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ANewDayHasCome
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Kids and guns in the home
Tonight on 20/20 there is a really interesting show about children playing at homes where there is a gun. Both in their own homes and play dates in other homes with guns. I def plan on watching it.
They do experiment yes to see what their kids would do if the found a gun....it's scary what they actually do. I think it's important for parents to watch. Here is a preview,,,,
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ANewDayHasCome
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Kids and guns in the home
Would you let your child play in a home where you knew the parents had a gun? Would you ask parents about it before letting your child play there? That's really tricky......
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| Posted 1/31/14 6:58 AM |
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Kitten1929
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Kids and guns in the home
We have a gun. Right now our DS is not mobile, but it's kept locked up and only DH has the key. Our friends and family know we have it, and they know it's secure and hidden, so they still come over with their kids. In the future we will take more security measures if necessary.
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NervousNell
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Re: Kids and guns in the home
Posted by Kitten1929
We have a gun. Right now our DS is not mobile, but it's kept locked up and only DH has the key. Our friends and family know we have it, and they know it's secure and hidden, so they still come over with their kids. In the future we will take more security measures if necessary.
Pretty much exactly the same here.
Except DD is mobile- but it's somewhere where she could never get to it.
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Re: Kids and guns in the home
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
Would you let your child play in a home where you knew the parents had a gun? Would you ask parents about it before letting your child play there? That's really tricky......
It depends on how secure the gun is. If I knew with 100% certainty that there was NO way the kids could access it and it was securely locked away then yes, I would allow my child to play at a house that has a gun.
I would absolutely ask another parent if they had a gun in the house. Especially someone who I don't know well. It might be awkward to ask but I'd rather put them on the spot then god forbid my DD or DS gets hurt (or worse) because I was too afraid to ask.
I feel like these days you can never be too careful. And if I ask and that person gets offended well then too bad, that's not someone that I want to leave my child with anyway. I know plenty of people have guns whether for a job, hunting, or just to have. But if you're doing the right thing by carefully securing your weapons than you should have no problem with someone asking about them. KWIM?
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ali120206
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Kids and guns in the home
DS has played in homes with guns - we have friends in law enforcement and my uncle is an avid hunter.
I trust them thoroughly as they have their own children as well and we know them so well.
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Re: Kids and guns in the home
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
Would you let your child play in a home where you knew the parents had a gun? Would you ask parents about it before letting your child play there? That's really tricky......
It depends on how secure the gun is. If I knew with 100% certainty that there was NO way the kids could access it and it was securely locked away then yes, I would allow my child to play at a house that has a gun.
I would absolutely ask another parent if they had a gun in the house. Especially someone who I don't know well. It might be awkward to ask but I'd rather put them on the spot then god forbid my DD or DS gets hurt (or worse) because I was too afraid to ask.
I feel like these days you can never be too careful. And if I ask and that person gets offended well then too bad, that's not someone that I want to leave my child with anyway. I know plenty of people have guns whether for a job, hunting, or just to have. But if you're doing the right thing by carefully securing your weapons than you should have no problem with someone asking about them. KWIM?
Well said. I completely agree with all of that.
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Re: Kids and guns in the home
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Kitten1929
We have a gun. Right now our DS is not mobile, but it's kept locked up and only DH has the key. Our friends and family know we have it, and they know it's secure and hidden, so they still come over with their kids. In the future we will take more security measures if necessary.
Pretty much exactly the same here.
Except DD is mobile- but it's somewhere where she could never get to it.
This is us too.
It shouldn't be a problem as long as parents are responsible about it. The scary thing is trying to figure out the parents that are NOT responsible about it. Very sticky situation...
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KMCGK
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Re: Kids and guns in the home
They promoted the special on the evening news last night.
1 in 3 homes has a gun.
I find that alarming.
