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What made you decide to be a sahm? Do you bring any income in?

We are ttc with #2 and I'm miserable at my current job. I left a crying 3 year old at daycare today and I've been considering being a sahm with #2 but I need to bring in some form of income.

I'm researching babysitting, becoming a medical coder and doing virtual jobs through amazon, 1-800 flowers, etc.

Just have to.make the right decision for.my family.

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in my former life, lol, i was a teacher. but new and only for 2 years before i had dd1. we kept moving for dh's job and in different states so it was hard to get a job and get certified in each state.it was just a crazy few years. when i had dd1 it just kinda happened. i am happy it worked out and dh can support us. i have been able to not miss much in school etc. i don't bring in any income right now. i just had my 3rd baby and in a year i want to go back PT

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I wasn't bringing in much money and I felt like I was missing out on a lot. I also want to have a 3rd and that would be 3 kids in daycare for at least 6 months or so. I don't make enough to pay that. So I now watch my nephew. Since I watch him 5-6 days a week for 10 hrs a day, my sister pays me. It's minimal, but it buys food for the week.

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I didn't really have a choice. DD2 got sick and now gets EI and I need to be there for her therapies. I have family helping us out when we need and the fundraiser for my daughter has helped out immensely. It hasn't been an easy adjustment at all but it has some good moments. I'm planning on getting a PT job, probably in the fall, and putting the baby in daycare 2-3 days a week. DD1 still goes part time.

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I've stayed home since I had my first 4 years ago. My job was an hour away and I was gone almost 12 hours a day. I just wasnt interested in that at all! It's s gamble since I'll have to go back to work eventually but I couldn't imagine life any other way. I've very half heartedly looked for tutoring work but have had much luck. I've also had offers for scoring assessments and things like that (I was a teacher) but timing hasn't worked out.

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I'm going to be a SAHM soon. I currently work PT at home for a firm I've been with forever. Before I left on maternity leave, they asked me to come back FT, which would mean no longer working from home and traveling to NYC every day. Not going to happen.

I'll be able to do freelance graphics work and layout work and hopefully my firm will also use me as a contract worker should they need anything done.

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For us, it was something DH and i always talked about that we wanted. His mom was a SAHM--- never even went back to work when he got older. And my parents owned their own business- so my mom could be a little flexible and was around most of the time- she was GS leader, room mom, trip chaperone, helped out at church sunday school stuff.... was around all summer when we were off of school to do fun stuff. SOOO DH and i just wanted that kind of thing for our family- for me to be around for everything with DS.
AND- on top of that, we adopted DS from Korea when he was almost 2. so it was a HUGE change for him, and we just wanted me to be home to bond with him and help him get adjusted to being with us.
ALSO making the decision easy was the fact that i'm a speech therapist. There are a BUNCH of jobs i can go back to, as long as i keep up with my license hours while i'm home. I can do Early intervention, a school, home care, a hospital, nursing home with people who have had strokes , private practice, etc. so it will be easy for me to find something-- in my case, taking a few years off really isn't setting my career back much, i don't feel.
Overall, its EXHAUSTING!! even with just one kid! I definitely would say its "full time mom" rather than "stay at home"mom BUT i wouldn't trade it at all!! These past few years have FLOWN by- DS has changed so much- and I definitely feel lucky that i've been around for all of it. good luck!!!
Oh! and right now, i don't bring in any money... but DS starts full-day kindergarten in the fall so i'm hoping to do EI or something part time while he's in school

Message edited 7/25/2016 3:37:34 PM.

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Lost my job s decision was made for me. The grass was not greener working part time was ideal

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I became a sahm right away. Even before dd1 actually bc I stopped working at 36w. For me, I just couldn't have both of us commute to NYC and be that far from dd. I don't bring in any income. Dh makes about 6x what I made.

Now that I have dd2 whatever paycheck I would be making would go all to childcare and probably then some. Dd1 was only 2 when dd2 was born.

I would love to go back part time and locally once the baby is in kindergarten.

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I did not intend to be a stay at home mom. My initial plan was to stay home 6-8 months. Once my daughter was born I looked at daycare programs and decided for the cost and time away from my child I could not justify going back to work so soon. Fast forward and my daughter is nearly 2.5 years old- I have her enrolled in full time nursery school starting in September with the option of before and after care- I love the program-dd thrived in their 18 month old program this past school year. Once I feel she is doing well in the full day program I plan to seriously job hunt-I have not had any income the entire time I have been home. My field is not really something I can do from home.

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My DD just turned 5 and I've been a stay at home mom since she was born. My salary would have went to paying for daycare if I continued working, so it made more sense for me stay home. Now that she is stating kindergarten, I'm looking into part-time opportunities and I want to be involved in her school.

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We always knew I would stay home but my first two were 13 months apart and when I looked about going back the child care cost were ridiculous. Fast forward my oldest is going to kindergarten and my daughter prek and my third is starting toddler class. Next year I want to go back part time bc my big two will be in school full time.

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I just never felt comfortable leaving my babies at a daycare, and once I told my DH I'd prefer being a sahm, he supported me. I'm very grateful we can do this with only my DH working but I know many sahm's who do need to have an extra income and start their own business like photography, Etsy vendors, or selling thinks like Lularoe and actually do pretty good.

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We looked at daycares and interviewed nannies. DH didn't want to leave the baby with anyone , so MIL watched baby until she couldn't anymore. We were expecting # 2 and thought it best to have to lower salary resign , that was me. I would love to go back but DH travels at times for work and does have longer hours (logs on every night at home). If I commute, I won't get home until 7pm most days. My parents work full time and we don't have help. I personally don't do anything extra right now for $, I just focus on the family. He had a SAHM and I had 2 workaholic parents that worked 6 days a week.

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My mom was a SAHM. My DH's mom was a SAMH. I just knew I ALWAYS wanted to be a SAHM and my DH wanted me home as well to be with the kids. It was something that was always important to the two of us and we're fortunate that DH's career is such that I can be at home. I don't miss working and as much as I liked teaching walking away to be home with my children when they were born was a VERY easy decision for me. I've been a SAHM for 8 years now and although some days are long and crazy, I love it and am doing the right thing for myself, my kids, and my family.

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Long before becoming parents, my dh and I talked about me being a SAHM one day. Now that we have our DS and I'm living that life, I have to say I absolutely love it. We keep ourselves plenty busy through classes, weekly play dates that my friends and I take turns hosting, or sometimes we do something more adventurous like a museum, aquarium, etc. OR, then there are days we stay in and do takeout food and play from wake up to bedtime. I love that apart from classes, our time is pretty much our own to structure however I want.

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I knew I didn't want my kid left with a nanny all day, so I quit my job. Plus, I genuinely love kid's activities. Being a sahm is amazing, but for me I always need to be busy. My favorite part is going on adventures. If I were in an office, no adventures would be had. I don't bring in income, but I do help my DH with his business, so inadvertently he'll get paid more.

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When we moved OOS that was a requirement of mine. We moved with my dhs parents (not in the same house) but same state. I left behind my dad and twin sister and her family. I told my dh id move but I wont be working, like I was before we moved. I wanted to be with my kids. He agreed and thats how i became a sahm. The end LOL