are not teaching the girl scouts values clearly, so why bother?
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Karen
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Re: am I being overly sensitive...esp for parents of food allergies...please do not quote. how to handle
As a Daisy leader and a mom, I am absolutely livid for you!
I would definitely find a different troop, and 100% would not hesitate to report them. Their behavior and attitude towards your daughter is absolutely disgusting and they should be ashamed of themselves. What kind of example are they setting??? Clearly their lack of empathy is rubbing off on the girls and for that reason I would report them.
I am fuming for you!
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