Is anyone else's dh completely insensitive to how they are feeling?

I feel like I want to scream everytime I'm around JT lately. My hormones are all out of whack and I'm so emotional lately, and all he tells me is that he doesn't believe in hormones, I'm just being a b!tch He's so nasty towards me lately and I feel like I hate him. He never asks me how I'm feeling, never talks to me about my doctor's appointments, etc. I went from having this great husband to being married to a complete azzhole who I want to run away from half the time. I know I'm probably being overly sensitive, but I feel like things are horrible and are never going to get better.

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I wasn't bad at all until just recently (I am 8 months) because my dr put me on medication to stop the contractions and it has made me a psycho, my dh jokes with me that he wants his wife back, I am finally able to be in a really bad mood and joke with myself about it.. Damn Hormones!!

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My DH gets like this because of all the stress for buying the house and the impending move. I know how you feel because it is so hard to explain being hormonal to a man. There is no way they can possibly understand even if they are the most sensitive man on earth...they cannot get pregnant so they cannot understand completely. DH and I talked about my hormones and I gave him some books on the subject for Christmas. A great book is "My wife is having a baby and I'm having a breakdown" another is "the expectant father". After DH read these he was a lot more sensitive. I think that men don't know if its really the hormones or us taking stuff out on them. DH said these books helped because he realized that all PG women are hormonal and I wasn't just being a beeyoch to him.
it will get better

Link to books listed above:
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/booksearch/results.asp?WRD=expectant+father&userid=0i7STuoCFH&cds2Pid=9481

Message edited 1/1/2006 11:55:58 AM.

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I will check those books out, but I know him, he'll say he'll read it, then not. I think I'm going to make my next doctor's appointment when he has off so I can have HER explain to him what the hell is going on with me.

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We are all in the same boat. My husband says all I do is whine and complain. Well, Duh help me clean the house and put your sstuff away and I will not complain. I am almost 8 months and I cant do it anymore

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My DH has been ok but I know I am definately very hormonal this time and it doesn't take much to get me upset. I wasn't like this with my first pregnancy. Maybe your DH should read one of the pregnancy books. Its talks about the hormones of pregnancy and then he will understand better.

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I got emotional once a month (funny, isn't it) and it was always over the same garbage that annoyed me. Some guys are in denial, some just don't express their emotions.

My DH has touched my belly maybe 10 times, if I'm being generous. He talks to my belly a little now trying to get her to come out, but that's it.

I just flat out tell him how the Dr appt went whether he wants to know or not (nowadays he makes me call right away to see where we stand on delivery)

It'll get better, I promise.

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I get "what's your problem?" Uhh... I don't know, I'm 9 months pregnant and need extra rest excuse me for being tired at 11pm!

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God, I just CANNOT get along with him today. I feel like I want to choke him. He purposely pushes my buttons lately, and I am just ready to scream. I just had the unfortunate experience of spending my afternoon and evening with him at my mother's house and he was being such a snot face to me that I was embarrassed infront my parents. I freaking hate feeling like I hate him. I've never felt so horrible about my relationship before.

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I'm sorry. Maybe he's just stressed out by not knowing what to expect when the baby is here? DH was ok with our first pregnancy, but for the first few weeks of this one he was really cranky and out of sorts and I finally sat him down and he admitted he was nervous about how we'd manage two small children (time wise, money wise, etc.) It made a world of difference, we were able to both admit what scared us and it's been fine ever since.

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Posted by prncssrachel

I will check those books out, but I know him, he'll say he'll read it, then not. I think I'm going to make my next doctor's appointment when he has off so I can have HER explain to him what the hell is going on with me.

Sounds like a great idea!

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Rach, I'm so sorry Hormones are REAL, and can really throw you for a loop. I TOTALLY think that JT needs to come to your next Dr's appt. and here from a "professional" that you are not imagining these things.

I am here ANY TIME you want to talk!!!!!

ETA: OK, Jims take on it is... JT's fear, anxiety and concern for you, and he doesn't know how to handle it...?

Message edited 1/1/2006 10:38:14 PM.

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Thank you to everyone who has responded. I appreciate hearing from the rest of you.

Stacy, I know JT is definitely one to worry and have anxiety, and he's not one to talk about how he's feeling, so who knows, maybe Jim is right? I don't know. I know I'm not making it any easier becauase the one second, I tell him I wish he would take on more of a role in this, and then when he asks how I'm doing or what's going on, I get mad because, HELLO, I just TOLD you to ask me, can't you at least wait an hour until I've forgotten that I had to TELL you to ask me how I'm doing? I know he can't help the fact that he has a penis, which is an automatic strike against him, but I just hate that I have to walk HIM through being a normal, caring human.