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Lannasmama
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One and done?
How did you know or come to make the decision to be one and done? I've always said I wanted 2 kids. Now that i really am thinking, I'm not quite sure. My Dd will be 3 in April and she's wonderful. She's just a typical 2 year old. She has her moments, but all in all she's a good kid. Things at home couldn't be better and we are comfortable financially. I'm not sure if I want to change that. Would anyone mind sharing their thoughts? Tia!
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cantbelieveit
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Re: One and done?
I have heard people say that when they are done, they just know they are done. No question. I had a step son and then DH and I had a daughter together. She was/is a tough baby/kid. I loved her to pieces and couldn't imagine having another for so many reasons. That being said, there was still a question in my head. 7 years later, almost to the day, I had my 2nd DD and I have not one single regret in the world. My older dd is so in love, not one bit of jealousy, she is a huge help to me and my little dd (now 6 months) is such a good baby. The 7 year old is still the tough one lol. So I guess my point is that I think you will know if you are done. And if your not sure, and have the time to wait, don't rush your decision. Yes I would have like to be a little younger having another or have them closer in age, but it worked out just fine :)
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| Posted 1/18/14 7:22 AM |
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Lannasmama
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Re: One and done?
Posted by cantbelieveit
I have heard people say that when they are done, they just know they are done. No question. I had a step son and then DH and I had a daughter together. She was/is a tough baby/kid. I loved her to pieces and couldn't imagine having another for so many reasons. That being said, there was still a question in my head. 7 years later, almost to the day, I had my 2nd DD and I have not one single regret in the world. My older dd is so in love, not one bit of jealousy, she is a huge help to me and my little dd (now 6 months) is such a good baby. The 7 year old is still the tough one lol. So I guess my point is that I think you will know if you are done. And if your not sure, and have the time to wait, don't rush your decision. Yes I would have like to be a little younger having another or have them closer in age, but it worked out just fine :)
Thank you. My thing is too I'm not getting any younger! I'm 34, so I really don't feel like I have a lot of time to waste!
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NervousNell
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Re: One and done?
I believe in the "you just know".
I knew the second I found out I was pregnant that I only wanted one.
And now that DD is 3, I can say I never once wavered on that feeling.
It is so strong and I can't imagine wanting more than what I have now.
I remember telling my Dr that if I needed as C section I'd want my tubes tied and he looked at me like I was nuts because it was my first pregnancy.
I didn't have a C, but I really do want to get my tubes tied.
I really feel like you do just know.
I know that sounds vague, but for me, it's true.
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islandersgirl74
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Re: One and done?
Let me start out by saying DH and I are older. I will be 40 in a few months and DH will be 46. Our DD will be one next month. If we were both a lot younger, without a doubt I would want at least 2. But at this stage in life, I don't think it's smart for us. We had a scare at 20 weeks and honestly I think I would be terrified to be pregnant again and go through that again.
I love my daughter like I never imagined I would and I don't feel like our family is "incomplete" . I know she will grow up being close to her cousins so she will always have someone. It does make me sad when she outgrows toys or clothes that I won't have them for another baby if ours. So I guess deep down you just know.
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| Posted 1/18/14 9:31 AM |
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Vecker12
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Re: One and done?
Posted by Lannasmama
Posted by cantbelieveit
I have heard people say that when they are done, they just know they are done. No question. I had a step son and then DH and I had a daughter together. She was/is a tough baby/kid. I loved her to pieces and couldn't imagine having another for so many reasons. That being said, there was still a question in my head. 7 years later, almost to the day, I had my 2nd DD and I have not one single regret in the world. My older dd is so in love, not one bit of jealousy, she is a huge help to me and my little dd (now 6 months) is such a good baby. The 7 year old is still the tough one lol. So I guess my point is that I think you will know if you are done. And if your not sure, and have the time to wait, don't rush your decision. Yes I would have like to be a little younger having another or have them closer in age, but it worked out just fine :)
Thank you. My thing is too I'm not getting any younger! I'm 34, so I really don't feel like I have a lot of time to waste!
34? In my opinion, you have time ... but that is just my opinion. True, a second creates a little more craziness but do you want DD to be an only child and financially be OK? It is a personal choice. I was a couple of months shy of 42 when we had our second. I would have like to have her at a younger age but did not meet DH until later in life. I knew when I was younger I always wanted two kids.
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NervousNell
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Re: One and done?
Posted by Vecker12
Posted by Lannasmama
Posted by cantbelieveit
I have heard people say that when they are done, they just know they are done. No question. I had a step son and then DH and I had a daughter together. She was/is a tough baby/kid. I loved her to pieces and couldn't imagine having another for so many reasons. That being said, there was still a question in my head. 7 years later, almost to the day, I had my 2nd DD and I have not one single regret in the world. My older dd is so in love, not one bit of jealousy, she is a huge help to me and my little dd (now 6 months) is such a good baby. The 7 year old is still the tough one lol. So I guess my point is that I think you will know if you are done. And if your not sure, and have the time to wait, don't rush your decision. Yes I would have like to be a little younger having another or have them closer in age, but it worked out just fine :)
Thank you. My thing is too I'm not getting any younger! I'm 34, so I really don't feel like I have a lot of time to waste!
34? In my opinion, you have time ... but that is just my opinion. True, a second creates a little more craziness but do you want DD to be an only child and financially be OK? It is a personal choice. I was a couple of months shy of 42 when we had our second. I would have like to have her at a younger age but did not meet DH until later in life. I knew when I was younger I always wanted two kids.
Agree about the age.
I didn't even start THINKING about having my first until 35.
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