Play date question

My granddaughter is 6 and in first grade. The kids are starting to have "playdates" and my daughter isn't sure what to do. My granddaughter also has food allergies and must have an epi pen nearby at ALL times. Her friend told her that most moms just drop their kids off and leave and come back to pick them up later. My daughter doesn't know alot of the moms in the class very well, and doesn't feel comfortable just dropping her off, but she doesn't know what to do should the time come when she's invited to play at someones house. My daughter first of all would have to make sure the parent is comfortable learning how to use the epi pen if God forbid it's needed. My daughter doesn't know if it would be right to ask if she could stay, at least for the first play date. Get to know the mom, see how the kids interract, etc. Any feedback? She doesn't want to keep her in a bubble but isnt comfortable leaving her at someones house who she doesn't even know.

Re: Play date question

If she doesn't feel comfortable leaving her DD in others house, she shouldn't do it. Would she like to have the playdates at her place?

Play date question

Not the same but my daughter has special needs. I do not leave her ever at a play date or birthday party and she is 10. I just tell the parents I have to stay and they know the issues. I also tell them no need to entertain me. I bring a book and a bottle of water and I'm good to go : ). She needs to do what makes her comfortable.

Re: Play date question

At this age I would ask to stay - at least for the first part of the play date to make sure that your granddaughter is comfortable. I would also explain the allergy and show the parent how to use the epi pen etc.

At that age I only allowed my kids to go to kids houses where I knew the parents already...I also always make sure that parents are comfortable leaving their kids at my house...if they want to drive them and drop them to me instead of me picking them up from school then that is fine by me..if they want to stay...fine by me ..if they want to ask me any questions...fine by me...the only way to gain trust is to be open and not have a closed door policy.

I have come up against parents in kindergarten who have sent a note home suggesting a play date and that they will drive my child home from school etc and given me an address to pick them up at later - no way no how...not happening. I know some moms will start jumping up and down because they work etc well my answer then is to have play dates on saturday mornings until you build up trust.