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I believe the programs at Cohen's offer significant parenting training.

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My son was classified with SPD for preschool services. His behaviors were identical to what you are describing with your DC. His behaviors decreased with OT and PT. But overall, maturity helped the most.

He was diagnosed with ADHD last year. I was fully prepared for this diagnosis since I have known since before he was two where it would lead. I tried the no med route more holistic approach for a bit. But in the end, my DS needs medication! Why should I make it more of a struggle for him?

We tried one med and it didn't work! Got it right with the second one. He is on the lowest dose and feeling great!

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Thanks for responding. He had a HUGE meltdown today when I dropped him off at school and it was very upsetting.

I called the school back and had a long talk with the director---I had to apologize because both her and the aide there this morning saw how upset both he and I were.

I explained about his behaviors at home and she indicated that they are starting to see stuff with him there too now, I guess since the honeymoon period is over now more or less.

When I picked him up today, my ILs said he was super tough all day long and wouldn't nap despite exhaustion. He feel asleep on the way home thankfully and is sleeping now.

I did complete all the paperwork today for the behavioral services dept at Cohen's and scanned it over so hopefully we'll have an appt soon.

There was an ADHD survey attached too and he seems to meet A LOT of the criteria that leans towards that kind of diagnosis.

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Bumping this again because he continues to have some huge meltdowns that are getting worse involving the clothing.

Over the weekend we stopped some place for dinner and he was bouncing all over the place, not sitting still. At one point, he spilled his drink and because "his pants got wet" he started taking them off in public.

Today DH dropped him off at school and after fighting us with getting dressed, he started to strip there.

I've been in touch with the OT and she is going to set up a sensory diet for us and I have been in touch with Cohen's but they aren't seeing anyone till APRIL.

Do you ladies think I should go BACK to the private psychologist? Request a meeting with the school? Both?

I'm so lost and DH and I are on edge which of course doesn't help the situation at all.

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I get the pants getting wet part...a lot of typical children would do that as well. For things like that I am a big advocate of being proactive. I always have extra clothes with me and there are extra clothes at school. If DD gets wet or too dirty she knows she can change them and just her knowing she has the chance to change cut down tremendously on the tantrums. (well for that reason anyway : ) ).

I would definitely reach out to the OT and figure out some sort of desensitizing program. Have you tried brushing and compressions? Have you asked your son what is bothering him about the clothes? Are the itchy, do the tags bother him, is it the material. You may need to adjust what he is wearing so he is comfortable.

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Bumping this again because he continues to have some huge meltdowns that are getting worse involving the clothing.

Over the weekend we stopped some place for dinner and he was bouncing all over the place, not sitting still. At one point, he spilled his drink and because "his pants got wet" he started taking them off in public.

Today DH dropped him off at school and after fighting us with getting dressed, he started to strip there.

I've been in touch with the OT and she is going to set up a sensory diet for us and I have been in touch with Cohen's but they aren't seeing anyone till APRIL.

Do you ladies think I should go BACK to the private psychologist? Request a meeting with the school? Both?

I'm so lost and DH and I are on edge which of course doesn't help the situation at all.

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I would try to work with an OT who specializes in the sensory system. It sounds like your son may be challenged with self regulation. When a 'sense" is overstimulated, it can be difficult to ground yourself, calm down, and just function (goes hand in hand with executive function/motor plan). Your son's tactile sense (his skin) is appearing to be overstimulated (hypersensitive). This feeling may be more intense due to the weather change and perhaps his skin is dry.

An OT may introduce a brushing protocol/joint compressions, as Karen suggested. You may want to also lather your son's skin with lotion so there is a barrier between his skin and his clothing. This will also help any type of dryness.

Epsom salt baths are great for detoxification, his body may be on overload. Changing certain things in the diet can also help with self regulation, sensory integration and smooth skin (eczema is an autoimmune response and it can affect neurotransmitters)

A psychologist may work on cognitive therapy techniques but that will not alleviate the cause. Sensory integration therapy when done well can inhibit reflexes and help the neurological system develop so that self regulation can become more imbedded. A great OT , also understands the psychological component of emotion. (afterall emotion means to move).

When it comes to self regulation outbursts, the best thing you can do is come up with a sensory plan. My one daughter absolutely needs to eat something after school, it just helps her regulate. It can be as simple as that. Transitions, change the motor plan of the brain, and therefore can be "targets' for meltdowns.

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Thank you so much ladies.

You don't know how helpful it's been to read your feedback.