My co-worker lost her baby..need advice

Hi ladies,

My co-worker just lost her baby at
5 1/2 months...I am so saddened by the news. I have been so upset just thinking about it. She is such a sweet girl and this was her second child. I would really like to do something for her since my job stinks and isnt doing anything..What would be a nice thing to do for her??

Re: My co-worker lost her baby..need advice

That's so sad, I'm sorry for your co-worker. I think being there for her and not forgetting is the best thing you can do. A lot of peole move on after a friend's m/c and stop checking in or caring and that can be hard. If you want to do something more, I'd cook her a meal, that would allow her to just relax and not worry about dinner for a night or two. A friend of mine did that and I really appreciated it!

Re: My co-worker lost her baby..need advice

i am so sorry to hear that... its so sad!

I think the best gift you can give her now is to let her know that you are there for her...

Re: My co-worker lost her baby..need advice

I would get her a nice card. Tell her you are there for her anytime. You can imagine how hard it is and just want to be a friend to her.

Re: My co-worker lost her baby..need advice

Here is what I did, I know she likes caramel so I sent her a basket of apples with caramel.

The flip side of this is that i learned after the fact that the family did not want anything. No cards, no flowers, no baskets as every time the mail came or the bell rang, it was a constant reminder of what they had lost.

Everyone grieves in their own way, but I think a card is appropriate. WHen I had a m/c a friend of mine sent an edible arrangement which I appreciated.

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I would just do a card. I would also just let her know that if she needs to talk you are there. I had a loss at 5 months and it was very difficult for me...

Some people that I am close to at work IGNORED IT and I wasnt a fan of that....

Some people Spoke to me about it and it made me feel SO MUCH BETTER.

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I had a loss at 4 1/2 months.

My co-workers were very supportive. When I returned to work after the loss, I could not walk anywhere without being stopped by someone who offered a hug and some kind words. It was really special.

One of the nicest things that was done for me while going through everything was from my friends who did this thing where they got a tree planted in honor of my son.

Go to this site which is where my friends got it from. I received a card with some nice words and my son's name printed on it. It said how a tree was planted in his honor. We have the card on the display because it's printed p so beautifully. We also each got a tree charm that we keep on our keychain in remembrance of our son. Check it out, my DH and I really appreciated this

Re: My co-worker lost her baby..need advice

It really is so sweet of you to think of her at this time. I agree with the family, I had a loss at approximately 3 months, flowers, cards, etc. were just a constant reminder, it was difficult.

The best thing you can do for her is to think of her down the road a little, closer to when her due date would've been, maybe take her to lunch or go for happy hour one night, maybe get a few girls together and go get mani/pedi's - just to get her out of the house and back to doing things to make herself feel better.

In the mean time, just letting her know you are available to talk if she needs to, or even if she doesn't and wants to get out - go shopping, whatever. There is nothing good to say unfortunately everything anyone tells you in this situation kid of stinks, everyone means well but the whole thing stinks in general.

You are a good person.