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| Posted 1/31/14 9:27 AM |
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Mara1017
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Kids and guns in the home
We have a gun in our house but it is in a safe that you need a combination and a key to get it. The fact that there is a gun in the house will not be changing. If one of the parents of one of my son's friends has an issue and doesnt want their kid at our house there is not much that I can do to change it.
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mnmsoinlove
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Re: Kids and guns in the home
As a parent I'm very scared of letting my child play in a home with a gun. Growing up our neighbor was a nypd officer and he was not responsible with his gun. I remember my brother came running home one day after playing over their house with their son who was the same age as my brother. He said the gun was left out on the kitchen table. That really scared me. I felt like if a cop who is highly trained could be so careless what about the people aren't trained as much. It's just a very big fear of mine.
I'm against guns and I don't believe people need guns unless they are law enforcement or military. I will be asking friends parents about guns before I dropped my girls off to their home. I would want to know the gun is hidden and locked securely. Even knowing that the gun was secured I would have to really trust the parents.
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Re: Kids and guns in the home
Posted by Mara1017
We have a gun in our house but it is in a safe that you need a combination and a key to get it. The fact that there is a gun in the house will not be changing. If one of the parents of one of my son's friends has an issue and doesnt want their kid at our house there is not much that I can do to change it.
Ditto and it is hidden in a place that is not easily accessible to any child on top of the fact that it is in a safe and needs a combo/key to get to it But I can understand if ppl didn't want to drop kids over here to play bc of it .....I have a child w a severe allergy and I fear sending my kid to other ppl's houses without me and god forbid eating something given mistakenly that contains nuts so I probably won't be doing drop off sleep over type play dates for a very very long time bc of that alone but I would also want to know that if they had a gun they were being just as safe and cautious as we are in our own home and then on top of that I would have to know them very well and trust them wholeheartedly
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The better question is: Would you let your child play in a home with irresponsible parents?
If I know the parents and trust them with my child, then I trust them regardless of if they are gun owners or not.
If I'm unsure about the parents or think the home may be unstable for any number of reasons, I'm not letting my child play there regardless of if they own a gun or not.
(ETA: In all honesty, I'd be more comfortable letting my child play in a home with a hidden/ locked away gun than in a home with a PitBull. I've heard of more pitbulls attacking kids than I've heard of kids accidentally shooing themselves on play dates (not saying it doesn't happen, just keeping it in perspective). )
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Re: Kids and guns in the home
Posted by MrsDamonSalv7319
The better question is: Would you let your child play in a home with irresponsible parents?
If I know the parents and trust them with my child, then I trust them regardless of if they are gun owners or not.
If I'm unsure about the parents or think the home may be unstable for any number of reasons, I'm not letting my child play there regardless of if they own a gun or not.
Amen sister ...lol I mean think about it are the knives in the kitchen easily accessible to children? What about the stove? These are things that kids can be just as curious about and be hurt just as horribly ....so gun owner or not its irresponsibility that hurts/kills children not just a gun
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NervousNell
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Re: Kids and guns in the home
Posted by MrsDamonSalv7319
The better question is: Would you let your child play in a home with irresponsible parents?
If I know the parents and trust them with my child, then I trust them regardless of if they are gun owners or not.
If I'm unsure about the parents or think the home may be unstable for any number of reasons, I'm not letting my child play there regardless of if they own a gun or not.
Good point. There are so many hazzards in a home- even without a gun.
Knives, poisons, prescription drugs, matches, ovens, etc. Not to mention swimming pools.
To me, it's more about knowing and trusting the parents
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Xelindrya
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Kids and guns in the home
Education and safety.
Kids come to our house, AJ goes to others. We never ask. They never ask. But if I did, I would only want to know it was unreachable.
AJ knows about guns, seen one, held it, talked about it, and she is terrified of them. Not crazy scared but enough she won't touch one and knows to report it. DO not play, touch, look or test if its real or fake, just tell an adult. She hates how loud they are and knows the damage they can cause.
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Re: Kids and guns in the home
Posted by MrsDamonSalv7319
The better question is: Would you let your child play in a home with irresponsible parents?
