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PurpleC
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Is there kindergarten girl drama?
Im getting nervous. My daughter is starting kindergarten and already Im feeling worried about the girl drama. My daughter was in speech and tested out but was suggested at the meeting that I request one of her friends from nursery school to be in that class. The mother of the other girl was thrilled with that idea. They have known each other since they were in the 3s program at school. They are now in the same class but now when we have seen this girl at orientation and meet the teacher she excludes my daughter. She holds hands with another girl and doesn't say hi. I learned my lesson now to not request friends but I was told by the higher ups that it would help my daughter who is quiet and shy.
Im just nervous about girls being mean to her. There are 14 boys in the class and only 8 girls. I know she will be ok but its different feelings then when my son started kindergarten. Girls can be mean and Im trying to raise my daughter to not get caught up with girls who are not friendly. Im just venting but already I can see her coming home and being upset. I have spoken to the teacher to give her a heads up. I hope that this is all unnecessary nerves that Im fearing from when I went to school.
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Posted 8/31/18 10:03 AM  |
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Re: Is there kindergarten girl drama?
My son is going into 6th grade and I do not feel there was drama of any kind until 5th grade.
Most definitely not in k
ETA: I think that honestly in your situation the adults are getting way too involved in the kid's lives. If we don't make a big deal out of things, then the kids won't either. I am sure she will make plenty of friends, boys and girls
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| Posted 8/31/18 10:23 AM |
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LInMI
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Re: Is there kindergarten girl drama?
My LO is going into kindergarten too and I'm also nervous for the same reasons.
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| Posted 8/31/18 10:36 AM |
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PurpleC
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Re: Is there kindergarten girl drama?
Posted by Straightarrow
My son is going into 6th grade and I do not feel there was drama of any kind until 5th grade.
Most definitely not in k
ETA: I think that honestly in your situation the adults are getting way too involved in the kid's lives. If we don't make a big deal out of things, then the kids won't either. I am sure she will make plenty of friends, boys and girls
Thank you I agree! My son was in an integrated class since he was 3, he has some special needs and I always felt that I had to be so involved in his life and with his teachers. This year Im trying so hard to take a step back with both of my kids and let it be. He is entering general ed for the first time and will be at the same school as his sister. I know they will be fine and I know she will be too. She has other friends outside of school, good ones. Im just so nervous. One that first day of school is over with I think I will be ok.
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| Posted 8/31/18 10:45 AM |
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PurpleC
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Re: Is there kindergarten girl drama?
Posted by LInMI
My LO is going into kindergarten too and I'm also nervous for the same reasons.
Last year with my son I was so upset. This year different reasons but I hate letting them go off on their own. So sad!!
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| Posted 8/31/18 10:46 AM |
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nycgirl
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Re: Is there kindergarten girl drama?
Kids definitely have personality in K.
Yes, there is drama. But there should be enough kids in class that she can avoid it or find another friend.
My daughter was in a 3 girl group where there was some drama (interestingly very propagated by the mom of a very shy girl).
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| Posted 8/31/18 11:09 AM |
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PurpleC
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Re: Is there kindergarten girl drama?
Posted by nycgirl
Kids definitely have personality in K.
Yes, there is drama. But there should be enough kids in class that she can avoid it or find another friend.
My daughter was in a 3 girl group where there was some drama (interestingly very propagated by the mom of a very shy girl).
Really?? That sucks!! My daughter has brothers at home, I was hoping for more girls in the class but it is what it is. She tends to play more with the shy girls and become their caretaker. She gives the shy girls a voice but I know kindergarten is different. She has to find her own voice.
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| Posted 8/31/18 11:16 AM |
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LInMI
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Re: Is there kindergarten girl drama?
Posted by PurpleC
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My LO is going into kindergarten too and I'm also nervous for the same reasons.
Last year with my son I was so upset. This year different reasons but I hate letting them go off on their own. So sad!!
UGGGGGGHHHHHHHH
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| Posted 8/31/18 11:26 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Is there kindergarten girl drama?
For us, not at all.
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| Posted 8/31/18 11:28 AM |
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Re: Is there kindergarten girl drama?
There was in my daughters K class last year!
They had all of these kid run "clubs"... she would come home saying so and so said I couldn't be in their "club"..
and some friends saying "We are not your friend anymore" and it was confusing to her!
Bullying on the playground - making a "trap" to "kill" other students, forcing other children to play the games certain kids wanted...
