“Bad” Ideas: Why Being “Bad” Can Be Good For Your Relationship

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By Mia Bolaris-Forget

The standard joke is that once the marriage is “ON” the passion is “off”. And, in many marriages, it is; often making both parties feeling unloved, unwanted and wanting “out”.

But, while most of us, note experts, moved in together and got married was so that we can share out lives and our love/passion, it seems that familiarity often does breed “contempt” causing the once flaring flame to fizzle.

And, while many men and ladies will admit that it’s frequently the woman’s “fault”, losing interest in intimacy often due to post-wedding weight gain, children, etc., some experts suggest that men may also be a large part of the “blame”.

With their women, now at their beckoned call, most good guys, the kind that are marriage material, note experts, ditch their “bad boy” image after the “I Dos” and in many cases that makes their ladies lose interest, at least as far as between the sheets activity is concerned.

In fact, professionals point out that while guys want their women to put and effort in their appearance, women are inherently drawn to the “powerful” and the mysterious. To quote Henry Kissinger, many experts suggest that “Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac”, and “bad boys” exude power, confidence, and success and challenge their ladies by keeping them guessing. And, that’s all part of the fire and the fun.

According to experts, while most ladies want to say “I Do” to a good guy, they want to shout “YES” to a “bad boy” who possess the character and charisma to woe her by getting in her mind and under her skin, before getting into her bed. And, they add that’s because the primordial “bad boy” know his lady and know how she thinks, and he knows that she loves a good challenge.

Experts add that men in control make their ladies feel loved and wanted by taking control not only at the office and in the world but in their private world, challenging her to try to lovingly “guide” him and “change” him, which more frequently than not, keep the flame burning and the passion “hot”, even if its all an act. And, with each chasing, pursuing, and carefully calculating their next move, experts assert that the sparks are bound to sizzle offering and emotions, mental and ultimately physical rush.

And, knowing that under a strong, in control and rarely “frazzled” personal lies a truly loving, caring, sensitive guy who CAN be trusted takes “HOT” to a whole new level.

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