If I know the parents and trust them with my child, then I trust them regardless of if they are gun owners or not.
If I'm unsure about the parents or think the home may be unstable for any number of reasons, I'm not letting my child play there regardless of if they own a gun or not.
(ETA: In all honesty, I'd be more comfortable letting my child play in a home with a hidden/ locked away gun than in a home with a PitBull. I've heard of more pitbulls attacking kids than I've heard of kids accidentally shooing themselves on play dates (not saying it doesn't happen, just keeping it in perspective). )
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Re: Kids and guns in the home
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They promoted the special on the evening news last night.
1 in 3 homes has a gun.
I find that alarming.
But worse than that it said 1.7 million kids are in homes with UNLOCKED and LOADED guns!
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ANewDayHasCome
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Re: Kids and guns in the home
Posted by MrsDamonSalv7319
The better question is: Would you let your child play in a home with irresponsible parents?
If I know the parents and trust them with my child, then I trust them regardless of if they are gun owners or not.
If I'm unsure about the parents or think the home may be unstable for any number of reasons, I'm not letting my child play there regardless of if they own a gun or not.
(ETA: In all honesty, I'd be more comfortable letting my child play in a home with a hidden/ locked away gun than in a home with a PitBull. I've heard of more pitbulls attacking kids than I've heard of kids accidentally shooing themselves on play dates (not saying it doesn't happen, just keeping it in perspective). )
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Re: Kids and guns in the home
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by MrsDamonSalv7319
The better question is: Would you let your child play in a home with irresponsible parents?
If I know the parents and trust them with my child, then I trust them regardless of if they are gun owners or not.
If I'm unsure about the parents or think the home may be unstable for any number of reasons, I'm not letting my child play there regardless of if they own a gun or not.
Good point. There are so many hazzards in a home- even without a gun.
Knives, poisons, prescription drugs, matches, ovens, etc. Not to mention swimming pools.
To me, it's more about knowing and trusting the parents
this!!!!
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Re: Kids and guns in the home
thanks for sharing
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Re: Kids and guns in the home
I'm so glad I saw this post... I had seen it advertised and almost forgot to set my dvr... thank you!
we are in law enforcement, in our home, so we do have guns. dd is only 15 months - but she is not allowed to play in our bedroom, except when we read books together at night on our bed. so she will grow up knowing that our bedroom is not a play area - the door is always closed - and the guns are further LOCKED away in a room she does not frequent.
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Re: Kids and guns in the home
Posted by Xelindrya
Posted by MrsDamonSalv7319
The better question is: Would you let your child play in a home with irresponsible parents?
If I know the parents and trust them with my child, then I trust them regardless of if they are gun owners or not.
If I'm unsure about the parents or think the home may be unstable for any number of reasons, I'm not letting my child play there regardless of if they own a gun or not.
(ETA: In all honesty, I'd be more comfortable letting my child play in a home with a hidden/ locked away gun than in a home with a PitBull. I've heard of more pitbulls attacking kids than I've heard of kids accidentally shooing themselves on play dates (not saying it doesn't happen, just keeping it in perspective). )
You put it exactly how I was thinking. There is so many safety hazards in a house that can be alot more dangerous than a weapon safely locked away and out of reach.
At one point I lived in a house where my mom's BF was a Kung Fu master and had all these swords & weapons on display out in the open (ah the 80's).
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I just want to add that just because you ask and someone tells you they don't have a gun that dosent mean they still won't have one 6 months from now. So unless you plan on asking everyone every few months you have to mainly trust the parents.
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I just want to add that just because you ask and someone tells you they don't have a gun that dosent mean they still won't have one 6 months from now. So unless you plan on asking everyone every few months you have to mainly trust the parents.
Great point! Or maybe they say no bc they have an unregistered gun or don't have proper license and don't want anyone to know they have it...definitely have to know the parents/family.
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