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mil doesn't like my name choice

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summerBaby10
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mil doesn't like my name choice

Anyone experience this? Did it make you want to change the name?
We just picked a name for dc but haven't told anyone. I just saw mil & her friend at a shower & her friend said she loves the name xyz, which happened to be our choice. Mil replied to her how she really doesn't like it & made a stink face. It's amazing how this woman can ruin all good things for me.

Posted 1/7/17 12:07 PM
 
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Re: mil doesn't like my name choice

Based upon your last sentence, it doesn't sound as though you're a fan of your MIL. That would make me even more likely to use the name she dislikes. Lol. Seriously though, it's your child. If you and your DH like the name, who cares what your MIL thinks? She already got to name her children.

Posted 1/7/17 1:07 PM
 

TwinMommyToBoys
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mil doesn't like my name choice

I wouldn't change it. We haven't definitely decided but if we do before they get here we won't be telling anyone

Posted 1/7/17 1:16 PM
 

Chai77
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Re: mil doesn't like my name choice

It didn't happen to me, but i think you need to figure out how sure you are of the name. If you guys love it, then who cares what she thinks? and you know you can't please everyone. If you are on the fence, it might make me think twice honestly.

Posted 1/7/17 2:31 PM
 

Sparrow
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mil doesn't like my name choice

Who cares if she doesn't like it? My mom told me she didn't care for DS's name. I told her it's a good thing he's not her child. She got to name hers, now it's my turn.

Posted 1/7/17 3:00 PM
 

MrsT809
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mil doesn't like my name choice

If you love it, use it. In the end she's going to feel exactly the same about her grandchild no matter what she thinks of the name and her feelings on the name will change once it belongs to her grandchild! I didn't love my sister's first choice of names but it doesn't matter. I adore my niece and couldn't picture her with any other name. MIL's bff disliked her first grandchild's name and years later couldn't imagine him without that name. Go with what you love and don't worry about anyone's opinion.

Posted 1/7/17 3:31 PM
 

WannaBeAMom11
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mil doesn't like my name choice

Both mil and SIL told me they don't like my name choice. They love her middle name and keep referring to as such. I will teach this baby to not answer to her middle name. I love them and we are super close just want to smack them.

Posted 1/7/17 3:36 PM
 

drpepper318
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Re: mil doesn't like my name choice

Posted by Sparrow

Who cares if she doesn't like it? My mom told me she didn't care for DS's name. I told her it's a good thing he's not her child. She got to name hers, now it's my turn.


Same. No matter what I'd decide to name my kids my mother will make a stink face over it... both my first 2 kids she did and probably this one too. Too bad for her... I just tell her myob, Not your kid, lady!

Posted 1/7/17 3:53 PM
 

Maybe-Baybe
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Re: mil doesn't like my name choice

This is exactly why we didn't tell anyone DD's name before she was born, or now for DS until he is born.

Everyone has an opinion, so just go with what you like. Bottom line it's your kid, not theirs!

Posted 1/7/17 3:58 PM
 

NervousNell
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Re: mil doesn't like my name choice

TFB (Too fuking bad)

Honestly, who gives a shit if she doesn't like or ANYONE doens't like it for that matter.
The only people who have to like it is YOU and your DH.

To be honest, I wouldn't even think twice about it much less change it.
It's your child- not hers.

Posted 1/7/17 4:12 PM
 

pumpkinmom
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mil doesn't like my name choice

It wouldn't bother me. I would use the name I like.

Posted 1/7/17 4:23 PM
 

DLMheartsCRM
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Re: mil doesn't like my name choice

Don't let it bother you. If it's a name you love then that's the name you go with. To heck with what others think.


Everyone didn't like my DD's name but I keep getting told how beautiful it is etc...

For my DS due in May we chose a name where DH's grandmother and my mother and father hate it. We just say thank goodness it's not your kid then.

Posted 1/7/17 7:03 PM
 

summerBaby10
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Re: mil doesn't like my name choice

I'm keeping the name but it just irks me anyway.

Posted 1/7/17 7:40 PM
 

LuckyStar
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Re: mil doesn't like my name choice

Posted by NervousNell

TFB (Too fuking bad)

Honestly, who gives a shit if she doesn't like or ANYONE doens't like it for that matter.
The only people who have to like it is YOU and your DH.

To be honest, I wouldn't even think twice about it much less change it.
It's your child- not hers.




This exactly. We didn't share DD's name until she was here but my mom suggested the name at one point. I said that's cute, and she said "Right? It's my friend's dog's name!"

I used it anyway. I named my daughter after her friend's dog and didn't think twice.

Posted 1/7/17 10:11 PM
 

Jenn79
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Re: mil doesn't like my name choice

I had that problem with both my kids names too. Even from strangers. My dd is brielle which isn't that "different" and some lady decided to tell me how I'm doing my kid a disservice because she won't be able to find her name on anything at like disney world lol.

Posted 1/8/17 10:08 AM
 

NYCGirl80
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Re: mil doesn't like my name choice

Who cares? If YOU love it and your husband loves it, then that's enough.

I remember telling my mom DS's name and I could tell she didn't immediately love it. Now 4 years later, she has no recollection of not liking the name and loves it. She got to name her children. I named mine.

Posted 1/9/17 9:20 AM
 

MrsMango
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mil doesn't like my name choice

mine has made a few comments that she doesn't like the name we have chosen for a boy (team green). she keeps saying "is it still X?" "X, really??" Both my husband & I don't care though. Last time we checked, its our kid, its coming out of my vagina, and we like it so we don't care what anyone says. When I tell people the names we chose I say this is the girl name & this is the boy name and its ok if you don't like it cause we do and we don't care if others don't haha So I say, screw what she thinks and choose a name that make you & your husband happy.

Posted 1/9/17 10:00 AM
 

OhMaybeBaby
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Re: mil doesn't like my name choice

Hopefully if she knew that was your name choice she would have kept her thoughts to herself. In her defense, you hadn't told her (I myself can stick my foot in my mouth sometimes without meaning to, so I sort of feel her pain here). This is why I tell people my name and just add "we're not changing it and don't care to hear peoples opinions."

Posted 1/9/17 4:08 PM
 

OhMaybeBaby
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Re: mil doesn't like my name choice

Posted by WannaBeAMom11

Both mil and SIL told me they don't like my name choice. They love her middle name and keep referring to as such. I will teach this baby to not answer to her middle name. I love them and we are super close just want to smack them.



That's beyond rude of them. I'm floored.

Posted 1/9/17 4:09 PM
 

jamnmore
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mil doesn't like my name choice

I had a names picked out before we knew what we were having. When we found out and I told my mom, she was like so what are you going to name him. I said I already told you. Her response was, "oh you're sticking with that". For months we faced taunts and teasing from people on our choice. People tried to talk us out of it. But we would not budge.
Now that he is 5 we receive so many compliments on his name. People love it. It is unique and strong. People who hated it before he was born could not imagine him with another name. It suits him.

Stick to what you like and don't change it. People will adapt.

Posted 1/11/17 10:06 AM
 
 

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