Would you go to HR?

I am a regular poster that is in hiding but I needed real advice and this was the best way. My boss and I have children in the same daycare class. They are toddlers, my boss kept me at work till 630 tonight , it's a long day for them. We are picking up our kids at the same time and I found out that during the day my child hit another child. Not my bosses kid but someone else. The teacher was trying to be discreet but my boss couldn't help but to overhear. Everything was fine with. Other child, it was typical toddler stuff over a toy and I addressed it with my child. End of story.

Here's what happened though....as my boss is leaving he turns to me and says, "I better never hear of your kid hitting my kid". "I'll make sure that goes on your review at the end of the year".

This boss has a real ego and a serious attitude. this is the second thing just this week that is inappropriate that they have done (called me "useless" yesterday, I could go on and on...). But this sent me over the edge

I don't take HR lightly but like I said this isn't the first "incident" that I've had with this person. Just not sure if it's "HR" worthy though and need advice..

Wwyd?

Message edited 2/18/2015 9:59:42 PM.

Would you go to HR?

Yep. I would go to HR.

Sorry he said that :(

Would you go to HR?

IMHO yes. Your boss should never call you useless. And to threaten you? (Bad review)!!!!

This is what it comes down to. You would be protecting yourself but be open to the boss retaliating. It's F'ed and you don't win either way. At least this way you have the upper hand and if the buss retaliates you have it in paper FIRST.

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I would most definitly go to HR
That was a threat that has absolutely nothing to do with you and your job performance !

Message edited 2/18/2015 9:57:38 PM.

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Would you go to HR?

I am never one for going to HR but I would absolutely go for that, at least so they can have it on paper incase of anything.

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If I didn't read the part about your boss calling you useless I would have taken the other bit as a joke and not take it seriously. I would talk to HR just for that.

Would you go to HR?

I would go to HR. Also I would speak with the daycare privately and let them know to specifically not speak to you in front of your boss and to pull you aside in private, call you, or wait until he is gone.

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Bad situation all around. Think about looking for a new job or a new daycare center.

If you choose to involve HR, think about what you want the outcome to be. What action do you want them to take? You may want to approach it from the perspective of asking for guidance on how you can best handle the situation.

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Sounds like they were joking to me - to write something about your kid on a review.

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Seems like your boss is threating your review. I would DEFINITELY make sure it was in writing before that review came up, especially if that review helps you get the raise or promotion you are entitled to. Go to HR!

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YES! you should be keeping a log of all these incidents. And bringing personal day care children stuff into the work place is ridiculous. Calling someone useless is beyond unprofessional and hr needs to know sorry you're dealing with this.

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So sorry you have to deal w this nonsense!

Coming from the most "corporate"'industry, not yet. HR is there to protect management and the company. First you should speak with boss directly. The daycare should have never said anything to you in front of your boss

If you speaking to him doesn't work, then go to HR.

Message edited 2/19/2015 8:43:22 AM.

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Posted by Millie3

So sorry you have to deal w this nonsense!

Coming from the most "corporate"'industry, not yet. HR is there to protect management and the company. First you should speak with boss directly. The daycare should have never said anything to you in front of your boss

If you speaking to him doesn't work, then go to HR.

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I would definitely go to HR and explain to them about what happened at the daycare center. I would tell them that you just want it noted and that as of right now, you don't expect anything to be done about it, but that if something should happen in the future, you want it documented. As for calling you useless - that is completely unprofessional and unacceptable and I would expect some action to be taken.

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Yes. First off he called you "useless" and secondly he is threatening to give you a bad review for something not having to do with anything work-related.

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Id go to hr. Without a doubt

Would you go to HR?

Definitely, unless you have a very sarcastic relationship. My bosses and I say things to each other that would make HR cringe but it's all in fun and they respect me as much as I respect them.

Would you go to HR?

Tell HR. I had a job where I was harassed by a manager and I wish I had went to HR and logged my complaints I probably wouldn't have been fired when I was doing my job but my manager didn't like it.

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Yes I would definitely go to HR. You need to protect yourself and put it on record.

I had a manager once that was degrading and I never went to HR. Found out that he was doing the same to a bunch of other people and he would have gotten fired much earlier than he was if we had all gone to HR.

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Sounds like he was joking to me but like everything else you were the only one who was there, you know this person and you know how it was delivered. I have worked with people with very sarcastic personalities in the past and they could have said something like this but even though I would have been annoyed I would have brushed it off as i know them and would have known they were joking.

Only you know what you need to do as you know this person.

However if this came up in anyones review it should be laughed out of the room. Who can bring up a scenario in daycare over someone's child during a review?