Thank yous ?

I was reading a thread yesterday about someone being upset that they didn't get a ty from a bridal shower and a wedding.
Now don't get me wrong, i think it is rude.

BUT to be honest i could care less if i got one. I do like getting the little pic in a wedding TY but otherwise....i could careless if i got a shower TY, a birthday TY. I guess if i sent the gift, well then i would like a ty card. BUT if i was there and saw the person open the gift and say thanks...that is good enough for me....I do not need a little card 2-3 days later saying the same thing....IMO waste of a stamp

what do you all think?
DO you like TY's?
Do you not care either way?

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I don't really care either way - I certainly won't think less of someone if they don't send one. But on the other hand, I do like it when I get a TY - - -

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i don't care about birthday thank you's... But big gifts, like shower and wedding, I care about.

I didn't go to a friends wedding, but I sent her a gift. Her wedding was in july, i sent the gift in september, and I got a thank you over IM about a month ago.

I guess growing up my mom was always very big about sending thank you cards for everything, so now I expect them too.

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Posted by CaptainCharisma424

Posted by Redhead

I was reading a thread yesterday about someone being upset that they didn't get a ty from a bridal shower and a wedding.
Now don't get me wrong, i think it is rude.

BUT to be honest i could care less if i got one. I do like getting the little pic in a wedding TY but otherwise....i could careless if i got a shower TY, a birthday TY. I guess if i sent the gift, well then i would like a ty card. BUT if i was there and saw the person open the gift and say thanks...that is good enough for me....I do not need a little card 2-3 days later saying the same thing....IMO waste of a stamp

what do you all think?
DO you like TY's?
Do you not care either way?

i could care less, too much time, too much effort, waste of paper

but i am a guy

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I don't really care either way. Like red said if you were already there and they thanked then that should be enough. It would bother me a little if I wasn't there and I sent a gift and they didn't send me a TY card.

For my bridal shower, my mom attached thank you cards to the favors thanking all the guest for coming and for their gifts. So I never mailed out thank you cards after my shower. Didn't need to...It would have been a waste. Had my mom not done the cards then I would have done it but thank god my mom took care of that for me. I did send out special thank you's to my mom and bridal party for all their work in planning my shower.

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If I personally hand the gift to someone I certainly don't expect a thank you.

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i would except one for a wedding or shower - but i don't think i'd notice if i never got one for a birthday or something like that.

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Nah, I don't ever expect them.
If you don't expect things, then you can't be mad when they don't happen.

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I don't expect them for birthday or Christmas gifts but I do expect them (and in a ralatively timely fashion) for any formal party like a shower, wedding, christening, communion, etc. I don't count the Thank you for sharing my day notes on the favors as a real thank you note.

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i dont care either way

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Im kinda big on thank you's. Well not big but I expect them and I think the only reason I expect them is because I'm such a stickler about doing them myself.

I dont know WHERE I got it from( maybe all the slack from not thanking people as a child..lol) but I send thank yous for everything...

And I like when I get one, not so much to even say thank you for this that or the other thing..but to show someone appreciated something.

I gave away some of my old wedding stuff on LIW and someone who I gave stuff too sent me a formal thank you. I didnt need that, but it sooo nice to see they appreciated it.

eta- I never got a TY for a wedding gift from like 2 years ago and I still wonder..we'll did they get it, was it not enough? LOL ..why didnt I get a TY? he he he. I Dont CARE really, but I wonder why because its typically done.

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I really don't curr!

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I don't really care either way, but I do like to get the TYs for weddings because of the pic!

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I disagree. I get offended when people don't send thank yous.

Or, how we went to that Communion. We gave $125 check. Our "thank you" card didn't even say "thank you".

It was a 2 liner saying "I'm glad you came. It was nice to see you."

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HMMM

Birthday/christmas gifts don't expect but big gifts Christening/sweet 16/ confirmation/shower/wedding I expect.

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I wonder the same thing about a wedding gift that I didn't get. I sent out my Invites and invited this girl from high school and ONLY because the last time I saw her she kinda invited herself. Well the day she got the invite she called me up and said Oh I got your invite Im getting married too.. THIS FRIDAY!! She DROPPED the invitation off at my house. And I still went gave her a nice gift and THEN she never showed up for our wedding Im still waiting for that thank you....JUST PLAIN RUDE Im always thinking hmmmm Did she get it?

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I could care less...I throw them out as soon as I get them anyway...a person has a lot of time on their hands to be worried about whether they get a thank you note...jmo

I do agree that it is rude to not send them out especially for a wedding...but like Red said shower, b-day...not something I'm going to fret about

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I expect a thank you for a wedding or shower gift. It really bothers me that people don't have the courtesy to thank me for the gift I gave them.

I took the time to buy you a card/gift/money...you should have the courtesy to thank me for it. It's just plain rude IMO.

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I guess I'm in the minority. I expect a TY for almost all gifts. I think it's rude not to send one, and I do appreciate all TY notes that I receive.

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I think it's nice when you get them but I don't care that much if I don't get one, even though I do think it's rude. But for a wedding, after everything I went through with my thank you's, if I didn't get one from someone it would bug me more.