Show and Tell: How To Get Him Hooked On PDAs.

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By Mia Bolaris-Forget

With all the “big” talk guys do about their physical prowess, their love of sex and women and their (supposed) “insatiable” appetite for all of the above you think they would have also mastered the skill of effectively getting a women into bed, or at least motivating her enough to climb in herself. And while most men will “complain” about their woman’s lack of desire, most women will complain about their man’s attention deficit disorder (or his inability to pay attention to her and show her love and affection, unless he’s actually trying to “seduce” her). Remember for men sex is showing affection, for women, affection is what’s shown as a prelude to intimacy.

According to experts, getting your guy to show you a little TLC is as simple as the principle of “do unto others”, and first showing him some TLC, building his self-esteem and offering him your approval.

1. Flirt With Him: Remember how much fun it was to “toy” with guys? And, remember how eagerly and willingly they responded to your overt, yet subtle come-ons. That’s because, according to experts, guys view a women’s consent, as affirmation and approval. When you flirt with your man and come on to him it is extreme consent.

2. Exalt Him: Remember what your parents taught you, if you have nothing “nice” to say, say nothing at all. Well, experts challenge you to find something nice to say

· You’re so funny

· I love your hair (or fill in blank)

· You always have such good ideas

· You look so smart and handsome in that suit, shirt, whatever

Experts add, refraining from waiting for the most appropriate or special moment. Be impromptu and spontaneous, it has greater impact that way.

3. Include Him In Major Decisions And Ask For His Opinion: Not only will your man feel heard, but also validated, valued and respected.

4. Grin and Bear It: Flash him those pearly whites for no reason at all. Guaranteed to leave him tickled pink and speechless.

5. Remember, It’s Not What You Say But How You Say It: Nagging him, constantly correcting him, or giving him a laundry list of honey-do’s probably won’t accomplish much than arguments and resentment. Polite pleas and subtle hints combined with sincere acts of gratitude are, according to relationship experts, a much better approach.