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Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

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KPtoys
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Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

Ill be lucky if I get anything for mothers day... what I DO get is my DH playing golf in the morning because he does it every Sunday then working at a BS job at the golf course in the afternoon usually until 6 then coming home to me cooking dinner for my mom, brother DH and my kids.Chat Icon This has been every year since Ive been a mom. It turns into a huge argument between DH and I about how it would be nice to spend Mothers Day with him and the kids being nice to me and I get the BS that Mothers Day is just any other day and we can celebrate during the week when he is working for himself (he's self employeed). I guess it goes along with my 1st wedding anniversary with DH... I got to spend it with my ILs because my DH decided that it was more important to go fishing with his friends THEN come home to his parents (upstate) and instead of waking up with me the f'er went golfing at 6AM then came home at 1pm and wondered why I didn't want to talk to him...

Can someone please tell me why my DH is such a selfish prick?

Message edited 5/13/2006 6:32:07 PM.

Posted 5/13/06 6:29 PM
 
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bellarina
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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

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so sorry to hear!Chat Icon

Posted 5/13/06 6:32 PM
 

JennChris
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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

I hear ya girlfriend!!! I'm there with you! Men have NOOOO brains! Chat Icon Chat Icon I have the same argument and it's like talking to a wall!Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 5/13/06 6:43 PM
 

Scotty-CassidysMom
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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

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I have to say that although your post made me laugh, sometimes, THEY JUST DON'T GET ITChat Icon Chat Icon

Sorry, and I hope you have a wonderful Mother's Day!!!!Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 5/13/06 7:12 PM
 

hazeleyes33
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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

Was he like this before you got married? I think it is a little inconsiderate of him to think of himself first on these days.

Posted 5/13/06 7:14 PM
 

KPtoys
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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

Posted by hazeleyes33

Was he like this before you got married? I think it is a little inconsiderate of him to think of himself first on these days.




I agree but he doesn't see it that way...

Message edited 5/13/2006 7:19:50 PM.

Posted 5/13/06 7:19 PM
 

Dani00518
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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

I hear ya.......Tomorrow will actually be my first Mother's Day and DH is in Washington DC this weekend with his friends and he can't understand why I'd be upset......he'll be home by 1 to take me to lunch.........Yippy.....lunch........I can't wait......What is with them.....are they really that dumb?

Posted 5/13/06 7:21 PM
 

momAGAIN
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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

Posted by Dani00518

I hear ya.......Tomorrow will actually be my first Mother's Day and DH is in Washington DC this weekend with his friends and he can't understand why I'd be upset......he'll be home by 1 to take me to lunch.........Yippy.....lunch........I can't wait......What is with them.....are they really that dumb?



lol yes thay are!!!

so sorry ladies! HAve a wonderful mothers day though!!! Chat Icon My sons bday was on may 7th and my daughters is today so in the afternoon we are taking them to chuck e cheese,,,,then tommorow night we are having a bday party for the 2 of them! no break for me either!
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Posted 5/13/06 7:28 PM
 

My2Boys
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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

That sukks, Karen. Seriously, how inconsiderate can he be? Chat Icon You should plan to spend Father's Day at the spa and leave him home with the kids. Chat Icon

Posted 5/13/06 8:32 PM
 

Melbernai
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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

I really don't understand it ... and I have no intentions of not going all out for Father's Day -- he is a great dad and so he deserves it, and maybe it'll give him some ideas of what he can do for next year's Mother's Day.

Posted 5/13/06 8:44 PM
 

hazeleyes33
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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

Posted by KPtoys

Posted by hazeleyes33

Was he like this before you got married? I think it is a little inconsiderate of him to think of himself first on these days.




I agree but he doesn't see it that way...




Did his mom or dad say anything to him when he didn't show up at their house? Maybe he would listen to another person's opinion.

Posted 5/13/06 9:07 PM
 

JennChris
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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

Posted by hazeleyes33

Posted by KPtoys

Posted by hazeleyes33

Was he like this before you got married? I think it is a little inconsiderate of him to think of himself first on these days.




I agree but he doesn't see it that way...




Did his mom or dad say anything to him when he didn't show up at their house? Maybe he would listen to another person's opinion.


Hey Karen - I'll give him my opinion! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 5/13/06 9:08 PM
 

mommy2bella
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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

Posted by KPtoys
Can someone please tell me why my DH is such a selfish prick?



Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon If you find out let me know...DH has been in VEGAS since Thursday morning for a Bachelor party and doesn't understand why I am so upset at the fact that he didn't grab an earlier flight, I mean he IS getting in at NOON!!Chat Icon God Forbid he misses the extra 9 hours he got at the pool...jerk!

