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saraH
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I know that God exsists, I held her in my arms...

if your son/daughter was getting married

in 5 months, would you have major ELECTIVE surgery?

that has a long recovery process. or would you wait until after the wedding? or would you have had it done a year in advance??


tia

Message edited 2/23/2006 12:29:34 PM.

Posted 2/23/06 12:28 PM
 
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dandr10199
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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married

If it was truly elective, probably not.

Posted 2/23/06 12:29 PM
 

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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married

Possibly, depends on what it is and how badly I thought I needed it.

Posted 2/23/06 12:29 PM
 

saraH
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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married

its not for health reasons.

Posted 2/23/06 12:30 PM
 

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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married

Posted by dandr10199

If it was truly elective, probably not.



Probably not. Is this a MIL/FIL that wants cosmetic surgery to look better for the wedding?Chat Icon

Posted 2/23/06 12:31 PM
 

saraH
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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married

Posted by Tah-wee-ZAH

Posted by dandr10199

If it was truly elective, probably not.



Probably not. Is this a MIL/FIL that wants cosmetic surgery to look better for the wedding?Chat Icon



my fmil is getting her stomach banded next month...a month before her girlfriends daughters wedding and 5 months before mine and her son's. i asked her why not wait and she said she doesn't like the way she looks in pictures.

no one is going to be looking at her anyway...she just wants to be the center of attention

Posted 2/23/06 12:33 PM
 

LI2VA
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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married

Posted by Tah-wee-ZAH

Posted by dandr10199

If it was truly elective, probably not.



Probably not. Is this a MIL/FIL that wants cosmetic surgery to look better for the wedding?Chat Icon



Thats what I was thinking too

Posted 2/23/06 12:33 PM
 

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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married

Posted by BNL2005

Posted by Tah-wee-ZAH

Posted by dandr10199

If it was truly elective, probably not.



Probably not. Is this a MIL/FIL that wants cosmetic surgery to look better for the wedding?Chat Icon



my fmil is getting her stomach banded next month...a month before her girlfriends daughters wedding and 5 months before mine and her son's. i asked her why not wait and she said she doesn't like the way she looks in pictures.

no one is going to be looking at her anyway...she just wants to be the center of attention



what's the recovery period?

Posted 2/23/06 12:35 PM
 

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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married

I would wait...

Posted 2/23/06 12:35 PM
 

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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married

My mom had a tummy tuck done and it was 7 months prior to my wedding(in April). Her recovery has been great and if anything looks even more amazing in her dress.
Something she had to do for herself.

I dont know what "stomach banded" is but
maybe it is to look better and recovery shouldnt be to bad that it would cause her pain at ur wedding.

Posted 2/23/06 12:36 PM
 

saraH
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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married

Posted by mrsv1015

Posted by BNL2005

Posted by Tah-wee-ZAH

Posted by dandr10199

If it was truly elective, probably not.



Probably not. Is this a MIL/FIL that wants cosmetic surgery to look better for the wedding?Chat Icon



my fmil is getting her stomach banded next month...a month before her girlfriends daughters wedding and 5 months before mine and her son's. i asked her why not wait and she said she doesn't like the way she looks in pictures.

no one is going to be looking at her anyway...she just wants to be the center of attention



what's the recovery period?



in her mind, she'll be eating in a month...but she has stomach problems to begin with so who knows.....my point is that she should wait or have had it done already..

Posted 2/23/06 12:36 PM
 

dandr10199
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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married

Posted by BNL2005

Posted by mrsv1015

Posted by BNL2005

Posted by Tah-wee-ZAH

Posted by dandr10199

If it was truly elective, probably not.



Probably not. Is this a MIL/FIL that wants cosmetic surgery to look better for the wedding?Chat Icon



my fmil is getting her stomach banded next month...a month before her girlfriends daughters wedding and 5 months before mine and her son's. i asked her why not wait and she said she doesn't like the way she looks in pictures.

no one is going to be looking at her anyway...she just wants to be the center of attention



what's the recovery period?



in her mind, she'll be eating in a month...but she has stomach problems to begin with so who knows.....my point is that she should wait or have had it done already..



I agree

Posted 2/23/06 12:37 PM
 

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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married

It's a little close to wedding a month after the scheduled surgery but 5 months after should be no problem what so ever for your wedding.

