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lipglossjunky73
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Need to vent

My job is very demanding. I take work home with me. I work long hours when I can. Sometimes I work 12-13 days.

I love what I do and I have no complaints.

I'm in the field a lot. I try to keep my calendar posted with my updated schedule, and give it to my supervisor. My boss has access to it.

But sometimes, if I deviate from my schedule ( it says "office" and I actually scheduled an appointment in the field and forget to update my schedule, or if it's last minute)my supervisor calls me frantically and my boss meets with me angry that I didn't update my schedule.

I rarely take a lunch. I always work tons of hours. No families or schools have ever complained about me being late, not showing up (which has happened in the past with others in my position).

Once in a while, if I work 13 hours, I will leave an hour early on Friday or come in late another day - if I can - but usually I can't. We are allowed to flex our schedules.

It is driving me crazy. I am off this week - my boss wants to meet with me on Monday because on Friday I was in the field all day, but on my schedule it said office because I forgot to update. It is making me ruin my whole time off with my family because I'm stressed about meeting her on Monday.

I am rarely given praise at my job - which would be ok if it weren't for being chastised for things like this.

I have documentation of everywhere I have been because I keep signed logs of my sessions and appointments.

Posted 4/1/10 5:34 PM
 
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Mushesgirl
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Re: Need to vent

you will burn out very shortly. they are overworking you. i used to work those kind of hours, and i realized that no matter how many hours i worked, the work wouldnt get done because it was too much for one person to complete, and i was being overworked and taken advantage of. I left and am super happy now and can't believe I used to work that way.

get out if you can

Posted 4/1/10 8:17 PM
 

lipglossjunky73
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Re: Need to vent

Posted by Mushesgirl

you will burn out very shortly. they are overworking you. i used to work those kind of hours, and i realized that no matter how many hours i worked, the work wouldnt get done because it was too much for one person to complete, and i was being overworked and taken advantage of. I left and am super happy now and can't believe I used to work that way.

get out if you can



I want to but DH works part time now and I can't take a chance on just leaving until I have something else lined up.... and my field right now is going through a lot of cuts Chat Icon

Posted 4/1/10 8:32 PM
 

MorningCuppaCoffee
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Re: Need to vent

I may have some leads for you, but it's work with adults. From what I have read of your posts about what you do, you may be qualified. Hang in there though!Chat Icon

Posted 4/1/10 10:16 PM
 

ihilani
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Re: Need to vent

It seems like having access to your current schedule is very important to your boss. Before your meeting, consider the obstacles you face to sharing your updated schedule and the reasons why it's important to your boss.

We have someone in our office who never lets anyone know where she is. It annoys the crap out of the rest of us.

Message edited 4/1/2010 11:06:14 PM.

Posted 4/1/10 11:05 PM
 

Kara
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Re: Need to vent

Posted by ihilani

It seems like having access to your current schedule is very important to your boss. Before your meeting, consider the obstacles you face to sharing your updated schedule and the reasons why it's important to your boss.

We have someone in our office who never lets anyone know where she is. It annoys the crap out of the rest of us.



This.

I completely understand your frustration. Trust me, the frustration is even worse for you because you are burned out. I was there all of last year and it was the WORST year of my life. Luckily, I have had some down time lately due to the nature of my job... but if I were still going at mach 10 (as I had been for about 3 years), I'd be in institutionalized now. Every minor thing would set me off with anxiety attacks and major stress.

I know how easy it is to forget to do simple things when your schedule / responsibilities are changing frequently and there aren't enough hours in the day. Still, some of these simple, seemingly minor things can wind up being more important than we realize. (And we have to keep a shared calendar, too... it's usually the farthest thing from my mind -- unless I'm trying to find someone who works for me. Then I realize the importance.)

I would go into the meeting with an open mind and a plan / strategy for keeping the calendar updated. I would explain calmly why it's not always possible for you to update your calendard, but I would also accept responsibility for "forgetting" sometimes (if that is the case).


I would also go in with some ideas as to how you can make sure your schedule is more regularly updated:

If your schedule changes while you are out of the office, do you have a way to email your supervisors or to call an admin assistant or someone else in the office who can update your schedule for you?

Do you have a blackberry for work or access to email while you are away from the office? Can you email your supervisors in the morning your plan of attack for the day?

Is this calendar a board or hard copy calendar in the office or a shared calendar in Outlook? If it's the former, can you suggest putting the calendar online and having an Outlook shared calendar for these purposes? This way, it can be updated remotely (assuming you have access to email remotely). Then you can just make it a habit to have your calendar be the first and last thing you do each day. This is what I did when faced with a similar situation.

Anyway, I'm sorry you are so stressed out and even sorrier that you are getting grief for minutia when you are doing such a stellar job.

I'm sure the meeting on Monday will be just fine. Just go in calm and with an open mind. Don't be defensive. Try to listen to them and get them to listen to you, too.

Good luck. Chat Icon

Posted 4/2/10 8:20 AM
 
 

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