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Re: If your daughter(s) wears makeup.. come in
Sorry I’m no help at all but wow 8 years old they’re into that? I’m 39 and I barely wear any lol maybe your daughter and her friends can help me out
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JME78
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If your daughter(s) wears makeup.. come in
Who on earth would allow an EIGHT year old to wear foundation?!??! Thats absolutely insane to me.
My daughter is only 4 so haven't experienced it - I can't imagine letting her wear any kind of consistent real makeup before she is 13. For special occasions, maybe gloss and some eyeshadow. I think letting little girls wear heavy makeup is actually dangerous - super damaging to their sense of self.
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Re: If your daughter(s) wears makeup.. come in
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Sorry I’m no help at all but wow 8 years old they’re into that? I’m 39 and I barely wear any lol maybe your daughter and her friends can help me out
I was shocked honestly, so we started slowly so far. I started to let her wear lip gloss to school, and I’ve showed her how to use eye shadow, and blush on weekends lol.
YouTube some tutorials! That’s how I learned how to do some cool tricks myself lol, but I don’t think I’ll get to the contour stuff ever bc I don’t blend well haha.
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mommy2B3
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Re: If your daughter(s) wears makeup.. come in
Posted by JME78
Who on earth would allow an EIGHT year old to wear foundation?!??! Thats absolutely insane to me.
My daughter is only 4 so haven't experienced it - I can't imagine letting her wear any kind of consistent real makeup before she is 13. For special occasions, maybe gloss and some eyeshadow. I think letting little girls wear heavy makeup is actually dangerous - super damaging to their sense of self.
I tend to agree with the foundation too. I only wear bc I break out sometimes, so I’m not sure why young girls want to wear it.
I’m not sure I agree with it being dangerous, her best friend does it pretty well so I didn’t even notice till she told me, but that’s certainly something to think about, so I appreciate your opinion.
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If your daughter(s) wears makeup.. come in
Not gonna lie, just reading this made me nauseous. I don't think there's anything normal or healthy about letting third graders wear makeup outside of a wedding or dance recital. I don't even like my kids to see me putting on makeup bc I don't want them to put too much importance on looks.
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Re: If your daughter(s) wears makeup.. come in
The only time my dd wears make up is for dance recitals or if she is a flower girl. An 8 year old has zero business wearing a full face of make up on a daily basis. I would tell dd what is ok in some houses is not ok in our house. You can play dress up at home. Nail polish is ok, and so is lip gloss, but that is it. I would explain skin and how a child has different skin than a teen or an adult. That it is important to protect her skin, to wash it properly, wear sunscreen, moisturizer. Those are things she can do to help herself as she gets older. That she should wear make up for herself when she is older, but as a child she is too young. I would really question the kind of school your child attends where this is ok, because it is not ok.
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mommy2B3
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Re: If your daughter(s) wears makeup.. come in
Im very surprised with these responses. I have never equated makeup to being a bad thing. Wearing eyeshadow is not going to ruin her self image. If it did, I failed in so many other areas.
And honestly  over the school she attends. I’m sorry I asked on this site.
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If your daughter(s) wears makeup.. come in
My DD will be 8 in a couple months and I can’t even fathom the point of letting her wear makeup to school. They are way too young! Makeup should be the last things on their minds. These kids don’t need to clog their skin with unnecessary makeup.
The most my DD has worn is eye shadow/blush/lip gloss....for her dance recital.
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Re: If your daughter(s) wears makeup.. come in
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Not gonna lie, just reading this made me nauseous. I don't think there's anything normal or healthy about letting third graders wear makeup outside of a wedding or dance recital. I don't even like my kids to see me putting on makeup bc I don't want them to put too much importance on looks.
This exactly. I find it gross when elementary kids wear makeup. What is the rush to make them grow up? My daughter is in 6th grade, and some of her friends wear makeup, but it looks ridiculous. And I wear makeup on a daily basis, so I'm not against makeup 
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LSP2005
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Re: nvm.
Posted by mommy2B3
Im very surprised with these responses. I have never equated makeup to being a bad thing. Wearing eyeshadow is not going to ruin her self image. If it did, I failed in so many other areas.
And honestly over the school she attends. I’m sorry I asked on this site.
wearing make up is not a bad thing. It is the message it is sending that at 8 years old you need to cover up your skin with foundation. That is unnecessary. Frankly, i think it can harm a young girl's self esteem that she feels she needs full face make up at 8. The reason i questioned the school is that when you have a lot of girls over sexualized at a young age, other things happen younger and younger aged too. It is a slippery slope.