Message edited 2/23/2006 12:38:38 PM.

Posted 2/23/06 12:37 PM
 

saraH
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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married

i hear what you are saying, i'm just annoyed that she suddenly is deciding to do this right now...and yes, she has a weight problem but is tooo lazy to diet and/or exercise. she seems to think this is a quick fix; she has got another think coming

Posted 2/23/06 12:40 PM
 

LI2VA
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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married

Posted by BNL2005

Posted by mrsv1015

Posted by BNL2005

Posted by Tah-wee-ZAH

Posted by dandr10199

If it was truly elective, probably not.



Probably not. Is this a MIL/FIL that wants cosmetic surgery to look better for the wedding?Chat Icon



my fmil is getting her stomach banded next month...a month before her girlfriends daughters wedding and 5 months before mine and her son's. i asked her why not wait and she said she doesn't like the way she looks in pictures.

no one is going to be looking at her anyway...she just wants to be the center of attention



what's the recovery period?



in her mind, she'll be eating in a month...but she has stomach problems to begin with so who knows.....my point is that she should wait or have had it done already..




Your right if she's gonna do it, it needs to happen now!!

Posted 2/23/06 12:41 PM
 

saraH
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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married

she is having it done the end of next month....but, here is another problem....she wanted to have it done in january, but couldn't. before she knew all this, she spoke to her girlfriend whos daughter is getting married in april. she told her, that if she couldn't have it in feb., she'd WAIT until after liz's wedding....so why is she not waiting?

yes, there are no answers and i'm just venting..but she gets on my nerves with this sh!t....

Posted 2/23/06 12:44 PM
 

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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married


[/QOUTE]

fmil is getting her stomach banded next month...a month before her girlfriends daughters wedding and 5 months before mine and her son's. i asked her why not wait and she said she doesn't like the way she looks in pictures.

no one is going to be looking at her anyway...she just wants to be the center of attention


No one is going to be looking at her anyway???
Wheeeewwww.... boy is someone having a Bridezilla moment!

Its none of your business what she does to her body,I would be supportive of her. I have experience with patients like these,you must be significantly overweight in order to have this type of surgery,plus other health factors go with it hand in hand..ex:hypertension,high BMI,diabetes,sleeping disorders,high risk for stroke,heartattack..I could go on & on.

Clearly.. YOU ARE THE BRIDE, ALL EYES WILL BE ON THE BRIDE for that day. No one will steal the show..but its just that,your wedding is only one day- your MIL is making a life change. In 5 months,she will be well on the road to recovery.

Flame away....

Posted 2/23/06 12:46 PM
 

LI2VA
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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married

Posted by BNL2005

she is having it done the end of next month....but, here is another problem....she wanted to have it done in january, but couldn't. before she knew all this, she spoke to her girlfriend whos daughter is getting married in april. she told her, that if she couldn't have it in feb., she'd WAIT until after liz's wedding....so why is she not waiting?

yes, there are no answers and i'm just venting..but she gets on my nerves with this sh!t....



she's your FMIL, its her lifes work to get on your nerves.Chat Icon

Posted 2/23/06 12:47 PM
 

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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married

Posted by mrsv1015

Posted by BNL2005

she is having it done the end of next month....but, here is another problem....she wanted to have it done in january, but couldn't. before she knew all this, she spoke to her girlfriend whos daughter is getting married in april. she told her, that if she couldn't have it in feb., she'd WAIT until after liz's wedding....so why is she not waiting?

yes, there are no answers and i'm just venting..but she gets on my nerves with this sh!t....



she's your FMIL, its her lifes work to get on your nerves.Chat Icon



True!! Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 2/23/06 12:48 PM
 

saraH
happy birthday sweet kate!

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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married

Posted by andri


[/QOUTE]

fmil is getting her stomach banded next month...a month before her girlfriends daughters wedding and 5 months before mine and her son's. i asked her why not wait and she said she doesn't like the way she looks in pictures.

no one is going to be looking at her anyway...she just wants to be the center of attention



No one is going to be looking at her anyway???
Wheeeewwww.... boy is someone having a Bridezilla moment!

Its none of your business what she does to her body,I would be supportive of her. I have experience with patients like these,you must be significantly overweight in order to have this type of surgery,plus other health factors go with it hand in hand..ex:hypertension,high BMI,diabetes,sleeping disorders,high risk for stroke,heartattack..I could go on & on.

