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hbugal
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Just need to vent...
Sometimes I just feel like we cant make any freakin plans...
BM called today and said that DSD wants to see her father (translation: BM needs DH to watch DSD). Of course he's going to run over there and pick her up. He's not going to give up a chance to see her...of which I 100% understand....
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We had stuff to do today that now has to be put on hold AGAIN....
It's just so frustrating sometimes isnt it?
Vent over.
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Posted 4/15/09 1:33 PM  |
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Bops
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Re: Just need to vent...
I can't say that I "know" how you feel
( we all know my saga), but I would imagine that to be very annoying- Especially given that you know the real reason.....Try to have a good day as best you can 
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| Posted 4/15/09 2:12 PM |
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hbugal
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Re: Just need to vent...
Posted by Bops
I can't say that I "know" how you feel
( we all know my saga), but I would imagine that to be very annoying- Especially given that you know the real reason.....Try to have a good day as best you can
Im over it already. I really am...
It's just that it's not so much that he has to go and get her etc...it's that WHEN he can go pick her up is dictated AND whether or not she is sleeping over, when she goes home etc etc....KWIM?
So right now I cant plan dinner b/c he might have to take her home..I may or may NOT get to go to Borders this evening as previously planned b/c he might have to take her home...blah blah blah.
The whole thing just totally gets my panties in a bunch.
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| Posted 4/15/09 2:19 PM |
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Bops
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Re: Just need to vent...
I hear you...It should not be a matter of "convenience" for the BM and it leave you guys always having to make yourselves and your schedule wide open at her disposal...Not fair- Especially when it doesnt even go that way in a "normal" family unit environment...As always, it all boils down to mutual respect and thats something that I find most blended family situations lack ...People don't realize(or care) that their actions affect others...
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| Posted 4/15/09 2:23 PM |
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legallyblonde
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Re: Just need to vent...
That is very annoying. I deal with that all the time but I deal with it due to my DH's lack of communication with BM. Honestly, the other night I was so furious b/c I never know what the hell is going on and neither he nor her mom picked up the phone. We had to be somewhere and I was supposed to get SD but I didn't know where. So I waited and waited and finally BM called me back and said that she told DH HOURS AGO that she was keeping my SD that night b/c she was sick. DH didn't tell me b/c he "hates rehashing any memory of dealing with that a-hole". Are you kidding me? Grow up!  
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| Posted 4/15/09 6:56 PM |
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Re: Just need to vent...
I get annoyed sometimes too. It sucks having to work our plans around someone else's schedule.
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| Posted 4/17/09 1:12 PM |
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1stimemom
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Re: Just need to vent...
I know EXACTLY how you feel. This was an almost everyday thing around here for a while, until the BM had the nerve to call me up and tell me that DH "had better" leave work early to go pick them up because she was going out.  I suggested she drop them off so she wouldnt worry because I was already home. -Let me also say that this was at 8:30PM- She said, "no he is their father and can come pick them up - that is his problem". Well, I got pizzed, and yelled back at her, "It is 8:30pm! DH is not a cab srvice and this house is not a hotel or babysitting service!" She never called me again after that, and cut the crap mostly after that
ETA - I still go through it on some levels though. EX: I never know what to make for dinner util the last second, because I have no idea how many people to cook for.
Message edited 4/18/2009 9:51:44 AM.
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| Posted 4/18/09 9:50 AM |
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