Arrive In Style: What It Means To Be A Good Guest

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By Mia Bolaris-Forget

My husband and I often have this discussion, as he asserts that I’m always out shopping for someone or something. To clarify, he does not think that I spend too much money, but he is instead curious as to “why” so many “gift”.

When I try to explain that besides birthdays, holidays, etc. for both friends and family, it is “impolite” to go over someone’s house empty handed.

Still, he fails to understand reminding me that I’ve known these people “forever”. True enough, and while I don’t make it a habit to bring something every time, especially if we’re in a season where we are visiting quite often, I try to explain that if it’s been a while, if it’s holiday time, or if they are hosting an event (not just a casual get-together), it’s simply proper and polite to make an offering.

With that said, tis the season for giving thanks and gifts and for leaving many wondering who they should give to and what they should bring.

Basically, besides close co-workers, bosses, supervisors, etc. you should rarely if even arrive (for a first time visit) at someone’s home during the holidays empty handed. Always bring “something”, even if it’s a small token or gesture.

Think generic, something that can help with daily household function and make life easier. And, try to make it something, albeit “practical” special, and not something they’d likely splurge on for themselves. Consider some gourmet food, or a basket of their favorite goodies, replete with cheeses, fancy nuts and chocolates. And, if you’re short on cash and good in the kitchen, how about a homemade pie, cake, or cookies.

If they’re the type to entertain, think bottle of wine and perhaps a corkscrew and cork, along with some cheeses and a nice jazz CD. For guys, mom, business acquaintances think office supplies such as a calendar, notepad (maybe even featuring their name, initials, or monogram) and/or a personalized pen.

How about a festive holiday decoration such as a holiday ornament, knick-knack or even a set of holiday towels, get them monogrammed for a more personal touch.

And, don’t forget about the kids; bring something for them too. Plus, experts suggest writing a thank you note for the food, fun, and hospitality, if they prepared a special dinner or celebration just for you or one in which they included you. And, if you hadn’t brought a gift before, send one with your note.

Most of all remember to give friends and loved ones the gift of time and staying in touch. Plus, you may want to use your talents, gifts, or “pull” to share the love. Offer to stop by and help with something you excel at, if you’re a good cook, prepare a special meal, otherwise take your friends out (on the town), it’s a surefire way for everyone to relax and simply have a good time.

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