So Happy Together: A Couple Of Coupling Techniques For A Happy Marriage

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By Mia Bolaris-Forget

Do you and your mate ever get on each other’s nerves? Well, if you’re like most of us, the answer is probably an unresounding YES. But, chances are if you’re like most of us, you probably also know the couple that’s been together forever, and rarely seem to have any (significant) difficulties. They are happy, content, generally on the same page, and are just as much in love NOW as when they first met. Obviously they’re doing something right, but what exactly is it. Well, according to professionals, while it’s quite different from couple to couple, there are they agree a couple of standard practices that successful couples implement, and some may be the same advice your mama gave you.

1. Honesty Is Generally The Best Policy: Okay, so maybe you don’t feel the need to tell him that you bought another magazine or pair of shoes at lunch, but keeping information from your partner (especially when they ask) can be more harmful to the relationship the revealing the truth (as bitter or biting as it may be or seem).

Experts and happy couples agree that lies (even “little white ones”) tend to build a rift between couples, each thinking they can “get away with something” (they perhaps shouldn’t and continuing to view themselves as separate entities with “no need” for accountability to the other. In the long run, one or both parties get caught or find the lies getting bigger and spiraling out of control.

And, experts remind men and women alike that selective honesty is never good and only eats away at the stability and quality of the relationship.

2. Flex Your Flexibility Muscles: The concept that you took each other for better or for worse (within certain logical parameters) is something that successful couples understand and embrace.

According to experts, happy couples have “mastered” the art of compromise and are okay with not getting their way all the time

Maintaining a flexible attitude and each allowing the other person to enjoy things that are important to them is key. And experts remind couples that both need to be happy if the relationship is going to continue to flourish and work.

3. Sexual Healing: Seems like Marvin Gaye knew what he was talking/singing about. Experts and couples alike agree that affection and intimacy are essential to a positive and powerfully rewarding relationship.

No, sex is NOT the solution to problems, but neither is withholding it. And experts add that the more a couple bonds physically (from holding hands to getting intimate) the more they will bond emotionally.

4. Walk Away: Not only from (petty) arguments but also from each other. A good relationship requires both parties to maintain their own identity and interests apart from one another.

Besides fortifying different needs, it offers couples something to get excited about and to talk about. And experts add that the ONLY way to be part of a happy marriage/union and be able to make someone else happy is by being happy with yourself FIRST.

5. Have Faith: In your partner that is. Even if your mate has things about him or her that you don’t like or don’t necessarily agree with, it’s important to believe in your man or woman and in the relationship. Always second-guessing their choices, whereabouts, and decisions can be extremely detrimental.

According to experts if you are constantly defending yourself, or fighting for your freedom, or if you are consistently suspicious of your mate and/or their abilities to handle things, you are compromising too much, including your sanity. Healthy couples believe and trust one another and base their relationship on accepting that there is nothing to worry about.