Couple that with the fact that this is my first Mother's Day and I haven't celebrated Mother's Day in forever because I don't have a relationship with my crazy mom...

And add a little stomach virus and allergy hell for me, and he is in BIG AZZ trouble!

Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon To all the women with great DHs who are great Dads that just act like completely "selfish pricks" sometimes!Chat Icon Chat Icon

Message edited 5/13/2006 9:28:41 PM.

Posted 5/13/06 9:27 PM
 

sunny
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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

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Posted 5/13/06 9:54 PM
 

MommaG
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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

My friend and I joke that it's the "Y" chromosome that makes them do all these stupid, selfish things. Try not to let it ruin your day. It sounds like he's always been like that so unfortunately, he most likely won't change. At least until your kids are old enough to ask him what they're doing for you for Mother's Day!!!


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Posted 5/14/06 7:17 PM
 

BabyAvocado
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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

omg I would be soooo mad. I'm sorry! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 5/14/06 7:59 PM
 

michele31
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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

I don't buy the "men are men" stuff..i would not argue, I wouldn't do anything. I would make plans for me and my children to do something nice for the day and I would not cook. I would not ask him to join us. I would also not do anything for him for weeks...not one piece of laundry, not one meal..nothing. And then I would let him know that I can also be selfish. On Father's Day I would let him know that I was planning on getting my nails done in the morning and he has the kids all day.
I am sorry he is doing this to you. It is really, truly unfair and you deserve better treatement. You do A LOT and should be honored for it on Mother's Day.

Posted 5/14/06 8:24 PM
 

Scotty-CassidysMom
and Dylan too!

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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

Posted by michele31

I don't buy the "men are men" stuff..i would not argue, I wouldn't do anything. I would make plans for me and my children to do something nice for the day and I would not cook. I would not ask him to join us. I would also not do anything for him for weeks...not one piece of laundry, not one meal..nothing. And then I would let him know that I can also be selfish. On Father's Day I would let him know that I was planning on getting my nails done in the morning and he has the kids all day.
I am sorry he is doing this to you. It is really, truly unfair and you deserve better treatement. You do A LOT and should be honored for it on Mother's Day.



Now that is a great idea!!

Not that I can complain, DH was wonderful for Mother's Day...but for those whose DH's weren't, I LOVE Michele's idea!

Posted 5/14/06 8:34 PM
 

hazeleyes33
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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

Posted by michele31

I don't buy the "men are men" stuff..i would not argue, I wouldn't do anything. I would make plans for me and my children to do something nice for the day and I would not cook. I would not ask him to join us. I would also not do anything for him for weeks...not one piece of laundry, not one meal..nothing. And then I would let him know that I can also be selfish. On Father's Day I would let him know that I was planning on getting my nails done in the morning and he has the kids all day.
I am sorry he is doing this to you. It is really, truly unfair and you deserve better treatement. You do A LOT and should be honored for it on Mother's Day.




I don't know you, but are you married? My dh would not put up with that attitude as I would not either. You need to talk about things not treat the other person like a child.

Posted 5/15/06 7:30 AM
 

antoinette
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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

My Dh is playing softball- he is on a leahue there was no way he was missing his game for mothers dayChat Icon Chat Icon Whatever! He has been this way since I know him he is sports crazed- Im like totally used to it at this point but still a little po'd- he better make it up afterwards though.

Posted 5/15/06 9:10 AM
 

dawnie
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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

Posted by antoinette

My Dh is playing softball- he is on a leahue there was no way he was missing his game for mothers dayChat Icon Chat Icon Whatever! He has been this way since I know him he is sports crazed- Im like totally used to it at this point but still a little po'd- he better make it up afterwards though.



He must of been playing with my husband because that is where he was yesterday morning!

Posted 5/15/06 9:41 AM
 

JennyGirl
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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

That sux. You deserve a better day than that.Chat Icon

Posted 5/15/06 10:26 AM
 

betty
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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

Posted by Dani00518

are they really that dumb?



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Posted 5/15/06 10:31 AM
 

mommy2Alex
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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon I am so sorry your DH is being an inconsiderate jerk. I would take some of these suggestions and have a lot to do on Father's day that doesn't include him. Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 5/15/06 10:33 AM
 

michele31
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Re: Can I please vent about DH and Mothers Day??

Yes. I am married. My husband and I don't treat each other like that because we have respect for one other. But if he were to be so very mean to me and disrespect me so badly I would just not continue to do things like laundry for him. I do those things, not because I am expected to do them, but because I want to. We are a partnership. We do for each other. I would just help him to see that what I do each day does comand some respect and honoring.

If this is a year, after year thing and the mom's have discussed this over and over, at some point I would just "show" over "talk".

Posted 5/15/06 12:49 PM
 
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