AND another pregnancy announcement (NOT MINE)- VENT

So let me preface this with saying I got AF today not like we had a good chance but we tried anyways.

So DH comes home today and is like SOOOOO.....I knew someone was pregnant immediately. One of his good friend's wife is pregnant. We hang out with them a lot. Oh and they got married last year and were planning on waiting a while so they could buy a house first. I tried to hold it in but of course the tears came. DH was good and said I knew you would be upset but I didn't want you to find out from her-the wife. He tried to make me feel better. 10 minutes later I'm in a mass text where she sends the sonogram. I don't have an Iphone so I get a message from EVERYONE she texted. Uhhh I said to DH happy for them, sad for us. He says well we have our own thing going on- Ummm yeah our own thing called IVF #3. Oh and they want to have all the close friends over on Saturday to celebrate. I don't think I can do it bc I'm sure we will get, when are you guys having kis, cmon already.

Uhhh, when will this nightmare end?

Thanks for letting me vent.

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OMG SO OBNOXIOUS. I never knew just how obnoxious posting and emailing and texting a sonogram was until now. I vow to never to do that because so many people suffer in silence…….I deleted Facebook and instagram bc of it, that and the weekly baby bump photo, the gender "reveal" party and every other torturous thing us girls have to go through. TRUST ME I GET IT. And then if you say anything outside of LIF you are evil and jealous etc etc.

Vent away bc this is the only place we can.

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I'm so sorry. Do they, especially the wife, know what you guys are going through? I personally think it is a bit excessive her celebration. I would have a really, really hard time going to that.

I remember when our first Ivf didn't work dh found out his best friend and wife were pregnant...an accident. They just had their dd and she got preg by accident 8 months later. To say it set me over the edge was an understatement.

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Awe I could have posted this myself. DH's best friends wife just announced and they just got married last year and were planning to wait. That was the first time I saw DH cry about this whole ordeal. It's really a tough road for us. Just try and be supportive and happy for them. Your turn will come and you want that same support. Just know it's okay to feel sad about it. Allow yourself to cry it out. You feel a lot better and have a better approach to it. Unfortunately, you will have to see them and act happy and bubbly. If it were me, I prob wouldn't go to the get together but I would def have a more private get together like taking them out to dinner to celebrate.

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I'm sorry, I'm going through a similar situation myself. I wouldn't be able to go to that party, and I think it is ok. You have to do what makes u feel good. You can always take her out another time. I had to turn down 2 baby shower invites this past month, I just couldn't do it. Hang in there, I feel your pain

AND another pregnancy announcement (NOT MINE)- VENT

I think st one time or another, we've all dealt with this and truly share your pain. Dealing with IF is a soul crushing hurt like no other. Don't beat yourself up if you can't go to the party. You need to do what's best for you.

AND another pregnancy announcement (NOT MINE)- VENT

I have been there and I am so so sorry. I deleted my FB for a while and changed my group of friends who felt they could not be honest to me about kids and being pregnant. It sucked. I still remember the pain of being told from a very great friend that she was pregnant through a text message.

I am telling you after having my DD I still feel bitter-jealous-hurt if I see a pregnancy posting on FB or hear about one. I keep thinking will I get a BFP again. How much will I have to go through? I would do it all in a minute- don't get me wrong I am so happy I have my miracle- but it SUCKED getting there! But so many positives came out of it.

You might want to share your story if you and DH are ok with it. It will be a long 9 months.

AND another pregnancy announcement (NOT MINE)- VENT

Thanks for your kind words and advice ladies! I also forgot to mention that our friend is probably only 8-9 weeks pregnant. Interesting they are already having a celebration tomorrow. In a way I guess the text message sono pic was better than us going there an them telling everyone in person. Hard to fake being so happy when you are thrown off guard. Also if my FET would have worked (chemical) I would of been due the same month as her so I guess thats why its hurts even more.

No, we still haven't told anyone about what we are going through. I can't deal with that right now. Maybe if I do get pregnant I will share our story but not ready for that now.

Uhhh luckily I am home and can be miserable by myself today.

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Wow 8 weeks. Must be nice to be carefree about that stuff.

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I'm sorry

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AND another pregnancy announcement (NOT MINE)- VENT

Ugh, I'm so sorry. It's the worst. I don't think there hasn't been one announcement where I didn't burst into tears. Some people just don't appreciate how lucky they are and how difficult it is for others. I've definitely had to take a break from social media because there must've been something in the water over the holidays because everyone announced.