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2nd grade school battles???
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ml110
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2nd grade school battles???
ugh! my oldest son just started 2nd grade- he'll be 8 in a few weeks. he is having the roughest time!!! mostly in the mornings- he doesn't want to get up, this morning he was throwing toys around, refused to eat breakfast, crying... i try asking him whats bothering him and can't seem to get a straight answer. he doesn't have many friends (i wonder why?!?! HAHAHA) so i don't know if he's starting to feel more conscious about that?? but he says that nobody's being mean to him or anything. or if its just that the work is getting harder for him ( he HATES sitting down and writing and that kind of stuff....) i mean i get that its only a couple weeks back into school so its an adjustment-- but its just the extent of things (like i said, throwing toys around, the crying...)
I just don't know what to do :-/ I haven't heard anything from the teacher about him acting out at school- and he comes home in a decent mood every day. so i don't know!!
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Posted 9/25/18 8:43 AM  |
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Re: 2nd grade school battles???
I would talk to the teacher - maybe just send an email or something - and express your concerns. You can keep it general and just say that he seems to be having trouble getting back into the school routine and seems reluctant to go to school, which is new to this year. Ask her if she notices anything going on, socially or academically.
It's hard because we are not with them all day at school, so the teacher may have a different perspective on it or offer insight as to what happens all day at school.
My DS is 9 (in 4th grade) and he has a lot of friends and enjoys the social aspects of school. But he doesn't really enjoy the schoolwork itself, and can give me issues with homework. He doesn't academically struggle but he just is such a procrastinator and finds it hard to focus on homework at the end of the day. He also lacks time management, so getting ready for school and sports can be an issue.
What's worked for me - or at least what helps - is laying out the routine and expectations (even writing it down on a poster board) and sticking to it, so it just becomes a habit. In the morning, my DS knows he gets up at 7 am, he eats breakfast, gets dressed, brushes teeth, puts on shoes, etc. Once he is totally ready to go, he can have free time until we walk out the door at 8. But I don't let him have computer or tv or anything until he's ready.
At night, we try to get him into bed at the same time (8:30/9), and if he's not tired, he can read a book in bed, but that's it.
With homework, he does need a break after school, so he knows he has until 4:30 to play outside or do whatever else he chooses. But at 4:30 we do homework so it's done before sports or dinner and before it gets too late.
Maybe it's as simple as tightening up routines -- getting to bed earlier, etc. It's a tough adjustment for everyone after summer break. Good luck!
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| Posted 9/25/18 9:03 AM |
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nycgirl
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Re: 2nd grade school battles???
I agree about getting him to bed at least 30 minutes earlier.
Also email teacher and say mornings have been rough, how is he in school?
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| Posted 9/25/18 2:24 PM |
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nancyg
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Re: 2nd grade school battles???
I know this post is old but just wondering if anything improved. I ask b/c I'm going through a similar situation with my son in 2nd grade.
I have our parent/teacher conf in a few weeks but I'm wondering if he's behaving in school. One big switch this year that I think might be contributing is his class size which went from 18 to 28 kids. It's a big concern of most of the parents this year.
Homework is such a battle. I'm trying to establish a routine but it's tough. We also got very relaxed with bed time over the summer and on weekends so getting back to a weekday frame of mind is a struggle. I know my son is smart and can do the work. We're working on an earlier bed time too.
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| Posted 10/16/18 3:34 PM |
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nycgirl
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Re: 2nd grade school battles???
We had the hardest time in second grade!
We did earlier bedtime, set schedules and enrolled in Taekwondo (for discipline and reward).
Third is so much better!!!
Hang in there.
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| Posted 11/2/18 4:57 PM |
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Re: 2nd grade school battles???
Posted by nancyg
I know this post is old but just wondering if anything improved. I ask b/c I'm going through a similar situation with my son in 2nd grade.
I have our parent/teacher conf in a few weeks but I'm wondering if he's behaving in school. One big switch this year that I think might be contributing is his class size which went from 18 to 28 kids. It's a big concern of most of the parents this year.
Homework is such a battle. I'm trying to establish a routine but it's tough. We also got very relaxed with bed time over the summer and on weekends so getting back to a weekday frame of mind is a struggle. I know my son is smart and can do the work. We're working on an earlier bed time too.
My son has gotten better with homework this year (he's in 4th), but last year homework was always torture to get done, and even this year, he tends to procrastinate. I think sometimes it's a control issue for them, so with my son, I finally said, "You don't want to do your homework, that's fine. But you can explain to your teacher why it's not done, and you can take the consequences."
When I put the responsibility squarely on him and made it clear that he was fully accountable, we stopped battling and he always gets it done. Sometimes it's a little later than I'd like, and sometimes he even finishes in the morning if we had a busy night with sports or activities (but I don't mind - sometimes he whizzes through it when he's fresh in the morning instead of it taking 3 times as long when he was exhausted at night).
It may not work with every personality, but my son likes to do well and he's a pleaser in school, so he would not want to get in trouble for not doing his homework or be embarrassed. So he gets it done, some way, somehow. I've stopped being such a control freak about when/how he does it.
I think it also depends on what it is and how much. This year, the homework is a reasonable amount and I see the benefits. In past years, I sometimes saw more busy work or thought it was more than it needed to be, which can make it harder to get done.
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| Posted 11/2/18 7:57 PM |
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itsagoodlife
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Re: 2nd grade school battles???
I teach 1st grade and its a HUGE difference from kindergarten and MANY little ones have a hard time transitioning.
I would speak with the teacher. Try to come up with a fun, but predictable, morning routine. Maybe a reward system so at the end of the week, your child gets something special for working hard and going to school without fighting.
It is so hard because as they get older the work gets harder and more intense.
Good luck
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| Posted 11/3/18 1:31 PM |
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