Re: Wow! DH just said something shocking.........

Posted by CAJ

I am sure he didnt say it for the shock value, maybe take his suggestion with open arms because he loves you....

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Re: Wow! DH just said something shocking.........

i think as long as i stop for awhile....... which i have, then he will see its all fine. it just happened i "drank" alot last week....
but it was for example, with dinner almost everynight. i met up with some friends a few times last week, which is alot more than normal. and we didnt go out to 'get drunk'. we went to talk over a drink. i think theres a big difference. ho hum.

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I honestly wouldn't be overly concerned with what he said. There is a big age difference between the two of you and there are bound to be things you don't see eye to eye on and I think this is one of them. I think it's pretty nromal to a drink a couple times a week at 22 and to occasionally have a little too much to drink when you're with friends. And like you said, it just so happens that you've been drinking a little more than usual lately, but that's just a passing phase. DH and I felt like binge drinkers the entire month of January. It was someone's b-day every weekend and then to Super Bowl, so we were drinking A LOT. It doesn't mean we're alcholics, it just means that the circumstances called for us to party a little more than usaul. I don't see the big deal.

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Jes when I was bartending I drank every day for the whole 13 years that I worked behind the bar. It didn't phase me in the slightest. Now that I am in my 30's and have stopped drinking everyday, I am finding that I have residual health problems from drinking so much. It is not like I got drunk every single day - in fact it was a very rare occasion that I got drunk at all, but the constant inflow of alcohol does affect your body whether it is alot all at once or a little over a long period of time. some suggestions, make a bottle of *fake shots* for your clients to buy you. This way they still feel good abotu drinking & think you are fun to party with. Or if you do not want to make fake shots INSIST on chasing it with a coke w/no ice. Spit the shot into the soda. and then toss out the chaser. No one would even think that you did not drink the shot.

I understand why he might be concerned, and these things may help to ease his mind.

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jess, you totally remind me of when i was 22.... i was out a lot and I got drunk at times- not to get drunk but i went out a lot and had drinks... i also bartend and although it is not part of the job, we bartenders tend to have a few while we work and after....i follow your stories and you bring me back to my 20's... I am 32 now and I dont know how I functioned the way I did... its a phase.. there was a time when i went a little excessive... i wouldnt get too crazy... maybe lay low for a little.. you have to rest up for the summer!!!!!

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Message edited 3/23/2006 9:39:44 PM.

Re: Wow! DH just said something shocking.........

Re: Wow! DH just said something shocking.........

I worked in the bar industry for over 4 years and I've seen it take it's toll on people. Everyday seems like a lot to me. I know that people want to buy you drinks at work and you don't want to turn down the sale and tip, but since I'm not a drinker I used to have them buy me the energy drinks we sold or bottled water. Considering your family history, slowing down might not be a bad idea.

Good luck,
Kelly

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yeah dh came to the bar last night and was like "what do yiu want to drink?"
i was like "i'm OFF drink"
he was like "oh yeah"
idiot! lol

ill just lay low for a while to "prove" im in 110% total control.


i think he realizes he definatly overreacted though

Message edited 3/24/2006 2:00:08 PM.

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I think taking a month "break" is a good idea. Not only will it dispell all thoughts in your mind and his that you may have chance of having a problem, but it might show you if there is anything the drinking is taking away from your life, like do you feel better not drinking, more alert, no hangover, etc. Or maybe you'll feel the same and it won't matter. I think drinking every day CAN be a problem if it leads to being drunk every time or if there's a dependence there, but like many other posters have said, you're 22, so drinking every day or nearly is a pretty "normal" activity. I think it's important to heed DH's comment, howevermuch he may be overreacting. Since youy do have alcoholism in your family (and it has been shown to have a genetic component), it's best to nip any problems that may occur in the bud, and maybe cut down on drinking a little just as a precautionary measure. People don't become alcoholics overnight, there was always a period for them where drinking was not a problem at all, and they just drank to have fun like the rest of us. I'm not saying you have a problem, or you will, but like many others I've seen the damage alcoholism can cause, and i think your DH is just trying to protect you...

Message edited 3/24/2006 3:28:05 PM.