I've noticed

Just so much I've changed as a person since my loss. I used to be so Happy and enjoying life...now I feel like I am so miserable, that I hate everyone..that I don't care about anyone or anything. Does anyone feel this way too.

God I can't wait to get out of this funk...will I ever? Its getting worse too. I feel like I am feeling way too sorry for myself especially TTC again...you know the frustration behind it...

Vent over but still miserable...

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First of Hugs!!!



I def know how you feel! I feel like I have just been in a funk the past few months too. I think going through a miscarriage is just so emotionally draining. You never really recover from a loss. I'm sure it get's easier when you do have a healthy baby in your arms, but you still will never for get the one you lost.

Many therapists say dealing with a miscarriages & infertility is as painful and devastating as losing an immediate family member. You go through the same emotional trauma. Give yourself the time needed! It's ok to not feel yourself right now!

I know I def do not feel like I am the happy bubbly girl I use to be. That's ok, b/c we are going through something that is emotionally draining & it's ok NOT be yourself right now.

I know what's been helping be is doing fun things for myself. I splurged and went shopping ( i figured since I've gotten fat) minds well get some new clothes to make me feel good. Get more manicures/pedicures. Excercise is a must. It is so easy to get in a Funk but excercise can help out tremendously. DO stuff for youself HUN, you need to just do things to make you happy right now during this difficult time.

And lastly...It's so normal to feel sorry for yourself! I get pi**ed every month, why me?, why not this month?

Just realize one day we will look back and this will be a bad dream. I just try to keep looking towards the future and what my life will be WHEN OUR BABY ARRIVES!!

Lot's of hugs!
Sorry for the long post, but I completely relate to everything and wanted to share what helps me!!!

Message edited 4/9/2010 9:47:10 AM.

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Posted by bride07


First of Hugs!!!



I def know how you feel! I feel like I have just been in a funk the past few months too. I think going through a miscarriage is just so emotionally draining. You never really recover from a loss. I'm sure it get's easier when you do have a healthy baby in your arms, but you still will never for get the one you lost.

Many therapists say dealing with a miscarriages & infertility is as painful and devastating as losing an immediate family member. You go through the same emotional trauma. Give yourself the time needed! It's ok to not feel yourself right now!

I know I def do not feel like I am the happy bubbly girl I use to be. That's ok, b/c we are going through something that is emotionally draining & it's ok NOT be yourself right now.

I know what's been helping be is doing fun things for myself. I splurged and went shopping ( i figured since I've gotten fat) minds well get some new clothes to make me feel good. Get more manicures/pedicures. Excercise is a must. It is so easy to get in a Funk but excercise can help out tremendously. DO stuff for youself HUN, you need to just do things to make you happy right now during this difficult time.

And lastly...It's so normal to feel sorry for yourself! I get pi**ed every month, why me?, why not this month?

Just realize one day we will look back and this will be a bad dream. I just try to keep looking towards the future and what my life will be WHEN OUR BABY ARRIVES!!

Lot's of hugs!
Sorry for the long post, but I completely relate to everything and wanted to share what helps me!!!

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I completely know how you feel...and agree with everything that Rachel said...

Loss isn't easy to deal with - and don't ever feel bad about your emotions...You're allowed to feel however you want to at that moment.

I'm definitely not the same person I was - and I think that is okay. If I were the same person I had been before my loss, then I would almost think something was wrong with me. Going through sadness and tragedy changes you. One of the things that I hate most about how I feel is that my innocence is gone. While (God willing) the next time I'm pregnant I'll be ecstatic over that, part of me will never have that over joyed excitement that I had with my first pregnancy, because as we have learned, not all pregnancies have happy endings.

You aren't alone...And any time you want to vent, go for it. We all need people who understand to lean on

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Posted by Bean08

I completely know how you feel...and agree with everything that Rachel said...

Loss isn't easy to deal with - and don't ever feel bad about your emotions...You're allowed to feel however you want to at that moment.

I'm definitely not the same person I was - and I think that is okay. If I were the same person I had been before my loss, then I would almost think something was wrong with me. Going through sadness and tragedy changes you. One of the things that I hate most about how I feel is that my innocence is gone. While (God willing) the next time I'm pregnant I'll be ecstatic over that, part of me will never have that over joyed excitement that I had with my first pregnancy, because as we have learned, not all pregnancies have happy endings.

You aren't alone...And any time you want to vent, go for it. We all need people who understand to lean on

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I think feeling different is completely normal but I like Rachels analogy to a bad dream....I really feel like someday we will all have babies and this sad memory will be that..just a memory.

I keep telling myself it's like getting engaged. I was dating my now husband for 6 years before we got engaged , by the end I was sad and angry with him for not propsing. It actually hurt our relationship for a while...but once I saw that ring all that waiting just went away and I was happy again.

I am hoping its the same with a baby...at least I am hoping! lol

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I was talking to one of my sister's about this and she said you have to give yourself some time.

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I feel exactly the same way - miserable! Hope we both feel better soon!