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My daughter is 12 and in 6th Grade and none of her friends (or any of the girls) wear make up to school. I actually think our school discourages it. They are though obsessed with make up youtube videos and will try out the styles when they are hanging out at home. There is no way they would be allowed out of the house in it. At 8, they should be playing something age appropriate not trying to make themselves look like teenagers. It is s slippery slope when you start letting children grow up to fast. Just because they see something on a video doesn't mean it's appropriate to do.
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Re: nvm.
Posted by KarenK122
My daughter is 12 and in 6th Grade and none of her friends (or any of the girls) wear make up to school. I actually think our school discourages it. They are though obsessed with make up youtube videos and will try out the styles when they are hanging out at home. There is no way they would be allowed out of the house in it. At 8, they should be playing something age appropriate not trying to make themselves look like teenagers. It is s slippery slope when you start letting children grow up to fast. Just because they see something on a video doesn't mean it's appropriate to do.
She doesn’t use YouTube, but she has wanted to experiment with bright colored eye shadow. I wouldn’t let her wear it to school, but I was asking about bday parties that kind of stuff since many of her friends do use makeup. I allow lip gloss currently, but I’ve been wanting to teach her how to use subtle eyeshadow shades instead of basically clown makeup with bright colors lol. She wears a lot of bright colored clothes, so bright colors is just what she gravitates too.
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Re: nvm.
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Posted by mommy2B3
Im very surprised with these responses. I have never equated makeup to being a bad thing. Wearing eyeshadow is not going to ruin her self image. If it did, I failed in so many other areas.
And honestly over the school she attends. I’m sorry I asked on this site.
wearing make up is not a bad thing. It is the message it is sending that at 8 years old you need to cover up your skin with foundation. That is unnecessary. Frankly, i think it can harm a young girl's self esteem that she feels she needs full face make up at 8. The reason i questioned the school is that when you have a lot of girls over sexualized at a young age, other things happen younger and younger aged too. It is a slippery slope.
I feel the opposite. I think the parents who don’t talk these things out with their kid and allow them to have some voice, it creates the kid who will become sneaky and do things without parental knowledge. My mom didn’t show me these things, but I did a whole lot of stuff she never knew about, because she never listened to me and just made rules. So I’ve been trying to set a balance where she knows she can always talk to me, I may not always agree with her, but I won’t just shut her down without talking. But she also isn’t asking for makeup to “feel beautiful” or anything, she just thinks it might be fun to try fun colors and dress up at home. She’s not asking to wear a full face or any of it to school. I only allow the clear lip gloss for school. But we can all agree to disagree.
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If an 8 year old needs foundation I feel bad for what they will look like at 40 to be honest
My 8 year olds skin is like rubber without a pore. I have the worst skin on the planet but I assure you at 8 years old even I didn't need foundation.
I can't imagine an 8 year old needing foundation unless they have some kind of major skin condition or issue.
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LSP2005
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Re: nvm.
It is essential your child has a voice. I am sorry for your experience with your mom. What I find helpful with my own similarly aged dd is really talking to her, listening to her, and explaining everything.
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Re: nvm.
I feel the opposite. I think the parents who don’t talk these things out with their kid and allow them to have some voice, it creates the kid who will become sneaky and do things without parental knowledge. My mom didn’t show me these things, but I did a whole lot of stuff she never knew about, because she never listened to me and just made rules. So I’ve been trying to set a balance where she knows she can always talk to me, I may not always agree with her, but I won’t just shut her down without talking. But she also isn’t asking for makeup to “feel beautiful” or anything, she just thinks it might be fun to try fun colors and dress up at home. She’s not asking to wear a full face or any of it to school. I only allow the clear lip gloss for school. But we can all agree to disagree.
I didn't see your original post, but I totally agree with you about giving the kids a voice in their creativity and new things. The problem with these types of questions on here is that people give you a hypothetical answer as to what they would do, but that answer really isn't relevant until you actually have a child that age and are handling the same scenarios.
With that said I have a 14 and 11 year DD. My older one loved to experiment with makeup earlier on and try different styles and techniques. I had no issue with it at all. The youtube videos have awesome tutorials the kids follow too. Now at 14 she wears minimal makeup on a daily basis but has amazing skill in technique and application. It had literally no negative effects on her as far as sexualization which is absurd, or growing up to fast. The only negative effect was to my wallet with buying her good palettes to try. It is really more of an art and skill to them. Some of the replies here are really ridiculous.
