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Janice
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Re: Another LIW post
Posted by Gertyrae
I believe when you invite someone to a wedding, they are not required to bring a gift. You are inviting them to participate in the celebration. For that reason, you should send a Thank you to guests for sharing the day even if they didn't bring a gift. BTW, we didn't get gifts from a lot of people at our wedding, who cares!!
COMPLETELY agree.
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JenniferEver
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Re: Another LIW post
Posted by Janice
Posted by Gertyrae
I believe when you invite someone to a wedding, they are not required to bring a gift. You are inviting them to participate in the celebration. For that reason, you should send a Thank you to guests for sharing the day even if they didn't bring a gift. BTW, we didn't get gifts from a lot of people at our wedding, who cares!!
COMPLETELY agree.
THANK YOU
I don't even get why the OP posted the question at all. it was just another "vindicate me" thread, because like the second response was "Of course you should" and she was not happy with that response at all.
Maybe these people should set a cover charge for the wedding
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| Posted 7/6/06 12:24 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: Another LIW post
Posted by JenniferEver
Posted by DebG
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
i sent everyone a thank you
if there was no gift, i worded the card differently
instead of "thank you for your generous gift"
it would be "thank you for sharing our special day"
Thats exactly what we did. I wanted people to know that I appreciated thier effort in coming out and sharing our day. I honestly don't see what the big deal is though. People get crazy with this crap
I agree with both.
I think you should thank them for sharing in your special day.
Exactly....
you were inviting them to your wedding...
you are thanking them for coming to your wedding
thanking someone purely on gift giving IMO is just tacky
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| Posted 7/6/06 5:11 PM |
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juju
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Re: Another LIW post
My boss didn't give me a gift or card. Afterwards, not even a gesture "I enjoyed your wedding" .... nothing.
I sent her a thank you for coming to our wedding. I must say it was quite awkard working for her for over 1 year after my wedding. It was only the two of us in our office. But, I wanted to be the better person. I didn't expect a gift.....but, I did expect her to say something nice about my wedding. She obviously had issues!
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| Posted 7/6/06 7:31 PM |
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johnsae
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Re: Another LIW post
I was the original poster, and believe me I had NO idea that the post would cause so much drama. I genuinely wanted to know what other people do when they are in the situation I am in. I really am dissapointed that it got out of hand and it somehow turned into an issue about expecting gifts, when all I really wanted to know is how people felt about sending a thank you to those that came to my wedding, didn't even say hello or congratulations. So much for a friendly "little" poll.
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| Posted 7/6/06 7:59 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: Another LIW post
Posted by johnsae
I was the original poster, and believe me I had NO idea that the post would cause so much drama. I genuinely wanted to know what other people do when they are in the situation I am in. I really am dissapointed that it got out of hand and it somehow turned into an issue about expecting gifts, when all I really wanted to know is how people felt about sending a thank you to those that came to my wedding, didn't even say hello or congratulations. So much for a friendly "little" poll.
i don't think it caused any drama at all
now you got more thoughts
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| Posted 7/6/06 8:05 PM |
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saraH
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Re: Another LIW post
i think emily post on liw created the drama with her high and mighty attitude. she will feel muchh differently after she goes through her envelopes and realizes who gave her what and who stiffed her
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| Posted 7/6/06 8:11 PM |
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Re: Another LIW post
I think you should send a TY because you thanking them for being there on your special day, just leave out the part about the missing gift.
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| Posted 7/6/06 8:13 PM |
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johnsae
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Re: Another LIW post
Posted by Redhead
Posted by johnsae
I was the original poster, and believe me I had NO idea that the post would cause so much drama. I genuinely wanted to know what other people do when they are in the situation I am in. I really am dissapointed that it got out of hand and it somehow turned into an issue about expecting gifts, when all I really wanted to know is how people felt about sending a thank you to those that came to my wedding, didn't even say hello or congratulations. So much for a friendly "little" poll.
i don't think it caused any drama at all
now you got more thoughts
 I have lots of opinions at least
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| Posted 7/6/06 8:17 PM |
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MrsS2005
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Re: Another LIW post
Posted by Ali1
Posted by Beaver2be
Posted by Redhead
sorry....
