Sharing

My DD is abysmally bad at sharing. It’s never been her strong suit but I feel like it’s gotten worse lately. We’ll ask her to share and she’ll basically say no and either walk away with the toy or go bananas if the toy is taken from her. Today she had a massive freak out when I picked her up from school because she had to give a toy to another kid. When she eventually calmed down she agreed that she wasn’t being a good listener but she “just wanted to play for one more minute before she gave the toy away.” She was not allowed a cookie after dinner and understood why.

She’s an only child so it’s a hard thing to teach at home beyond telling her she needs to share but sharing isn’t a new concept for her- she started daycare at 6 months old so she’s never not been around other kids.

Any advice? She’s almost 4 and a fairly reasonable child in all other aspects.

Re: Sharing

What about showing her how it feels to not share

Just a example off the top of my head

You have a giant chocolate chip cookie

You split it with your husband and eat it right in front of her

Sharing

DS is almost 4 and has sharing issues. According to him, everything is his and all I hear is "that's my toy, it's mine" and it drives me crazy. His teacher said other kids in his class are the same way and they're working on it everyday. So I'm just hoping it's a phase he will grow out of.

Sharing

For the age, I would say mostly appropriate. As to what you might try, possibly a 2 minute sand timer so she knows when the sand it out, she has to let another have it. The toy itself can always go into time out, if time out doesn't seem to work on your child. Putting the toy into a time out because she is not sharing might not cause as much as a tantrum as putting her in timeout. Good luck.