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I don't think our neighboors like us (vent...long...sorry)

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MRSJLK
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I don't think our neighboors like us (vent...long...sorry)

we live in a co-op...and the every now and then we see our neighbor's around our building and we always are very nice to them. Well the other day I rode the evelvator with one of them (i was outside w/ a friend who wanted to smoke because I don't like cig smoke in the apt) and she held her nose close during the whole elevator trip. I know cig smoke can be offensive to some people, but I just thought that it was a little rude. And then yesterday I rode the elevator up with another neighbor who I never seen before and didn't know he lived across the hall from us and when I got out of the elevator I didn't hold the door for him (cause I didn't know he was getting out to) and he sarcastically goes "Thank you" Chat Icon Of course I said that I was sorry but he looked so annoyed. I just can't stand people that are rude like that...especially when me and DH are very nice people and very considerate to our neighbor's...sorry just had to vent.

Posted 3/9/06 1:53 PM
 
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Re: I don't think our neighboors like us (vent...long...sorry)

Some people just like to be little b!tches....Chat Icon

Posted 3/9/06 1:55 PM
 

LadyMaravilla
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Re: I don't think our neighboors like us (vent...long...sorry)

some people are just jerks. Seems to me that this may apply w/ a few of your neighbors. I would not take it personal...just goes to show you how silly people can be. Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 3/9/06 1:55 PM
 

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am i allowed to play devil's advocate? Chat Icon

Posted 3/9/06 1:56 PM
 

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Re: I don't think our neighboors like us (vent...long...sorry)

Posted by CaptainCharisma424

am i allowed to play devil's advocate? Chat Icon



just say it....

Posted 3/9/06 1:56 PM
 

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Re: I don't think our neighboors like us (vent...long...sorry)

Posted by CaptainCharisma424

am i allowed to play devil's advocate? Chat Icon

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Posted 3/9/06 1:58 PM
 

QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: I don't think our neighboors like us (vent...long...sorry)

OK, I live in a co-op as well

1. The cigarette smoke thing is not rude at all. Given the stuff in the news about second-hand smoke and what-not, people have very strong feelings about not wanting to breathe it in.

2. The door holding. Major pet peeve of mine. Not cool to not hold doors for neighbors. In this case though, it's understandable because you didn't know, but his reaction is understandable as well

Posted 3/9/06 1:59 PM
 

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Re: I don't think our neighboors like us (vent...long...sorry)

Oh well...


Although I have to admit when someone doesnt hold the door for me I usually yell THANKS Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 3/9/06 2:01 PM
 

LadyMaravilla
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Re: I don't think our neighboors like us (vent...long...sorry)

Posted by CaptainCharisma424

OK, I live in a co-op as well

1. The cigarette smoke thing is not rude at all. Given the stuff in the news about second-hand smoke and what-not, people have very strong feelings about not wanting to breathe it in.

That lady was a nut. I don't smoke & don't like it but to hold my nose the entire way...I woud pressed the button to the last floor so she could choked.
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Posted 3/9/06 2:02 PM
 

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Re: I don't think our neighboors like us (vent...long...sorry)

I assume your friend was not smoking in the elevator- she just smelled like smoke. Any adult who holds their nose is being immature. I have seen kids do it- but adults. Come on. If you are bothered by it, then say something- but don't act like a baby and hold your nose.

I also would say "Thanks" about the door holding thing. BUt if someone apologized and said they didn't know I was getting out, I would smile and say "that's OK". Over.

Posted 3/9/06 2:03 PM
 

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what works for you may not work for someone else

Posted 3/9/06 2:04 PM
 

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Posted by CaptainCharisma424

OK, I live in a co-op as well

1. The cigarette smoke thing is not rude at all. Given the stuff in the news about second-hand smoke and what-not, people have very strong feelings about not wanting to breathe it in.

That lady was a nut. I don't smoke & don't like it but to hold my nose the entire way...I woud pressed the button to the last floor so she could choked.
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If you are standing with someone who smokes then you are going to smell like smoke.
Because I quit a year ago I HATE that smell AND since I became pregnant the smell makes me want to vomit...I would have held my nose too.

Posted 3/9/06 2:04 PM
 

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Re: I don't think our neighboors like us (vent...long...sorry)

Ill add...

3. Some people who smoke just STINK after they had a cig. I am sorry... its nothing personal. Most people who smoke will debate that they don't smell... they are clean... chew gum afterwards. Sorry... but it doesn't help.

A huge pet peeve of mine is getting into an enclosed elevator with someone who just got on after having a cig. Its nasty. I won't go as far as holding my nose... but its gross.

I dread the times where I come into work... i see people outside smoking. I PRAY that I grab the elevator and go up before they come in to the lobby. One time I got stuck with about four of them who just came in from outside. I wanted to puke.

Posted 3/9/06 2:04 PM
 

LadyMaravilla
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Re: I don't think our neighboors like us (vent...long...sorry)

That lady was a nut. I don't smoke & don't like it but to hold my nose the entire way...I woud pressed the button to the last floor so she could choked.
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If you are standing with someone who smokes then you are going to smell like smoke.
Because I quit a year ago I HATE that smell AND since I became pregnant the smell makes me want to vomit...I would have held my nose too.


Ok, PG I can see it letting it slide...but holding your nose the entire way. I would have waited for the elevator to come back down.

Posted 3/9/06 2:05 PM
 

MRSJLK
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Re: I don't think our neighboors like us (vent...long...sorry)

Posted by CaptainCharisma424

OK, I live in a co-op as well

1. The cigarette smoke thing is not rude at all. Given the stuff in the news about second-hand smoke and what-not, people have very strong feelings about not wanting to breathe it in.