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Re: nvm.
Curly999, every one one here who replied has a 8 to 10 year old dd.
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Re: nvm.
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I feel the opposite. I think the parents who don’t talk these things out with their kid and allow them to have some voice, it creates the kid who will become sneaky and do things without parental knowledge. My mom didn’t show me these things, but I did a whole lot of stuff she never knew about, because she never listened to me and just made rules. So I’ve been trying to set a balance where she knows she can always talk to me, I may not always agree with her, but I won’t just shut her down without talking. But she also isn’t asking for makeup to “feel beautiful” or anything, she just thinks it might be fun to try fun colors and dress up at home. She’s not asking to wear a full face or any of it to school. I only allow the clear lip gloss for school. But we can all agree to disagree.
I didn't see your original post, but I totally agree with you about giving the kids a voice in their creativity and new things. The problem with these types of questions on here is that people give you a hypothetical answer as to what they would do, but that answer really isn't relevant until you actually have a child that age and are handling the same scenarios.
With that said I have a 14 and 11 year DD. My older one loved to experiment with makeup earlier on and try different styles and techniques. I had no issue with it at all. The youtube videos have awesome tutorials the kids follow too. Now at 14 she wears minimal makeup on a daily basis but has amazing skill in technique and application. It had literally no negative effects on her as far as sexualization which is absurd, or growing up to fast. The only negative effect was to my wallet with buying her good palettes to try. It is really more of an art and skill to them. Some of the replies here are really ridiculous.
The op was talking about third graders wearing full face makeup on a daily basis. That's a world of difference from a 14yo (or middle schooler in general) experimenting or even starting to wear some regularly imo.
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Re: nvm.
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Posted by curley999
I feel the opposite. I think the parents who don’t talk these things out with their kid and allow them to have some voice, it creates the kid who will become sneaky and do things without parental knowledge. My mom didn’t show me these things, but I did a whole lot of stuff she never knew about, because she never listened to me and just made rules. So I’ve been trying to set a balance where she knows she can always talk to me, I may not always agree with her, but I won’t just shut her down without talking. But she also isn’t asking for makeup to “feel beautiful” or anything, she just thinks it might be fun to try fun colors and dress up at home. She’s not asking to wear a full face or any of it to school. I only allow the clear lip gloss for school. But we can all agree to disagree.
I didn't see your original post, but I totally agree with you about giving the kids a voice in their creativity and new things. The problem with these types of questions on here is that people give you a hypothetical answer as to what they would do, but that answer really isn't relevant until you actually have a child that age and are handling the same scenarios.
With that said I have a 14 and 11 year DD.My older one loved to experiment with makeup earlier on and try different styles and techniques. I had no issue with it at all. The youtube videos have awesome tutorials the kids follow too. Now at 14 she wears minimal makeup on a daily basis but has amazing skill in technique and application. It had literally no negative effects on her as far as sexualization which is absurd, or growing up to fast. The only negative effect was to my wallet with buying her good palettes to try. It is really more of an art and skill to them. Some of the replies here are really ridiculous.
The op was talking about third graders wearing full face makeup on a daily basis. That's a world of difference from a 14yo (or middle schooler in general) experimenting or even starting to wear some regularly imo.
My post indicated she wore makeup well before 14. I was stating where she is at now so as to show makeup didn't ruin her life, reputation or skin.
OP you know your daughter best so I'm sure you will make the best decision for her, we dont all need to raise our kids with the same cookie cutter approach. Some kids want to show their individuality same as ear piercing, clothing choice, clip in hair extensions ect..
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NervousNell
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I still want to know what 8 year old NEEDS foundation.
Foundation is a cover up to hide skin issues.
Eye shadow, blush, lip gloss I can see them experimenting with for fun- because it's colorful and artistic, yes.
But foundation? Why?
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Re: nvm.
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Posted by curley999
I feel the opposite. I think the parents who don’t talk these things out with their kid and allow them to have some voice, it creates the kid who will become sneaky and do things without parental knowledge. My mom didn’t show me these things, but I did a whole lot of stuff she never knew about, because she never listened to me and just made rules. So I’ve been trying to set a balance where she knows she can always talk to me, I may not always agree with her, but I won’t just shut her down without talking. But she also isn’t asking for makeup to “feel beautiful” or anything, she just thinks it might be fun to try fun colors and dress up at home. She’s not asking to wear a full face or any of it to school. I only allow the clear lip gloss for school. But we can all agree to disagree.