Clearly.. YOU ARE THE BRIDE, ALL EYES WILL BE ON THE BRIDE for that day. No one will steal the show..but its just that,your wedding is only one day- your MIL is making a life change. In 5 months,she will be well on the road to recovery.

Flame away....


no flames, but please get a grip...you don't know my fmil and the kind of crap she pulls. if she didn't go back and forth so many times about this tuff, i would be supportive, but after the 9th or 10th time enough is enough. she is just lazy and has no idea that this is a major change in her lifestyle.

Posted 2/23/06 12:48 PM
 

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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married

Posted by andri

Clearly.. YOU ARE THE BRIDE, ALL EYES WILL BE ON THE BRIDE for that day. No one will steal the show..but its just that,your wedding is only one day- your MIL is making a life change. In 5 months,she will be well on the road to recovery.

Flame away....



Except that in some cases, there are complications. If that were to occur, isn't there a possibility that she might not even make the wedding? That is what I would be concerned about.

To the original poster, I do know someone who had this surgery - all was smooth and within 5 months, all was fine and the person was back to their regular routine.

Posted 2/23/06 12:50 PM
 

saraH
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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married

Posted by dpli

Posted by andri

Clearly.. YOU ARE THE BRIDE, ALL EYES WILL BE ON THE BRIDE for that day. No one will steal the show..but its just that,your wedding is only one day- your MIL is making a life change. In 5 months,she will be well on the road to recovery.

Flame away....



Except that in some cases, there are complications. If that were to occur, isn't there a possibility that she might not even make the wedding? That is what I would be concerned about.

To the original poster, I do know someone who had this surgery - all was smooth and within 5 months, all was fine and the person was back to their regular routine.



its funny you bring that up, b/c i told her that if anything, you'll just miss the wedding. thats the worst that could happen.....ohhh, she did not like that...Chat Icon

Posted 2/23/06 12:52 PM
 

andri
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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married

Posted by BNL2005

Posted by andri


[/QOUTE]

fmil is getting her stomach banded next month...a month before her girlfriends daughters wedding and 5 months before mine and her son's. i asked her why not wait and she said she doesn't like the way she looks in pictures.

no one is going to be looking at her anyway...she just wants to be the center of attention



No one is going to be looking at her anyway???
Wheeeewwww.... boy is someone having a Bridezilla moment!

Its none of your business what she does to her body,I would be supportive of her. I have experience with patients like these,you must be significantly overweight in order to have this type of surgery,plus other health factors go with it hand in hand..ex:hypertension,high BMI,diabetes,sleeping disorders,high risk for stroke,heartattack..I could go on & on.

Clearly.. YOU ARE THE BRIDE, ALL EYES WILL BE ON THE BRIDE for that day. No one will steal the show..but its just that,your wedding is only one day- your MIL is making a life change. In 5 months,she will be well on the road to recovery.

Flame away....



no flames, but please get a grip...you don't know my fmil and the kind of crap she pulls. if she didn't go back and forth so many times about this tuff, i would be supportive, but after the 9th or 10th time enough is enough. she is just lazy and has no idea that this is a major change in her lifestyle.


I didn't mean to come on so strong..& I'm not supporting her persay..just ppl that elect to take such drastic measures to "BETTER" their lives. Didn't she need to get a psych evaluation? I remember that was a requirement of all patients we processed...you can't be on the fence bout such a big thing. Either yes/no.

Plus,as a mom w/ a Chat Icon one day I'll be "The MIL" .. I'd be so hurt if my FDIL said.. no ones gonna notice me anyway

Posted 2/23/06 12:54 PM
 

saraH
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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married

i just meant that as a bride (zilla) Chat Icon yes i am part of teh center of attention...people will see her, but hopefully pay more attention to me.

as far as the steps and what have you, i don't know what she went through. she just told me the date was booked. i don't talk to her about it. b/c it upsets me and she doesn't understand why and i can't explain why to her...

Posted 2/23/06 12:57 PM
 

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Re: if your son/daughter was getting married

Sara..you are the SWEETEST "bridezilla" (Chat Icon ) I've ever met!! Chat Icon

Posted 2/23/06 1:14 PM
 
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