Something About Mary: Beauty Secrets That Make Women Irresistible:

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By Mia Bolaris-Forget

We’ve all seen women of all shapes and sizes that appear simply irresistible. From their radiant smile, to the way they dress and carry themselves, they emanate an aura of raw sex appeal. Contrary to popular belief and Reality TV imagery, sexiness is determined by the confidence and positive attitude you reveal and not by how much of your cleavage or g-string your reveal. Ironically, according to experts it also has less to do with how firm your abs and assets are and more to do with how firmly you believe in yourself.

So, before getting physically in shape your may want to contemplate shaping or reshaping your mental perspective and attitude, experts say, it will help exude the poise and aplomb you need to get noticed.

1. Moving In A Positive Direction: Think about getting physical or keeping active. Whether you join a gym, or immerse yourself in housework or a project, the object here is to engage in some sort of busy activity. Besides helping pound away at the pound, keeping physically fit, also helps keep you mentally fit. Essential chemicals are released by the brain during even simple activities. This increases energy and results in making you feel better about yourself….and when you like you, so will others.

2. Develop a “Pack” Mentality: Keep in mind that if it’s true that bad company corrupts good character than the opposite too must be true. Apply a philosophy of “birds of a feather” and surround yourself with people you are fond of, would like to emulate, and believe offer something positive that you can learn and grow from. Seek out crowds that set themselves apart and stand out from the “woe is me” mentality that focuses on negativity. Regardless of height, weight, social status, look for people who truly enjoy and relish life from speaking positively to looking and acting their best…and probably attract lots of attention. Eventually, their positive outlook and their ability to easily get the right kind of attention will rub off on you.

3. Take It Off: Shed the garish attitude and attire. Remember, less is often more. Being outgoing is one thing, being childish and loud is another, and according to professionals, certainly far from sophisticated. While they encourage women to laugh out loud and be giddy they also encourage them to turn down the volume. No doubt if you’ve “got it, flaunt it” because it pays to “advertise”….but keep in mind you are advertising and “enticing” you are neither a bargain basement, clearance rack, or giving it away for free.

4. Find Yourself: As Trite and Cliché as that sounds, it’s essential for knowing who you are, what you are and what you want the world to see (because they’ll like what they see). Remember, while some things change constantly with time and experience, some things are apt to remain the same. You were not at 21 who you are or were at 25, 30, 35 ++++, yet certain intrinsic parts of your personality have remained consistent. Identify what you like about yourself and cultivate your own personal style, one that you are comfortable with and won’t have to work too hard to maintain. Once you nurture and fully develop your identity and personality, you inner strength and beauty will radiate and “camouflage” any other (minor) imperfections.

5. Think Beautiful Thoughts: It’s a common response to gape at someone who exemplifies above average physical strength and beauty. But, remove the fanfare, and if they lack depth and brilliance and/or the ability to be interesting, all you are left with is the naked truth, which is apt to be dull and boring.

According to experts, the brain is probably one of the sexiest parts of the human body. They note, that if your brain believes you are beautiful, it will enable and allow your body to exude that image almost effortlessly.

Epicurean attitude and style is reflected from the inside out; from the eyes, your smile, posture, and even how you walk and talk. When a woman feels sexy, confident, pretty, powerful, elegant, graceful etc., she “automatically” becomes all those things and the world picks up on it.

The bottom line, say experts, is learning to love your bottom, your breasts, your body and who you are, as you are, (though they DO encourage gradual and habitual self-improvement). They note that having a healthy attitude is probably the first and most important step in having and maintaining a healthy body, lifestyle, and relationships.