IMO a TY is for comming to the wedding NOT for a gift
EXACTLY...I think its very rude to NOT send a TY if someone did attend and did not give you a gift...
Well my feeling is that I find it beyond rude to go to a wedding and not even buy a 99 cent card to say congrats to the couple.
I got a card from someone with no gift and sent them a TY (they came from out of town), but the ones who gave nothing to me don't deserve my time and energy to be polite and send a TY for coming to my wedding. In my eyes they came to the wedding to enjoy themselves more then caring to spend the day with me and DH. (At least that is my feeling for the stiffers at my wedding).
It's a personal choice in the end. But I in no way think it is rude that I didn't send a TY to someone who didn't even have the common decency to say congrats to me and my DH. And seriously these same people who find it okay to do that, i don't think are sitting around saying gosh i think it is so rude of so and so not to send me a TY for coming to their wedding.
I completely agree. At the reception, we went around to each table and personally thanked our guests for coming and sharing in our day. If they didn't even bother to buy us a card, I think our thank you at the reception was sufficient. I don't see the need to write a formal thank you to those people.
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| Posted 7/7/06 9:18 AM |
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MsMBV
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Re: Another LIW post
Posted by johnsae
I was the original poster, and believe me I had NO idea that the post would cause so much drama. I genuinely wanted to know what other people do when they are in the situation I am in. I really am dissapointed that it got out of hand and it somehow turned into an issue about expecting gifts, when all I really wanted to know is how people felt about sending a thank you to those that came to my wedding, didn't even say hello or congratulations. So much for a friendly "little" poll.
Believe me Johnsae, I feel your pain here. I had the same issue happen to one of my posts regarding if people "Covered the plate." At the time there was a lot of discussion on LIW about guests "covering the plate" so when I was writing things about my day that I did not put in my review, one of them was that people, whether you think they will or not do not always cover the plate. I personally did not care if someone covered the plate, but since there was an ongoing swarm of posts about this I decided to post my real-life experience with it. WELL, the responses & FMs I got were soooo rude and they called me everything from a gold-digger to accusing me of using my DH just to get $$. (Which is really funny b/c I was making a whole lot more money than him in my last job that I gave up to get married to him, but whatever).
The thing that cracked me up the most is that it was a select few of the Brides-to-be that were so vicious and rude. Most of the BTDT brides were sharing their similar stories. Just like on your post, most of the BTDT brides just simply told you their experience & let it go...it was mainly the one or two B2B in particular that found the drama in your post.
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| Posted 7/7/06 9:29 AM |
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johnsae
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Re: Another LIW post
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by johnsae
I was the original poster, and believe me I had NO idea that the post would cause so much drama. I genuinely wanted to know what other people do when they are in the situation I am in. I really am dissapointed that it got out of hand and it somehow turned into an issue about expecting gifts, when all I really wanted to know is how people felt about sending a thank you to those that came to my wedding, didn't even say hello or congratulations. So much for a friendly "little" poll.
Believe me Johnsae, I feel your pain here. I had the same issue happen to one of my posts regarding if people "Covered the plate." At the time there was a lot of discussion on LIW about guests "covering the plate" so when I was writing things about my day that I did not put in my review, one of them was that people, whether you think they will or not do not always cover the plate. I personally did not care if someone covered the plate, but since there was an ongoing swarm of posts about this I decided to post my real-life experience with it. WELL, the responses & FMs I got were soooo rude and they called me everything from a gold-digger to accusing me of using my DH just to get $$. (Which is really funny b/c I was making a whole lot more money than him in my last job that I gave up to get married to him, but whatever).
The thing that cracked me up the most is that it was a select few of the Brides-to-be that were so vicious and rude. Most of the BTDT brides were sharing their similar stories. Just like on your post, most of the BTDT brides just simply told you their experience & let it go...it was mainly the one or two B2B in particular that found the drama in your post.
I feel like I'm watching a train wreck or something....it's completely out of control. Has been quite entertaining though (albeit frustrating at times)
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