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stargazerlily
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Switching Preschools
I signed my daughter (she's two) up for a preschool in September that is in walking distance from my house. Neighbors like it and I didn't really consider any other place for those reasons. We are doing it just because she loves playing with other kids and we thought she'd love it.
We started sending her to their "camp" at the beginning of July to get her acclimated and she screams bloody murder about going. Of course I know that a lot of that is about being separated, but last week they said she cried for most of the time. I'm also a little annoyed by the logistics of the place. It's also a daycare and they seem to cater more to those children than the kids just coming for school.
I'm thinking it's the wrong fit for her (and me) and would like to switch her to a simple separation class at another school in September and pull her from this camp.
I feel like I've already made a mistake...I want to really consider my next step.
Will it help to move her or do you think the damage is already done and I should just stick it out with this place?
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NervousNell
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Re: Switching Preschools
I can tell you that the screaming is not about the specific place, more about you leaving her.
2 is young.
They still get upset when mommy leaves, especially if they haven't been in a daycare setting from a young age.
If there are other things you don't like about this place, then fine, look into changing- but don't expect her not to cry at ANY place you bring her.
That is totally normal
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mnmsoinlove
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Re: Switching Preschools
I would switch. I' have been looking at preschools in my area for the last month. I'm not a fan of a class that is also a daycare. I don't like that the kids are always changing. I want my dd to have the consistency of going to school with the same kids on the same schedule and not rotating. At 2 I really like separation classes as well. Kids are only 2 once and I don't think school has to be rushed upon them. I like the idea of slowly introducing them to school and being separated from mom and dad.
ETA- I agree with nervousnell she will cry no mater where she goes but you should really look at the other things about the program you don't like.
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MrsT809
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Switching Preschools
Like the others said, if it's more than just the separation issue I would look to switch. I was shocked at how long it took me to find a school that I was really happy with. I really though all the schools would be more similar but I had to look at a lot to find one that merry my expectations.
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nycgirl
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Re: Switching Preschools
2 is young.
If you don't need it, I'd let her stay home.
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b2b777
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Switching Preschools
I agree with a PP about how different the schools are. I looked at 5 nursery schools for my DS. I currently have him in a mommy and me 1x per week that turned into separation,....so hopefully by September he is ready for the 2 yr old program. Im nervous about leaving him, but think it is better for them to do it now, at a young age, than to fight them when they are older.
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blu6385
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Re: Switching Preschools
Posted by NervousNell
I can tell you that the screaming is not about the specific place, more about you leaving her.
2 is young.
They still get upset when mommy leaves, especially if they haven't been in a daycare setting from a young age.
If there are other things you don't like about this place, then fine, look into changing- but don't expect her not to cry at ANY place you bring her.
That is totally normal
I agree
my DD is 4.5 and has been going to same daycare since 12 weeks she still sometimes cries when I leave her   she has one year left and will be starting in a new class room in September she will I guarantee get upset when I leave her the first week
kindergarten should be interesting 
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stargazerlily
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Switching Preschools
Thanks for you input. I know the separation will never be easy but she comes home three hours later completely distraught. I think like one of the pp said, it was too much, too soon, too young. We pulled her out this afternoon and will look for something a little easier in the fall. I'd love to keep her home too but I think she did benefit at least a little from being in a program.
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NervousNell
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Re: Switching Preschools
Same here- I am DREADING putting her on that bus.
I am already bribing her- if you dont' cry getting on the bus, I'll buy you.....
Terrbile I know, but I won't be able to handle K without meds (for me) if she is that upset! 
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NervousNell
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Re: Switching Preschools
Posted by stargazerlily
Thanks for you input. I know the separation will never be easy but she comes home three hours later completely distraught. I think like one of the pp said, it was too much, too soon, too young. We pulled her out this afternoon and will look for something a little easier in the fall. I'd love to keep her home too but I think she did benefit at least a little from being in a program.
Definitely keep her in something- even like 2 hours a few times a week. I know it's hard, but the sooner they get used to being without you for a bit, the easier it will be for Pre K and K, etc.
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nycgirl
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Re: Switching Preschools
Posted by stargazerlily
Thanks for you input. I know the separation will never be easy but she comes home three hours later completely distraught. I think like one of the pp said, it was too much, too soon, too young. We pulled her out this afternoon and will look for something a little easier in the fall. I'd love to keep her home too but I think she did benefit at least a little from being in a program.
Try gymboree: at ours there is a separation program.
At 3, DS was so ready for preschool, he cried when I came to pick him up. A year makes a big difference. DD is the same
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alli3131
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Switching Preschools
It's the separation and change in her normal routine. The transition will happen anywhere and IMO will not get better with age. She is not too young. Kids of all ages go to classes/school/daycare.
from your post it really sounds like if she wasn't crying you'd be fine with the place. Give it time. It can takes weeks and even longer for them to adjust.
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Pinkisles
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Re: Switching Preschools
Posted by nycgirl
Posted by stargazerlily
Thanks for you input. I know the separation will never be easy but she comes home three hours later completely distraught. I think like one of the pp said, it was too much, too soon, too young. We pulled her out this afternoon and will look for something a little easier in the fall. I'd love to keep her home too but I think she did benefit at least a little from being in a program.
Try gymboree: at ours there is a separation program.
At 3, DS was so ready for preschool, he cried when I came to pick him up. A year makes a big difference. DD is the same
Gymboree has bubble camp which is a 2 1/2 hour separation class. East Northport has. Camp is on Tuesdays. There's also westbury, Woodbury (has four days) and Oceanside (3 days)
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