i just cannot stop crying

when do the tears fade?
i know it only happened yesterday and I'm literally still in the mist of everything. I was A WHOLE LOT better yesterday until about 6 pm. Now I'm just a mess with swollen burning eyes and a faucet for a nose.

i just want to be able to not cry. It could also be the hormones still too.

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I'm sorry you are crying. but I think you should let it happen and feel what you want to feel. It's part of the healing process. I wallowed for a VERY long time..I even wallow sometimes now. Just know that it will get better...

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I am so sorry. The tears are natural. What you are going through is very hard emotionally. If you wanna cry, cry. Better to let it out than hold it in. It will get easier as time passes. You will still have your sad/bad days but you will get better and you will heal.

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Like the previous posters have said....CRY! It is natural and it is such an emotional time right now. I was practically a shut in for about 2 weeks. I needed it and you need to do what is best for you. So if that means crying, then cry. It will get better. I promise. It just takes time.

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just wanted to give you hugs i actually just responded to your thread on the TTC board it will get better!

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I am so sorry you are going through this!!!

It will be a very sad day, week, month and year.!! You need to cry ...it is all a part of the healing process! IT is tough in the beginnning. Once you get AF after having the D&C, you will start to find hope and get excited to start TTC again & to work towards your goal of having a baby. It will happen!!!


There are still hormones in your body, so that can def add to your emotions.

You will get through this!!! And we are all here to help!

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It is completely normal to cry. I cried everyday for a while. The worst for me was the time alone, especially my time to work in the car. I learned to just let the tears out, I was trying to hide my sadness from DH after a few days of the initial morning. I realized that was not a good idea. The loss will always be there but it will get easier.

My best advice is to get out of the house and find things to do, when you feel better that is. DH and I decided to visit some family a week and a half after my D&C. It really did just give me a break from the normality of home.


I still cry about the situation, even though I am fortunately PG again, its just not as often. Again its completely normal.

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Some days are better than others... I went through a few stages of acceptance and emotional responses for a while. The last miscarriage was easier because I didn't "get my hopes up" so to speak.

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It's totally normal to cry - ALOT. I've been through 2 missed miscarriages so I really do know how you feel. Cry as much as you need to. I couldn't even talk about it at all for a week or so after each loss without completely losing it. It is such a profound loss that only someone who has miscarried can truly know how painful it is. I still cry about them now from time to time - and I am almost 31 weeks pregnant.

Hang in there - You will eventually feel better.

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I remember feeling this way at the very beginning. It will get easier to deal with, even if you never truly get "over" it. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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It's totally normal to cry a LOT. Give yourself time. Even weeks afterwards, when I thought I was fine, something would set me off again.

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Love you mama

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Cry is much as you need to. It will help you move forward. The tears will stick around for a while but it just takes time. When you feel better try to keep yourself busy and go out and do things, esp with your DH. My DH and I started planning a vacation the week it happened and it was a good thing for us to do together and look forward to. You'll get through it

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you should cry! it will make you feel so much better just let it all out and I have to tell you....it does get better...with time

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it's totally normal to be going through these emotions and i know it's hard to imagine, but time does heal all wounds. it will get easier