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ThreeforTea
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Re: Confirmation- how much to give
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Pinkisles
$500 is excessive.
$100 or $150 depending on where the party is at.
In my family for close relatives like my nephew (who is my godson) $500 is not excessive.
It all depends on the family , and your financial situation.
My parents gave us $1000 for my daughter's baptism.
It's all relative
same with my family.
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blu6385
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Re: Confirmation- how much to give
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by afternoondelight828
Posted by Pinkisles
$500 is excessive.
$100 or $150 depending on where the party is at.
Why does it depend on where the party is at? That money should all be going to the child, not to pay for the party.
It has nothing to do with "paying for the party". I just think that sometimes people feel obligated to give more (for any kind of party/event) when the venue is fancier and more formal.
I never feel obligated having to give more money cause its at a fancier place. have it in a house or oheka castle you are getting the exact same amount of money from me no matter the occasion.
I never understood why people felt they should be giving more cause its at a fancier place. its their choice not mine on where you have it and hoe much you spend no one should feel that have to give more cause someone chose to spend tons of money having a party
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NervousNell
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Re: Confirmation- how much to give
Posted by blu6385
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by afternoondelight828
Posted by Pinkisles
$500 is excessive.
$100 or $150 depending on where the party is at.
Why does it depend on where the party is at? That money should all be going to the child, not to pay for the party.
It has nothing to do with "paying for the party". I just think that sometimes people feel obligated to give more (for any kind of party/event) when the venue is fancier and more formal.
I never feel obligated having to give more money cause its at a fancier place. have it in a house or oheka castle you are getting the exact same amount of money from me no matter the occasion.
I never understood why people felt they should be giving more cause its at a fancier place. its their choice not mine on where you have it and hoe much you spend no one should feel that have to give more cause someone chose to spend tons of money having a party
Not to mention, the money DD received at her baptism went into her bank account. To help pay for college, her future, anything she might need.
My parents did that for me and I was so glad to have a nice nest egg as a down payment for my house, 26 years later.
So even if I chose to have her baptism at a super expensive place, all that money wouldn't be going to pay for the party- it would still be going in her account.
I had it at a place that we could afford, without the gifts, because the gifts were HERS regardless.
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Re: Confirmation- how much to give
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by afternoondelight828
Posted by Pinkisles
$500 is excessive.
$100 or $150 depending on where the party is at.
Why does it depend on where the party is at? That money should all be going to the child, not to pay for the party.
It has nothing to do with "paying for the party". I just think that sometimes people feel obligated to give more (for any kind of party/event) when the venue is fancier and more formal.
I think this is just a NY thing. I give the same if it is in someone's home or out at a catering hall. I also know that my kids have gotten the same amount too.
The money is for the child so what is the difference? (not just aiming this at you but everyone or anyone who thinks you need to give more for a catering hall or outside the home).
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| Posted 3/24/15 11:52 AM |
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Re: Confirmation- how much to give
Posted by blu6385
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by afternoondelight828
Posted by Pinkisles
$500 is excessive.
$100 or $150 depending on where the party is at.
Why does it depend on where the party is at? That money should all be going to the child, not to pay for the party.
It has nothing to do with "paying for the party". I just think that sometimes people feel obligated to give more (for any kind of party/event) when the venue is fancier and more formal.
I never feel obligated having to give more money cause its at a fancier place. have it in a house or oheka castle you are getting the exact same amount of money from me no matter the occasion.
I never understood why people felt they should be giving more cause its at a fancier place. its their choice not mine on where you have it and hoe much you spend no one should feel that have to give more cause someone chose to spend tons of money having a party
Yep. We have always chosen to do the parties in our home and not spend a ton of money. All the money went to the child so why would anyone think they need to give more because the parents choose to spend more money at a hall?
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Re: Confirmation- how much to give
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by blu6385
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by afternoondelight828
Posted by Pinkisles
$500 is excessive.
$100 or $150 depending on where the party is at.
Why does it depend on where the party is at? That money should all be going to the child, not to pay for the party.
It has nothing to do with "paying for the party". I just think that sometimes people feel obligated to give more (for any kind of party/event) when the venue is fancier and more formal.
I never feel obligated having to give more money cause its at a fancier place. have it in a house or oheka castle you are getting the exact same amount of money from me no matter the occasion.
I never understood why people felt they should be giving more cause its at a fancier place. its their choice not mine on where you have it and hoe much you spend no one should feel that have to give more cause someone chose to spend tons of money having a party
Not to mention, the money DD received at her baptism went into her bank account. To help pay for college, her future, anything she might need.
My parents did that for me and I was so glad to have a nice nest egg as a down payment for my house, 26 years later.
So even if I chose to have her baptism at a super expensive place, all that money wouldn't be going to pay for the party- it would still be going in her account.
I had it at a place that we could afford, without the gifts, because the gifts were HERS regardless.
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Hofstra26
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Re: Confirmation- how much to give
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by blu6385
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by afternoondelight828
Posted by Pinkisles
$500 is excessive.
$100 or $150 depending on where the party is at.
Why does it depend on where the party is at? That money should all be going to the child, not to pay for the party.
It has nothing to do with "paying for the party". I just think that sometimes people feel obligated to give more (for any kind of party/event) when the venue is fancier and more formal.
I never feel obligated having to give more money cause its at a fancier place. have it in a house or oheka castle you are getting the exact same amount of money from me no matter the occasion.
I never understood why people felt they should be giving more cause its at a fancier place. its their choice not mine on where you have it and hoe much you spend no one should feel that have to give more cause someone chose to spend tons of money having a party
Not to mention, the money DD received at her baptism went into her bank account. To help pay for college, her future, anything she might need.
