Re: how many of you would be upset or not?

I would be really upset if my or my DH's sibling planned a big family event at a time when we said we would not be able to go. Aside from that, they are asking people to travel to Tampa during the Easter/Passover/Spring Break week and airfares are through the roof for that time of year.

I would stick to my original plans and proceed with booking your first anniversary trip as you planned. If you already had those reservations made, you woulnd't cancel them right?

Re: how many of you would be upset or not?

I spoke to DH briefly and found out that he just yes'd his sister to death to get her off the phone about the dates( going over me I guess) and didnt realize the problem here now and he too wants us to be alone on vacation, so he said we would talk later he really couldnt get into it at work which I totally understand. what do you guys think of this letter I will send in an email? ( I dont want to get into it with I told you not to - blah blah blah since it didnt matter and she got the "ok" from her brother)

Hi T, how are you? I have a question for you. Is it possible for you to change the date of the communion?

We wont be able to make it if its on the 23rd. It is our 1 year anniversary and we had planned to go away and this date is falling into every category of being one of the days we will be away , etc a cruise comes back on that day, 1 of the hotels doesn't have space day after. It only comes once and we really had planned on it for us. I hate to do this now but after discussing it we figured it was easier for you to change the church date or we can visit you guys after we get back. Rob and I are going to discuss it further tonight as well. I just wanted to give you a heads up and give you the opportunity early in the day to see if you can change the date. We would love to see Anthony receive his first communion but our First Wedding Anniversary is important to us too.


At first we didn't think it would be a big deal or a problem, but we both realized that our memories of our first anniversary we wanted it to be romantic and just us since we know once we have kids our anniversarys wont be the same, which isnt a bad thing but just not be able to jump on a plane and go away. I hope you can understand that.

Re: how many of you would be upset or not? go to page 2 and read letter what do you think

I like it - but personally I would take this part out- cause the tells her that you are still up in the air about it.

Re: how many of you would be upset or not? go to page 2 and read letter what do you think

I would skip the first paragraph.

I don't think it's OK to ask her to change the date of the communion. I think when she reads the REST of your letter, she'll probably get the hint that you would like her to change it.

Re: how many of you would be upset or not? go to page 2 and read letter what do you think

Ok good points so leave out the first paragraph and take out further discuss it-

thanks so much!!!!

Re: how many of you would be upset or not? go to page 2 and read letter what do you think

Re: how many of you would be upset or not? go to page 2 and read letter what do you think

I am also wondering you should wait until after you speak to your DH tonight and show him what you are planning to write.

Re: how many of you would be upset or not? go to page 2 and read letter what do you think

Re: how many of you would be upset or not? go to page 2 and read letter what do you think

Have you been to Sanibel and Captiva Islands? They are incredibly romantic, and I would probably go there for the week preceding (I checked on Travelocity--there is availibility for the week up to the 23rd, and then you could fly or drive to Tampa on the 23rd before the communion). I would probably do that rather than ruffle feathers among family.

Re: how many of you would be upset or not? go to page 2 and read letter what do you think

Message edited 2/9/2006 12:58:01 PM.

Re: how many of you would be upset or not? go to page 2 and read letter what do you think

Re: how many of you would be upset or not? go to page 2 and read letter what do you think

Posted by nov04libride

Posted by girlygrl33

Posted by nov04libride

Have you been to Sanibel and Captiva Islands? They are incredibly romantic, and I would probably go there for the week preceding (I checked on Travelocity--there is availibility for the week up to the 23rd, and then you could fly or drive to Tampa on the 23rd before the communion). I would probably do that rather than ruffle feathers among family.

oooooo that sounds like a plan, yea I know what you mean, she is going to blame me soley for this even though her brother feels the same way as I do.

I know how that goes. Somehow you'll be made out to be the bizotch, not him.

Re: how many of you would be upset or not? go to page 2 and read letter what do you think

Posted by Marcie

Honestly - I think you should NOT go to the communion. I am not saying that so you can be spiteful to you SIL and your DH's family, but your 1 year anniversary comes once and only once. Since you mentioned that your DH works alot of hours and you were planning on doing this, for some quality time as well, I think you should stick to your plan.
You said it is going to cause WWIII, if you don't go. Why? Cause 2 people that were invited, couldn't come. What if you couldn't come due to money reasons, would they still give you the same grief.
How does your DH feel about the whole issue?
Does he feel like it might break his family if you don't go?
I am a religious person, but not for nothing it is a communion, not a wedding.
Maybe write down your pros and cons and see where that takes you.
Also - do what is going to make you happy. Think 5 - 10 years down the road and think about when you look back on your 1st wedding anniversary (like I said before - only comes once) and see how you would feel about that day, week - what have you.

Message edited 2/9/2006 1:18:10 PM.

Re: how many of you would be upset or not? go to page 2 and read letter what do you think

i so agree about taking the part out about asking to change the date. I didnt know what your post was about amd went straight to the letter. I would be very shocked if someone told me to change my date. Everything else looks great though! i have the same issue with my friends wedding but I am in the wedding. Bye, Bye 1st anniversary to me!