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adviceplease
LIF Infant
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Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
I know this seems strange but I am curious to see how the results will turn out.
If you have read my situation already then this will be easy. If not, check my other thread for more clarification.
But, how many of you think that you would consider ending your marriage if your SO kissed someone else?
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Posted 2/23/06 6:00 PM  |
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Janice
Sweet Jessie Quinn
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Janice
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
 sorry you are going through this. For me personally, no. I would not leave him for kissing someone else. (but I would never tell him that )
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:01 PM |
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Redhead
You Live, You Learn
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Jennifer
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
the polls are never accurate
so i wouldn't go by them
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:02 PM |
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adviceplease
LIF Infant
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
Thanks for responding again.
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:02 PM |
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CowgirlChick97
Nike. Just do it.
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Brianna
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
i don't think i would leave him...but i wouldnt feel the same way....if he was drunk n didnt know he was doing, tahts one thing (STILL WRONG)
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:02 PM |
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adviceplease
LIF Infant
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
Posted by Redhead
the polls are never accurate
so i wouldn't go by them
Don't worry, I will NOT base any decision by it. I am just curious to see what everyone's initial reaction to this is. Thank you 
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:03 PM |
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Redhead
You Live, You Learn
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Jennifer
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
As for me
in my heart...i think i could never forget something like that
I think i would turn into something and someone i wouldn't never want to be
BUT i think that it may be worth at least trying...and if i went down that bad road...THEN i would have to leave
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:04 PM |
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adviceplease
LIF Infant
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
Posted by Redhead
I think i would turn into something and someone i wouldn't never want to be
That's what I am afraid of.
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:05 PM |
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Redhead
You Live, You Learn
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
Posted by adviceplease
Posted by Redhead
I think i would turn into something and someone i wouldn't never want to be
That's what I am afraid of.
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:06 PM |
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MrsERod
Praying for Everyone.
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MrsERod™®
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
Posted by adviceplease
Posted by Redhead
I think i would turn into something and someone i wouldn't never want to be
That's what I am afraid of.
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:09 PM |
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beena
Sitting on a tree bench!
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Gina
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
Posted by Janice
sorry you are going through this. For me personally, no. I would not leave him for kissing someone else. (but I would never tell him that )
ditto
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:12 PM |
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MissingLI
Such a Big Boy!
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C
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
Posted by Redhead
As for me
in my heart...i think i could never forget something like that
I think i would turn into something and someone i wouldn't never want to be
BUT i think that it may be worth at least trying...and if i went down that bad road...THEN i would have to leave
I completely agree. I don't know what I would do or how I would handle it. I'm so sorry for this situation.
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:15 PM |
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Palebride
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
I have no idea
i honestly can't ever see Dh doing that - so it's hard to even imagine how I would react.
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:19 PM |
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adviceplease
LIF Infant
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
Thanks for all of the hugs everyone.
You know, all I want to do is be able to talk about this with my mom. We talk about everything. And for his sake, I don't want to tell her. But it kills me that I can't go to her for this. 
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:19 PM |
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Janice
Sweet Jessie Quinn
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
I totally understand you not going to your mom....is there anyway you can vent to his mom though? Personally, I don't get along with mine, but if this ever happens to me, I think I would do that. She would not judge him and would still love him.
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:22 PM |
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adviceplease
LIF Infant
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
Posted by Janice
I totally understand you not going to your mom....is there anyway you can vent to his mom though? Personally, I don't get along with mine, but if this ever happens to me, I think I would do that. She would not judge him and would still love him.
No way! I am super close to my mom and although I love my MIL, I would never go to her with something. Plus, she would tell everyone. But thanks for the suggestion.
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:23 PM |
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Redhead
You Live, You Learn
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Jennifer
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
i would be very hesitant in going to my mom about this too
But ultimately i would have to...in the hopes that she would never act on any anger in my behalf
Eventually you will have to talk to someone about it or this might eat you alive
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:24 PM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
I don't think I would leave over kissing. From some of the other things you said, it does sound like it's more then just the kissing incident. I think you should take some time to yourself before you make any decisions. Is there some place you could get away too for a few days?
I would also start counseling for me, so I can work through my feeling and really try to find out what I want.
I hope everything turns out the way you wish it too.
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:24 PM |
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
Posted by adviceplease
Thanks for all of the hugs everyone.
You know, all I want to do is be able to talk about this with my mom. We talk about everything. And for his sake, I don't want to tell her. But it kills me that I can't go to her for this.
I think, in the long run, it's better for his future relationship with her that you don't. I know from things that happened in my family that airing the laundry to family members, no matter how close, can make things worse. Your mom would be so angry and hurt on your behalf. While your DH may not be deserving of your selflessness at this point, it may be better not to involve your mom.
You're really strong for dealing with this. I hope it all works out for you.
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:25 PM |
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IGLover
Y'all come back now, ya hear!!
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
I am really sorry you are going through this.
But for me, I would never be able to trust him to go out alone again. And it would end up ruining our relationship, and I could never kiss him the same way again.
My heart goes out to you
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:25 PM |
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robynfs
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
I am someone who is just about divorced because my husband cheated, but not physically....or will never know the extent of the "relationship". I just thought about trust....could i ever have it in the relationship again. The answer to me was no....but others may feel differently.
Good Luck...you need to do what is right for you...not what others would do. You never really know unless you are in the situation.
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:25 PM |
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adviceplease
LIF Infant
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
Posted by Redhead
i would be very hesitant in going to my mom about this too
But ultimately i would have to...in the hopes that she would never act on any anger in my behalf
Eventually you will have to talk to someone about it or this might eat you alive
Yes, I am looking into therapists. And I may tell my husband that I need to tell my mom. My mom would never take it out on him. She is very rational and would just help me through it.
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:25 PM |
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adviceplease
LIF Infant
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
Posted by KristenNYC
I am really sorry you are going through this.
But for me, I would never be able to trust him to go out alone again. And it would end up ruining our relationship, and I could never kiss him the same way again.
My heart goes out to you
Thank you.
The thing is, I don't care if he goes out. I don't think about him doing it again. I am just SO hurt that he did it.
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:30 PM |
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Bri
I Love You to Pieces!
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Brianne
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
I dunno . . . I just feel that I would never feel the same again after knowing he kissed someone else . . .
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:32 PM |
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Shanti
True love
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Re: Needed Advice -For those of you who know the story...
I think you know what the right answer for you is in your heart...
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| Posted 2/23/06 6:35 PM |
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