So, what do you think people would say to you if you were paraplegic instead of infertile?

I found this on fertility friend, and I thought I would share !


As soon as you buy a wheelchair, I bet you'll be able to walk again!

You can't use your legs? Boy, I wish I was paralyzed. I get so tired of walking, and if I were paralyzed I wouldn't have to walk anywhere!

My cousin was paralyzed but she started shaving her legs in the other direction and she could walk again. You should try that.
I guess God just didn't mean for you to be able to walk.

Oh, I know exactly how you feel, because I have an ingrown toenail.

Sorry, we don't cover treatment for paraplegia, because it's not a life-threatening illness.

So... when are *you* going to start walking?
Oh, I have just the opposite problem. I have to walk everywhere I go!

But don't you *want* to walk?
You're just trying too hard. Relax and you'll be able to walk.

You're so lucky... think of the money you save on shoes.

I don't know why you're being so selfish. You should at least be happy that *I* can walk.
I hope you don't try those anti-paralysis therapies. They sometimes make people run too fast and they get hurt.

Look at those people hiking... doesn't that make you want to hike?

Just relax, you'll be walking in no time.

Oh do my legs hurt, I was walking and walking and going up and down the stairs all day.

I broke my leg skiing, and was on crutches for weeks, and was worried I'd have a permanent limp, but I'm 100% healed.

I'd ask you to be in my wedding party but the wheelchair will look out of place at the altar.
You're being selfish, not coming on the hike with us, and looking at all of my track & field trophies.

Don't complain, you get all the good parking places.

If you just lose weight your legs will work again.

If you would just have more sex, you could walk!

You don't know how to walk? What's wrong with you? Here let a real man show you how to walk!

You are just trying too hard to walk. Give up, and then you'll walk.

Here, touch my legs, then you'll walk!

Just take a vacation, and the stress-break will be sure to get you walking!

When *we* were young we only had to worry about having to walk too much.

So here's a little hint. If someone you know tells you that she's trying to get pregnant and it's taking longer than expected, DON'T tell her to just relax. Don't tell her to adopt and then surely she'll get pregnant with her own child. Don't tell her that God has a plan for her. Don't say, "At least it's fun trying!" Scheduling sex with the person you love isn't fun. Getting vaginal ultrasounds every other day and intramuscular injections in your *** twice a day isn't fun. Finding out every single month that - yet again - it didn't work this month either is just. not. fun.

DO tell her that you're sorry she's going through such pain/grief/frustration. Do tell her that you're glad she told you. Do tell her that, even if you don't bring it up (because you want to respect her privacy and understand that she might not feel like talking about it sometimes), that you're there for her if she ever wants to talk or vent.

And DON'T feel that because she told you that it's okay for you to tell your other friends, children, co-workers, neighbors, cousins, mailman, whomever - unless she tells you that it's okay to do so. Your need to share news pales in comparison to her need to maintain a shred of privacy and dignity. The last thing your friend needs is to be at someone's garage sale and get unsolicited advice from said secretary's sister's cousin's dogwalker's barista about how she and her husband just need to get really drunk one night and jump in the back seat of the car. Because she's probably already tried that, too.

-The Barrenness

Re: So, what do you think people would say to you if you were paraplegic instead of infertile?

I love that Michelle!! Thanks for sharing.

I think my favorite was:

"I hope you don't try those anti-paralysis therapies. They sometimes make people run too fast and they get hurt."


I've been slowly telling people what we are currently going through and by far the most common response is "Are you sure you want to have twins?"

Like THAT'S the reason we are doing this.

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Re: So, what do you think people would say to you if you were paraplegic instead of infertile?

I actually think this is very good, thanks for sharing it.

If I hear but yoru so young one more time , Im gonna freak the F*** out soon !

Re: So, what do you think people would say to you if you were paraplegic instead of infertile?

HaHa...I am 40 and I still get the "Well, you still have plenty of time"...Really, what like another two years...that's not a lot when you've been trying for over a year and a half!!!!

Re: So, what do you think people would say to you if you were paraplegic instead of infertile?

I've been told by a few friends (without kids!!) to "just relax"

Re: So, what do you think people would say to you if you were paraplegic instead of infertile?

Posted by mrsmck

I've been told by a few friends (without kids!!) to "just relax"

Re: So, what do you think people would say to you if you were paraplegic instead of infertile?

Posted by karacg

Posted by mrsmck

I've been told by a few friends (without kids!!) to "just relax"

OMGosh you are home already????

Re: So, what do you think people would say to you if you were paraplegic instead of infertile?

Good stuff!!

Re: So, what do you think people would say to you if you were paraplegic instead of infertile?

That's great Michelle!

Thanks for sharing!!