2. The door holding. Major pet peeve of mine. Not cool to not hold doors for neighbors. In this case though, it's understandable because you didn't know, but his reaction is understandable as well



I agree with your points! But we weren't smoking in front of her...we came in from outside after smoking and anyone who smokes or knows people that do when you come in after smoking, yes you smell bad...i personally thought it was rude for her to do that. - it's a 30 sec elevator ride, and we live right next door to each other. c'mon . I don't complain when she plays her piano at 12 o'clock at night.

And of course it's not cool to hold the doors for people Chat Icon but i didn't know he was getting off...I said I was sorry and he still seemed annoyed.

Just feel they have the wrong impression of us.

Posted 3/9/06 2:06 PM
 

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Re: I don't think our neighboors like us (vent...long...sorry)

I agree- that being in an elevator with someone who smokes can be very nasty. My SIL is a chain smoker or Marlboro Reds Chat Icon And she wanted to watch my baby when she comes out. Hellz No!!

But you can hold your nose without physically "holding your nose". I just start breathing through my mouth.

ETA: How many times have we been stuck with someone who smells bad in a professional or social setting where holding your nose would be inappropriate. What do you do then? YOu can be a grown up and not phsycially "hold your nose"

Message edited 3/9/2006 2:08:54 PM.

Posted 3/9/06 2:07 PM
 

LadyMaravilla
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Re: I don't think our neighboors like us (vent...long...sorry)

Posted by Shellyesq

I agree- that being in an elevator with someone who smokes can be very nasty. My SIL is a chain smoker or Marlboro Reds Chat Icon And she wanted to watch my baby when she comes out. Hellz No!!

But you can hold your nose without physically "holding your nose". I just start breathing through my mouth.



I agree. That lady was obviously literally stating her point. Very mature lady, different strokes for different folks.

Posted 3/9/06 2:08 PM
 

Dani
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Re: I don't think our neighboors like us (vent...long...sorry)

could she maybe have asthma or something? some people have major allergies or reactions to cigarette smoke.

although i would never hold my nose Chat Icon i sometimes react rerally bad when i smell smoke on someone...sneezing, etc.

either way, im sorry you had bad experiences! Chat Icon

Posted 3/9/06 2:09 PM
 

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Re: I don't think our neighboors like us (vent...long...sorry)

Posted by Shellyesq

I agree- that being in an elevator with someone who smokes can be very nasty. My SIL is a chain smoker or Marlboro Reds Chat Icon And she wanted to watch my baby when she comes out. Hellz No!!

But you can hold your nose without physically "holding your nose". I just start breathing through my mouth.

ETA: How many times have we been stuck with someone who smells bad in a professional or social setting where holding your nose would be inappropriate. What do you do then? YOu can be a grown up and not phsycially "hold your nose"



I agree. The smell makes me gag but I wouldn't go so far as to hold my nose.

Posted 3/9/06 2:09 PM
 

MRSJLK
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Re: I don't think our neighboors like us (vent...long...sorry)

I agree with everyone that after someone smokes it is nasty...and it can be very offensive to non-smokers. I just thought it was uncalled for her to actually hold her nose shut. She may have found the smell offensive but I found her action to be even more offensive.

Posted 3/9/06 2:12 PM
 

MRSJLK
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Re: I don't think our neighboors like us (vent...long...sorry)

Posted by danigirl0

either way, im sorry you had bad experiences! Chat Icon



Thank you...didn't mean to cause such a stir with my post...just wanted to vent Chat Icon

Posted 3/9/06 2:13 PM
 

Shelly
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Re: I don't think our neighboors like us (vent...long...sorry)

Posted by MRSJLK

I agree with everyone that after someone smokes it is nasty...and it can be very offensive to non-smokers. I just thought it was uncalled for her to actually hold her nose shut. She may have found the smell offensive but I found her action to be even more offensive.



I think you are 100% correct on this one. I rode in an elevator yesterday with a woman with the most AWFUL perfume. Maybe its the pregnancy or the fact that she dumped a whole bottle of it on herself. BUt I would never think of holding my nose. It is clear that this woman was making a point- in a rude way.

Posted 3/9/06 2:13 PM
 

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Re: I don't think our neighboors like us (vent...long...sorry)

From a non-smokers point of view...how would you like to be stuck in an elevator with someone who took a dump in their pants or who has a gas problem?

Granted, holding her nose was immature, but the smell can sometimes be overpowering and being in tight quaters, like an elevator, might have made it even worse.

Posted 3/9/06 2:14 PM
 

MRSJLK
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Re: I don't think our neighboors like us (vent...long...sorry)

Posted by Shellyesq


I think you are 100% correct on this one. I rode in an elevator yesterday with a woman with the most AWFUL perfume. Maybe its the pregnancy or the fact that she dumped a whole bottle of it on herself. BUt I would never think of holding my nose. It is clear that this woman was making a point- in a rude way.



Thanks! Chat Icon

Posted 3/9/06 2:15 PM
 

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Re: I don't think our neighboors like us (vent...long...sorry)

Posted by MRSJLK

I agree with everyone that after someone smokes it is nasty...and it can be very offensive to non-smokers. I just thought it was uncalled for her to actually hold her nose shut. She may have found the smell offensive but I found her action to be even more offensive.



To be honest, she totally did that to be a b!tch. You can easily HOLD your breath without having to actually HOLD YOUR NOSE! lol

Posted 3/9/06 2:16 PM
 
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