I have a lot of questions

Sorry to come on here and bombard you girls with questions but this is my first time going through this and I really need support from others who have been through the same thing.

How long after your m/c were you able to start TTC again?

How many of you had the D&C or miscarried on your own? My dr is really hesistant to do a D&C, she's hoping I'll miscarry on my own. Neither sounds very pleasant.

How do you ever get over the fear of this happening again?

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i cant help you with the other questions because my issue was different...

but unfortunately its not something you will ever get over... or at least i wont be for me... you will always be worried about it happening again

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I miscarried naturally, it happened kinda fast for me. I started spotting very very lightly for a few days and then I started bleeding heavily on Christmas day and everything was passed by the time i got to the hospital.
My doc told me that I only had to wait one cycle before trying again.
In terms of getting over it, I dont think I ever will. I think I will always be scared and worried it may happen again.

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Sorry for your loss! It's so devastating and no one understands unless they have been through it. It's good you found this forum.

I had a mc 2 months ago naturally. I was a mere 5 weeks but had been trying for a year. My doctor said to wait until I finished my first men. cycle to TTC. I wasn't ready after a month and I don't know if I'm entirely ready now....I'm so anxious about the idea of it happening again.


I'm sorry again

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How long after your m/c were you able to start TTC again?
My Dr said wait 2 cycles.

How many of you had the D&C or miscarried on your own?
I had a D&C... it wasn't so bad. The recovery for me was fine.

How do you ever get over the fear of this happening again? You don't. I'm still not preggo yet but I keep thinking about when I do, I'll be a nervous wreck.

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Terribly sorry for your loss.

I was told to wait two cycles before TTC

At 6 weeks - strong heartbeat
At 8 weeks - dr. observed water on heart
At 10.5 weeks, there was no heartbeat

I opted to have a D&C and as devistating as that was...I got through it.

During the second cycle I got pregnant with my son who is now a happy and healthy 16 month old! I never got over the fear of something going wrong with that pregnancy and as I am a TTCer again, it's still a fear that is always there.

I am of a strong faith and that is what gets me through.

Best of luck to you.

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first m/c was natural. dr did one blood draw 3 days after I visited the office to make sure levels were down and told me one or two cycles.

second m/c was d&c. Due to something noticed at the d&c my new dr had me wait 6 months. He also had me get blood drawn every 2 weeks until my number was down to 0.... .. which makes me wonder if dr #1 should have been checking the blood more than just once.

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did any of your #'s continue going up even after your doctor thought you were miscarrying? My numbers were in the 2000s on saturday and they were over 6000 when they took my blood yesterday and no one knows what is going on.

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How long after your m/c were you able to start TTC again?

When I had a D&C a few years ago, I had to wait three cycles. This summer I had a natural m/c and had to wait two cycles.

How many of you had the D&C or miscarried on your own? My dr is really hesistant to do a D&C, she's hoping I'll miscarry on my own. Neither sounds very pleasant.

The first m/c was a D&C, the second was natural. The natural is a quicker healing process and you can TTC sooner. But, the most important thing is to avoid infection and take care of you, so I would do what the Dr. recommends.

How do you ever get over the fear of this happening again?

You don't. When I got pregnant again after my D&C I was a wreck until almost 20 weeks. That pregnancy was great and I had my DD. When I got pregnant this summer, I was a wreck again and did m/c. You'll always have that fear unfortunately.


I'm sorry for your loss!

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Im confused also as to why you have to wait for "sono results"??? It's all internal.....they would know right then and there.

If your numbers are going up, why do they think you are having a M/C??

How far along are you?

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I hope you get a miracle

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I hope you get a miracle

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I had a D&C and was told I only had to wait until my first period after the D&C to start TTC again (4-6 weeks)... I had my D&C on Dec 10 and just got AF yesterday