My parents did that for me and I was so glad to have a nice nest egg as a down payment for my house, 26 years later.
So even if I chose to have her baptism at a super expensive place, all that money wouldn't be going to pay for the party- it would still be going in her account.
I had it at a place that we could afford, without the gifts, because the gifts were HERS regardless.
ITA. I've never used my kids money to pay for anything (including their parties) because it's THEIR money. However, I just think some people do feel like the venue matters when deciding on how much to give for a gift.
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Blazesyth
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Confirmation- how much to give
All right, so somewhere between 50 and 1000 dollars?
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Hofstra26
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Re: Confirmation- how much to give
Posted by Blazesyth
All right, so somewhere between 50 and 1000 dollars?
Pretty much. 
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luvmyReese
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Re: Confirmation- how much to give
$50.00
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nferrandi
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Re: Confirmation- how much to give
I just want to slightly amend my post. Communion is a bigger deal, at least in my DH family, because it is their introduction to God. For a confirmation I think we would give closer to $250.
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blu6385
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Re: Confirmation- how much to give
Posted by Blazesyth
All right, so somewhere between 50 and 1000 dollars?
pretty much the answer given every time anyone ask how much they should give for an event.
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Re: Confirmation- how much to give
Posted by blu6385
Posted by Blazesyth
All right, so somewhere between 50 and 1000 dollars?
pretty much the answer given every time anyone ask how much they should give for an event.
Exactly and many of us could never afford what others give, even for our own children. It all goes by how much you can afford.
I hate the "where it is held" bit either as that is only done in NY and makes absolutely NO sense to me.
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Pinkisles
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Re: Confirmation- how much to give
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by afternoondelight828
Posted by Pinkisles
$500 is excessive.
$100 or $150 depending on where the party is at.
Why does it depend on where the party is at? That money should all be going to the child, not to pay for the party.
It has nothing to do with "paying for the party". I just think that sometimes people feel obligated to give more (for any kind of party/event) when the venue is fancier and more formal.
Yep, this was my line of thinking.
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Pinkisles
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Re: Confirmation- how much to give
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Pinkisles
$500 is excessive.
$100 or $150 depending on where the party is at.
In my family for close relatives like my nephew (who is my godson) $500 is not excessive.
It all depends on the family , and your financial situation.
My parents gave us $1000 for my daughter's baptism.
It's all relative
Yes I agree with you, and I was just posting my opinion in relation to my experiences w/ my family. (which is all I can do)
In my family, $500 for a confirmation is excessive from one person. I would be shocked, and probably tell them that it was too much. I didn't get $500 (or close to it) for my wedding from couples even.
I think for my son's baptism he got $1500 total. It all went into his bank account.
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Pinkisles
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Re: Confirmation- how much to give
Posted by jlm2008
Posted by Pinkisles
$500 is excessive.
$100 or $150 depending on where the party is at.
Who is to say what is excessive? In my family $500 would be the standard gift from an aunt & uncle for a communion or confirmation. An Aunt or Uncle would never give $100 in my family for such a big occasion. Each family & culture is different.
To the OP: If you can I would do at least $300, but of course only give what you are comfortable with.
Okay, I can come back and say to you who is to say it's not excessive? And in my family $500 for a confirmation would be excessive. Like you said, each family & culture is different I was just giving my opinion. 
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KarenK122
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Confirmation- how much to give
My nephew is having his communion and we are giving between 300 and 400. We buying a gift so it depends on how much it comes out too. If it was a cousin or a friend, it would be $100.
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WonderLady
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Re: Confirmation- how much to give
Posted by Pinkisles
Posted by jlm2008
Posted by Pinkisles
$500 is excessive.
$100 or $150 depending on where the party is at.
Who is to say what is excessive? In my family $500 would be the standard gift from an aunt & uncle for a communion or confirmation. An Aunt or Uncle would never give $100 in my family for such a big occasion. Each family & culture is different.
To the OP: If you can I would do at least $300, but of course only give what you are comfortable with.
Okay, I can come back and say to you who is to say it's not excessive? And in my family $500 for a confirmation would be excessive. Like you said, each family & culture is different I was just giving my opinion.
$500 imo is excessive for middle or upper middle class people. Yes, it's somewhat subjective but it's also easy to consider the average salary after taxes etc. and think about what portion of a paycheck this is. For someone making 90k a year, $500 is close to half a weeks pay. I think that's A LOT. My family gives big envelopes and $400 is for a wedding. When I got married I had 250 people and the majority of my envelopes were $250. For a communion I usually give $150 and that's a generous gift.
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Strawberry2468
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Re: Confirmation- how much to give
Posted by Pinkisles
$500 is excessive.
$100 or $150 depending on where the party is at.
Ditto! (Unless you know this is the norm your family gives to each other)
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Bebalina
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Re: Confirmation- how much to give
If it's dh, myself and our kids going? $150-200 for someone I am not close to at all. Close friends or family $300-$500 minimum. It can always go higher.
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cets1290
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Re: Confirmation- how much to give
Posted by afternoondelight828
Posted by Pinkisles
$500 is excessive.
$100 or $150 depending on where the party is at.
Why does it depend on where the party is at? That money should all be going to the child, not to pay for the party.
I was thinking the same thing! Should be about who the gift is going to, not about the venue. We gave the same wedding gift for a friend's wedding at a knights of columbus as we did for a friend's wedding at the fox hollow, whether or not the knights of columbus was cheaper
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