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divany
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My sister in law is upset with me because I am friends on facebook with a few of my brothers ex girlfriends. I am not friendly with them on a personal level anymore. She feels that if I am not friends with them normally what is the point now. Could she be right?
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Posted 7/1/14 4:24 PM  |
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Re: Facebook
Dh and I were friends with a couple since when we were dating through college. They ended up breaking up after we were friends with them maybe 6 yrs. we remained friends with her
We ended up reconnected with him mainly thru fb but he would text dh here and there and would invite him fishing. He went once. The extent of our friendship was that mostly me just seeing his fb posts and him occassionally texting dh for advice on his daughter (dh works with kids)
Well she found out and that was it she stopped talking to me. Its sad. Dh was friends wth him, I didnt think it was fair for me to say hey you cant be
If you have no connection with them (dont hang out, talk etc) the. delete them to keep the peace, its not worth it.
Message edited 7/1/2014 4:38:28 PM.
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| Posted 7/1/14 4:37 PM |
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loveus
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This is your decision and you need to do what feels right.
Personally I don't like anyone telling me what to do. I would make your friend list private from your brother and sister-inlaw.
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| Posted 7/1/14 4:38 PM |
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angelicd77
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Kim
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That sounds ridiculous on your SILs part. Why does she care who you are friends with on FB? Its none of her business honestly. And, if you were close with these girls would she be pissed at you because their your brothers exes? Seriously, thats so dumb. Tell her to MYOB.
Message edited 7/1/2014 5:20:34 PM.
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| Posted 7/1/14 5:20 PM |
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Ayne11
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This is why I hate Facebook. FACEBOOK IS NOT REAL LIFE! Are you constantly hanging out with them in real life? If no, then who cares!!! Plus, if they're her exes, they can see via you how great she's doing without them 
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| Posted 7/1/14 5:25 PM |
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mattsgirl1013
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My MIL and SIL are both friends with several of my DH's exs. One of whom he was with for 5 years. When we were first dating it bothered me, but now I don't care. He's married to HER, not them, so it shouldn't bother her; and if it does, she shouldn't expect you to ignore them just because she's hung up on it.
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Xelindrya
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your life your friends
Seeing as I'm friends with 3 ex bfs and kids from one ex bf as well as the mother and sister of another ex bf AND that ex's current wife
LOL its not like my life affect theirs. We are all adults. Some people are friends some are not. Fine whatever, don't like them, don't talk to them. Thankfully none are the type to be show offish on my wall to upset another because that's just stupid. And the wife of my ex (whom I normally just refer to as my longest closest bff) is totally cool with me and I with her. So his mom and sister LOVE we are all friends, we even hang out on holidays! Just came back from seeing them in Cali!
People need to just grow up (sorry if that offends people) and move on.
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DiamondGirl
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I think it is silly and trivial but if it upset my SIL and I was not truly friends w the girls I would delete them to keep the peace
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| Posted 7/1/14 6:07 PM |
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Different things on there upset different people.
I can see handling this many different ways.
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| Posted 7/1/14 6:09 PM |
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JME78
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Re: Facebook
who even pays attention to who other people are friends with?
silly.
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| Posted 7/1/14 7:12 PM |
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luvmotherhood
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Posted by JME78
who even pays attention to who other people are friends with?
silly.
people who have way too much time on their hands
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| Posted 7/1/14 7:16 PM |
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MrsM84
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Re: Facebook
Posted by DiamondGirl
I think it is silly and trivial but if it upset my SIL and I was not truly friends w the girls I would delete them to keep the peace
Don't do this. IMO, by deleting/unfriending them you are reinforcing your SIL's craziness and need for control. Your life. Your decisions. She needs to suck it up.
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| Posted 7/1/14 7:17 PM |
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Ayne11
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Does your husband have a problem with this, like your SIL does?
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| Posted 7/1/14 7:22 PM |
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IVFmiracle
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It's tough. I think someone who gets upset over this is insecure. Normally I wouldn't care what others thought of my friend list, but when it's family, it's hard to brush it off.
If your SIL doesn't have Facebook it might be more about not knowing how loose "Facebook friendships" are.
DH and I both are Facebook friends with exes. Neither of us care one bit.
Sorry she's mad. I wish you the best on working it out.
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| Posted 7/1/14 10:25 PM |
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2BadSoSad
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I think people take FB too seriously, sometimes.
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| Posted 7/1/14 10:29 PM |
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Honey2223
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IMO, I think it depends on how much you value your relationship with your SIL. If your not really friendly with these ex Gf ' s on a personal level, like you said, then deleting them might be a good idea. You never know, she may have a good reason .
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| Posted 7/1/14 10:55 PM |
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