I didn't see your original post, but I totally agree with you about giving the kids a voice in their creativity and new things. The problem with these types of questions on here is that people give you a hypothetical answer as to what they would do, but that answer really isn't relevant until you actually have a child that age and are handling the same scenarios.
With that said I have a 14 and 11 year DD.My older one loved to experiment with makeup earlier on and try different styles and techniques. I had no issue with it at all. The youtube videos have awesome tutorials the kids follow too. Now at 14 she wears minimal makeup on a daily basis but has amazing skill in technique and application. It had literally no negative effects on her as far as sexualization which is absurd, or growing up to fast. The only negative effect was to my wallet with buying her good palettes to try. It is really more of an art and skill to them. Some of the replies here are really ridiculous.
The op was talking about third graders wearing full face makeup on a daily basis. That's a world of difference from a 14yo (or middle schooler in general) experimenting or even starting to wear some regularly imo.
My post indicated she wore makeup well before 14. I was stating where she is at now so as to show makeup didn't ruin her life, reputation or skin.
OP you know your daughter best so I'm sure you will make the best decision for her, we dont all need to raise our kids with the same cookie cutter approach. Some kids want to show their individuality same as ear piercing, clothing choice, clip in hair extensions ect..
Your post actually said she experimented not that she was wearing it outside. There is a difference. Did you let your DD wear full on makeup that early outside? Curious because it wasn't clear to me from your post.
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I still want to know what 8 year old NEEDS foundation.
Foundation is a cover up to hide skin issues.
Eye shadow, blush, lip gloss I can see them experimenting with for fun- because it's colorful and artistic, yes.
But foundation? Why?
No 7 or 8 yr old should be wearing make up outside. Sorry, this is why girls are worshiping the morons like the Kardashians and valuing looks over everything. Also why everyone looks the same with the fake lashes and contouring. I find it so ridiculous.
ETA: I don't have a daughter but I can't imagine I would care about her make-up technique.
Its like I tell my son, he is so into Cardi B - fine, great I get it. But I do remind him lets worry less about Cardi B and Lamborghini and focus on being honest and getting A's.
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Re: nvm.
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Posted by curley999
I feel the opposite. I think the parents who don’t talk these things out with their kid and allow them to have some voice, it creates the kid who will become sneaky and do things without parental knowledge. My mom didn’t show me these things, but I did a whole lot of stuff she never knew about, because she never listened to me and just made rules. So I’ve been trying to set a balance where she knows she can always talk to me, I may not always agree with her, but I won’t just shut her down without talking. But she also isn’t asking for makeup to “feel beautiful” or anything, she just thinks it might be fun to try fun colors and dress up at home. She’s not asking to wear a full face or any of it to school. I only allow the clear lip gloss for school. But we can all agree to disagree.
I didn't see your original post, but I totally agree with you about giving the kids a voice in their creativity and new things. The problem with these types of questions on here is that people give you a hypothetical answer as to what they would do, but that answer really isn't relevant until you actually have a child that age and are handling the same scenarios.
With that said I have a 14 and 11 year DD.My older one loved to experiment with makeup earlier on and try different styles and techniques. I had no issue with it at all. The youtube videos have awesome tutorials the kids follow too. Now at 14 she wears minimal makeup on a daily basis but has amazing skill in technique and application. It had literally no negative effects on her as far as sexualization which is absurd, or growing up to fast. The only negative effect was to my wallet with buying her good palettes to try. It is really more of an art and skill to them. Some of the replies here are really ridiculous.
The op was talking about third graders wearing full face makeup on a daily basis. That's a world of difference from a 14yo (or middle schooler in general) experimenting or even starting to wear some regularly imo.
My post indicated she wore makeup well before 14. I was stating where she is at now so as to show makeup didn't ruin her life, reputation or skin.
OP you know your daughter best so I'm sure you will make the best decision for her, we dont all need to raise our kids with the same cookie cutter approach. Some kids want to show their individuality same as ear piercing, clothing choice, clip in hair extensions ect..
I got that, and that's why I indicated middle school to me was way more reasonable. You didn't specify when she started. Experimenting in 6th grade, wearing some daily in middle school I get. I mean, 14 is high school in many cases. Middle and high school is way different than third grade.
I do get what you're saying though. To each their own and it's hard to know how you'll feel before you're in the situation. My first grader desperately wanted real makeup for christmas so she got lip gloss and nail polish. She wanted pink clip in hair extensions so she made herself one out of a bow and construction paper and yes she did wear it to school lol. Wish me luck!
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