I'm praying 1st grade is better.
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LiveItUp
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Is there kindergarten girl drama?
Unfortunately, yes, my dd experienced girl drama in pre-K and K. In pre-K, a girl dd liked and thought was her friend starting making up "teams" and would say certain kids couldn't be on their team. I made sure my dd knew that it is NOT ok to exclude kids. Then in Kindergarten she also had a couple "mean" girls in her class. I dont know how kids learn to act like that at such a young age. Maybe from older siblings? But theres no excuse for it and its just plain sad that it goes on at all, let alone with such to young children.
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| Posted 8/31/18 1:56 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Is there kindergarten girl drama?
Posted by LiveItUp
Unfortunately, yes, my dd experienced girl drama in pre-K and K. In pre-K, a girl dd liked and thought was her friend starting making up "teams" and would say certain kids couldn't be on their team. I made sure my dd knew that it is NOT ok to exclude kids. Then in Kindergarten she also had a couple "mean" girls in her class. I dont know how kids learn to act like that at such a young age. Maybe from older siblings? But theres no excuse for it and its just plain sad that it goes on at all, let alone with such to young children.
Sometimes I think they learn it from their moms to be honest judging by stories I hear about how grown ass women behave.
Luckily my DD hasn't really experienced any real drama and she's going into 3rd but I know it's possible at any time
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| Posted 8/31/18 2:10 PM |
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Aries14
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Is there kindergarten girl drama?
we didn't have any issues at that age. My youngest dd was in K last year with only 5 girls in class. It made them closer I think lol.
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| Posted 8/31/18 2:37 PM |
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StaceyWill
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Re: Is there kindergarten girl drama?
Posted by LiveItUp
Unfortunately, yes, my dd experienced girl drama in pre-K and K. In pre-K, a girl dd liked and thought was her friend starting making up "teams" and would say certain kids couldn't be on their team. I made sure my dd knew that it is NOT ok to exclude kids. Then in Kindergarten she also had a couple "mean" girls in her class. I dont know how kids learn to act like that at such a young age. Maybe from older siblings? But theres no excuse for it and its just plain sad that it goes on at all, let alone with such to young children.
My DD went through something similar in pre-K and K.
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Is there kindergarten girl drama?
Yes, kids can be mean at any age.
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MrsT809
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Is there kindergarten girl drama?
We had no issues with drama in kindergarten. Dd's class was super sweet and while they each have their close friends, they didn't have problems with kids being excluded or mean. Plenty of kids got speech or other services and no one batted an eye about it. Dd still talks about the day she got to go to speech with her bff and she felt so special.
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Re: Is there kindergarten girl drama?
Posted by LiveItUp
Unfortunately, yes, my dd experienced girl drama in pre-K and K. In pre-K, a girl dd liked and thought was her friend starting making up "teams" and would say certain kids couldn't be on their team. I made sure my dd knew that it is NOT ok to exclude kids. Then in Kindergarten she also had a couple "mean" girls in her class. I dont know how kids learn to act like that at such a young age. Maybe from older siblings? But theres no excuse for it and its just plain sad that it goes on at all, let alone with such to young children.
DD experienced something like this. Actually one particular mean girl that terrorized many children. Some of the experiences were really good teaching opportunities about the importance of being kind to everyone.
But to the OP: for the most part there is usually not much "drama" at all in K, and I'm sure your daughter will make plenty of new friends this coming year.
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Re: Is there kindergarten girl drama?
Posted by Pomegranate5
Posted by LiveItUp
Unfortunately, yes, my dd experienced girl drama in pre-K and K. In pre-K, a girl dd liked and thought was her friend starting making up "teams" and would say certain kids couldn't be on their team. I made sure my dd knew that it is NOT ok to exclude kids. Then in Kindergarten she also had a couple "mean" girls in her class. I dont know how kids learn to act like that at such a young age. Maybe from older siblings? But theres no excuse for it and its just plain sad that it goes on at all, let alone with such to young children.
DD experienced something like this. Actually one particular mean girl that terrorized many children. Some of the experiences were really good teaching opportunities about the importance of being kind to everyone.
But to the OP: for the most part there is usually not much "drama" at all in K, and I'm sure your daughter will make plenty of new friends this coming year.
I often wonder what happens to kids who are like that. The one you mention that terrorized a lot of children.
