Exit Stage Right: Gracefully Making Your Way Out Of Awkward Situations.

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By Mia Bolaris-Forget

We have all been in situations where our social graces were challenged. In fact, it’s likely we’ve all been in situations were we wanted to either speak our mind or act upon our impulses and wiggle our way out of a less than favorable environment, conversation, or situation. But, etiquette and finesse would dictate otherwise, especially if you fear compromising your career or relationship. But, according to etiquette experts theirs is a way to be tactful and tasteful about taking control.

1. Dodging A Dismal Dinner Party: While you don’t want to insult your host or hostess you notice that there’s nothing on the menu to tempt your tastebuds including the other guests. Rather than being rude and coming up with an obvious excuse try a variety of honesty. Remember telling a lie can sometimes backfire, so, keep your explanation short and sweet, such as “I think it’s simply time for me to call it a night”. Then, don’t forget to be gracious and thank you host(s) and quietly and unobtrusively head out the door and to wherever it is you’d rather be.

2. Phone Finesse And Cutting A Conversation Short: It’s not that you don’t want to talk to your friend, but perhaps you’ve got a million and one things to do, or maybe you simply aren’t in the mood to hear about anyone else’s problems or day, you’ve got enough of your own. Whatever your reason, wrapping up rapidly can leave your friend feeling neglected and dejected. But, not paying attention or contributing to the conversation might also have a negative impact. Experts suggest listening intently and contributing what you can (to the conversation). Then, wait for a pause and simply reveal that while you’re happy to chat, there’s something that needs you immediate and undivided attention, such as picking the kids up from school, tending to dinner, etc. Ask for another convenient time to talk and be sure to follow up on your promise to make contact. According to experts, time and space will likely make the next conversation more rewarding for both of you.

3. Make An Escape From A Work Meeting: Rather than trying to “sneak” out or making an announcement as to where you are going (perhaps opening the door for others to “pry”), etiquette experts suggest instead letting you boss or supervisor know beforehand. In fact, the earlier, the better. And, if you don’t want to get into specifics, simply tell those in charge that you have to leave by a designated time. If however, you’ve not had the opportunity to inform your boss, or you other obligations arose last minute, simply take a seat at the back of the room and exit quietly. But, be sure note professionals, to leave an apology and an explanation with your boss’s assistant or receptionist. Also authorities recommend following up with your supervisor or boss the next day.

4. Exit An Unappealing Eatery: Whether it’s the ambiance you don’t like or you notice that the menu is simply too pricey for you, you may want to leave but feel compelled to stay now that you’ve been seated. But, etiquette experts suggest, even if you’ve already had your first sip of lemon water, it your right to get up and go. However, they do warn against sneaking out and seaming rude. Instead, they suggest exiting with dignity and class. Without making too much of a scene or attracting too much attention, simply thank the waiter and let him know that you have to go. And, they (the experts) add, that if he already greeted you with bread and butter that you’ve already “snacked” on and/or was extremely polite and helpful, you may want to leave a $2 to $3 tip. Finally, they add, despite your potential awkwardness, make the situation better by exiting with a congenial and cordial smile.

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