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babyfever24
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NEVER ENDING
I know its important to stay positive and i would say i've been 70% positive through this journey, but i don't know how much more i can take. I cannot handle the social media, so i took myself off…..now people announce their frigging pregnancies via pinterest…..can i enjoy anything anymore?
And just when i thought i was over it, I get a text at dinner that another one of DH'S friends wives are preggo. Still not on speaking terms with SIL who is rude and inconsiderate wants to know why we can't be excited for her THIRD kid that she had gender reveal party for ,baby shower, and posts an ultrasound photo every dam week…..but she says she "feels for us" Really???? Realistically this is never ending or going away…….this is life but really suck$ for us….ok vent over.
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ANewDayHasCome
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NEVER ENDING
Vent away. And your SIL is an asshole.
You're entitled to these days. Pick yourself when you're ready.
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| Posted 3/30/14 8:33 AM |
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PhyllisNJoe
My Box Is Broken
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Re: NEVER ENDING
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
Vent away. And your SIL is an asshole.
You're entitled to these days. Pick yourself when you're ready.
This exactly.
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| Posted 3/30/14 8:50 AM |
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babyfever24
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Re: NEVER ENDING
Thanks ladies yes she is an a$$hole, our whole family pretty much distanced themselves from us bc of her its actually crazy……with the year we've had you think people would be more considerate. Friday i didn't get out of bed ……ugh
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| Posted 3/30/14 9:30 AM |
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MiaGirl
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NEVER ENDING
Your SIL sounds like a big jerk!!! Your are completely entitiled to your feelings. What i learned through this journey is to let yourself feel however you want, there are good days and bad days. Let yourself have a bad day when you need it, what we are all gong through is one of lifes toughest battles.
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| Posted 3/30/14 9:31 AM |
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PennyCat
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Re: NEVER ENDING
people truly just do not get it. We have some family who couldn't understand why I wasn't happy for them enough to attend their baby showers, etc..... One of them had her shower right around when I lost triplets and my grandfather in the same week. She took it personally that I didn't have it in me to whip out my party hat. To this day, she still holds a grudge and when she met my DS for the first time, she completely ignored both him and me.
You can't change people, but all you can do is look out for yourself and do what you feel is best. I have no regrets over how I conducted myself over the years and I pray that those who are so judgmental over the actions of us ladies who have these problems, truly never have to experience it firsthand.
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| Posted 3/30/14 10:03 AM |
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babyfever24
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Re: NEVER ENDING
Posted by PennyCat
people truly just do not get it. We have some family who couldn't understand why I wasn't happy for them enough to attend their baby showers, etc..... One of them had her shower right around when I lost triplets and my grandfather in the same week. She took it personally that I didn't have it in me to whip out my party hat. To this day, she still holds a grudge and when she met my DS for the first time, she completely ignored both him and me.
You can't change people, but all you can do is look out for yourself and do what you feel is best. I have no regrets over how I conducted myself over the years and I pray that those who are so judgmental over the actions of us ladies who have these problems, truly never have to experience it firsthand.
Thank you, i remember you talking about this......its so hard bc its DH'S sister and although shes always been a horrible selfish person his family doesn't see her actions as that, they look at me as jealous.....its a joke.
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| Posted 3/30/14 11:40 AM |
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ggt08
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NEVER ENDING
It's very tough and I feel like you. Some days I'm ok, some days I'm not. Had my sisters shower yesterday and another baby shower next weekend. It's like a cruel joke that literally everyone around me is having a baby. One day at a time...
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| Posted 3/30/14 12:58 PM |
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Lillies
Grateful for my babies!
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Re: NEVER ENDING
I am so sorry you are going through all of this. Your situation with your SIL is so upsetting bc none of them understand what you are going through. It makes this process so lonely. Just know you always have us to vent to. I don't think I could have made it to another IVF without the well wishes and hugs from the girls on this board. Penny is absolutely right. There is no way you can change the way people are but stay true to you! You are allowed to feel any way you need to at this point. Don't let the negativity or ignorance of others bring you to a bad place.
I am completely inundated with pregnancy announcements and showers too. It's amazing how many people are pregnant right now but all I keep saying to myself is our time will come too. You will get there! 
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| Posted 3/30/14 1:26 PM |
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cowgirlkate
Twins times TWO!
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Re: NEVER ENDING
Posted by babyfever24
Posted by PennyCat
people truly just do not get it. We have some family who couldn't understand why I wasn't happy for them enough to attend their baby showers, etc..... One of them had her shower right around when I lost triplets and my grandfather in the same week. She took it personally that I didn't have it in me to whip out my party hat. To this day, she still holds a grudge and when she met my DS for the first time, she completely ignored both him and me.
You can't change people, but all you can do is look out for yourself and do what you feel is best. I have no regrets over how I conducted myself over the years and I pray that those who are so judgmental over the actions of us ladies who have these problems, truly never have to experience it firsthand.
Thank you, i remember you talking about this......its so hard bc its DH'S sister and although shes always been a horrible selfish person his family doesn't see her actions as that, they look at me as jealous.....its a joke.
Even if you were remotely jealous, you have every right to be!!! You've been through a lot....F her!!!
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| Posted 3/30/14 3:21 PM |
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I am so so sorry.
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| Posted 3/30/14 3:52 PM |
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babydreams21
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NEVER ENDING
It never gets easier. I just got back from a kids party where everyone has kids, has a baby, or is pregnant. These are all people who got married when we did or after. Some have 2 kids. Right now I'm dealing bc I still have a chance I guess with this IVF. If this last IVF doesn't work I will not be attending anything since my hope will be gone.
I hope nobody tells me they are preg in person bc I may just completely loose it.
I hate this and I'm so sorry you are dealing with this.
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| Posted 3/30/14 5:25 PM |
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MrsM0829
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NEVER ENDING
I know it doesn't help, but I feel your pain. I've stopped going on Facebook because I just can't take seeing all the sonogram pics and pregnancy announcements, especially the ones where people say it came as a surprise. I feel cheated that I will never get to surprise DH with a positive HPT and that if we're ever blessed with a LO, it won't be the result of some romantic interlude, it will be from some lab technician doing his/her thing. It's not fair and it never will be. You're totally entitled to feel how you do. But, at the end of the day, if your idiot SIL is incapable of empathy, she's the one I feel sorry for.
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| Posted 3/30/14 5:37 PM |
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babyfever24
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Re: NEVER ENDING
Thanks ladies, it is good to know that I am not alone or crazy. I know that i have some horribly insensitive people in my life that truly don't get it. And on my end I am terribly afraid that i will never have the joy of motherhood or biological motherhood for that matter. UGH
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| Posted 3/30/14 8:20 PM |
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LIRascal
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NEVER ENDING
Just remember, when it does happen, you're not the type to post your stick and 4d sonos on Pinterest and FB, and it feels SOOOO refreshing! I hope that for you and DH that this terrible family communication gets better and that you soon get to glow with your own LO.
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| Posted 3/30/14 11:32 PM |
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Beachbaby2014
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Re: NEVER ENDING
people can be so rude! But it you cant let it bring you down! I went through something similar at a family baptism yesterday - where someone hinted at the fact the fact that im too old to have another baby (40 may be old but I dont think thats unheard of these days) but whatever i just laughed and walked away bc people are people.....hang in there and feel better soon! Your time will come!
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| Posted 3/31/14 5:40 AM |
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dadams
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Re: NEVER ENDING
Hang in there! I know it is not easy!
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| Posted 3/31/14 9:50 AM |
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babyfever24
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Re: NEVER ENDING
Thank you ladies
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| Posted 3/31/14 2:32 PM |
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