I mean they are so young. Why? What causes kids to be so mean at such a young age?
Is it just inborn?
Did someone scar them psychologically at such a young age?
It really fascinates me.
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Re: Is there kindergarten girl drama?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Pomegranate5
Posted by LiveItUp
Unfortunately, yes, my dd experienced girl drama in pre-K and K. In pre-K, a girl dd liked and thought was her friend starting making up "teams" and would say certain kids couldn't be on their team. I made sure my dd knew that it is NOT ok to exclude kids. Then in Kindergarten she also had a couple "mean" girls in her class. I dont know how kids learn to act like that at such a young age. Maybe from older siblings? But theres no excuse for it and its just plain sad that it goes on at all, let alone with such to young children.
DD experienced something like this. Actually one particular mean girl that terrorized many children. Some of the experiences were really good teaching opportunities about the importance of being kind to everyone.
But to the OP: for the most part there is usually not much "drama" at all in K, and I'm sure your daughter will make plenty of new friends this coming year.
I often wonder what happens to kids who are like that. The one you mention that terrorized a lot of children.
I mean they are so young. Why? What causes kids to be so mean at such a young age?
Is it just inborn?
Did someone scar them psychologically at such a young age?
It really fascinates me.
I'm pretty sure many times they are just copying behaviors that are being modeled at home, either by older sisters or parents.
And I also think in some cases there is a huge lack of discipline on the part of the parents.
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My older DD had a great group of kids in her K class and no drama at all. Even now she has never had drama all these years later but I think she is also (luckily) oblivious to these things and stays away from any drama situations. Even if someone didn't like her I don't think she'd get the hint 
My younger had a "mean girl" in K and she would tell me she would watch the girl be mean and rude to other kids and she didn't like it so she just kept her distance all year and interacted with her as little as possible. She is another drama avoider, like their mom thank god lol
She will be ok! All it takes is one other nice girl to bond with. She will find someone to click with. Good luck!!
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| Posted 8/31/18 4:50 PM |
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PurpleC
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Is there kindergarten girl drama?
Thank you to everyone that responded.
I often wonder why and how children can be so cruel and I think they must learn it at home or maybe they can't express themselves so they hurt others.
This one mother from my daughters kindergarten class texted me that even though the kids have gym on the first day of school there is no way she will send her daughter to school in sneakers and a dress because that looks absolutely ridiculous. I then thought well if thats what she is expressing to her daughter then her daughter may look at others and think the same thing. I honestly don't see the problem with girls wearing dresses with sneakers but thats my opinion. I wish there were more kids that were kind. Im hoping that the teacher will teach the kids about being nice to others and kindness.
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ali120206
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Is there kindergarten girl drama?
There was drama in my sons kindergarten class last year amongst the girls.
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Is there kindergarten girl drama?
Yes, Imhave twins. One no, and one yes. My DD who had a girl hurt her feelings was the "mean girl" in the class. My daughter never told the teacher but came home crying to me. The little girl said horrible things to her, and it turns out DD wasn't alone. I didn't do anything about it, but the last day of school, the teacher told me she was so proud of her for being strong. Whoa
The same DD had drama because she was wearing large bows from Amazon that weren't "real JOJo bows" ugh give me a break!
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| Posted 9/3/18 3:26 AM |
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Naturalmama
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Is there kindergarten girl drama?
I am a K teacher in a Catholic school, and last year I can tell you that the girls were already very catty. Making "teams" that excluded particular children, crying because they didn't want a certain child sitting next to them in the cafeteria. I had 12 boys and 8 girls. My personal favorite was one little girl who would bring in special gifts for only certain girls. Cards, stickers, candy. It seemed to be 5 girls who were part of this group, and the other 3 were left out. Those 3 didn't seem to mind one bit though. As a matter of fact, on Valentine's Day, that one little girl brought in mini Hershey bars for every girl except ONE! I caught her sneaking the candy for the girls to put in their backpacks while packing up to go home. She said, "I didn't bring one for V, I didn't have enough at my house". Now, I don't know if the mother knowingly let her go to school with these, or she found them and snuck them into her backpack. Either way, I cringe when I think of what this kid will be like in middle school.
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Re: Is there kindergarten girl drama?
Thank goodness I have a son, so I rarely see it and when something happens I tell him to ignore that sh!t.
I do think the parents make it worse and make things bigger than what they are. They are kids and 5yrs old. Trying to figure out who they are.
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