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Jenziba
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Jennifer
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Re: Need advice
I'm very sorry you have to be going through this...
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DebG
Pick a cause & stand up for it
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The cure IS worse!
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Re: Need advice
I just wanted to let you know that I have been thinking of you all day.
 I hope you can feel all the love and support we have for you here.
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| Posted 8/20/06 10:50 PM |
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cjb88
Little Brother
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Re: Need advice
im so sorry you are going through this...
what if he isnt cheating and there is no other woman? He is still telling you that he is miserable and doesnt seem to want to try to fix things... why would you want to stay in a marriage like that? It takes two to make it work, and if he isnt willing to try then, what else can you really do??
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| Posted 8/20/06 10:59 PM |
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MrsERod
Praying for Everyone.
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Re: Need advice
Posted by Diana1215
My advice to you - is please be careful and trust your gut because it's almost always right.
couldn't agree more! i'm so sorry you're going through this!! hope things work out for the best!!
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| Posted 8/20/06 11:50 PM |
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aliasPook
Blessed x 3
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Laurie
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Re: Need advice
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| Posted 8/20/06 11:58 PM |
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JTK
my 4 boys!
Member since 6/06 7396 total posts
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Kristi
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Re: Need advice
i am so sorry to even say this out loud but i think your suspicions are right. i would confront him with it.
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| Posted 8/21/06 1:11 AM |
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Tah-wee-ZAH
Kisses
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Re: Need advice
I was going to say that I think everyone has made some very valid points. Everything that can be sid has been said.
We have our instincts for a reason. If you have a feeling in your gut it's trying to protect you.
Please protect yourself.
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| Posted 8/21/06 7:23 AM |
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Elbee
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Me
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Re: Need advice
I'm sorry you are going through this. 
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| Posted 8/21/06 8:43 AM |
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Phyl
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skygirl
Our prayers were answered:)
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Erica
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Re: Need advice
I really agree with what these posters said.
I am sorry that things are going this way, hope you can get the answers you need soon. Hang in there
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| Posted 8/21/06 8:54 AM |
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Bxgell2
Perfection
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Beth
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Re: Need advice
It sounds very suspicious to me and I would be on high alert... I would do what some of the other posters suggest- don't confront him just yet with your suspicions of an affair, but take every measure you can to sit down with him and try to talk this out. If that gets you nowhere, at least you know you tried... please don't put any of this on yourself. There is *never*... NEVER an excuse for cheating, and he's probably so consumed in his own guilt that he's trying to push the blame on you. Stay as strong as you are... you'll come out of this a fighter and a much better person than he... and above all else, like everyone says, trust your instincts. I was in a 5+ year relationship and I always suspected he was cheating on me, but never had any proof... after we broke up, it was confirmed, and although I was devastated by the break-up, I moved on and have never been happier...
Stay strong
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| Posted 8/21/06 8:59 AM |
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McSullivan
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Re: Need advice
I'm so sorry that you are going through this.
I cannot imagine how difficult it must be.
I don't have any advise, I just wanted you to know that I'm thinking about you.
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| Posted 8/21/06 9:11 AM |
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skew
LIF Adult
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Re: Need advice
any updates?
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| Posted 8/21/06 9:45 PM |
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jozieb0925
Double Trouble!
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Josie
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Re: Need advice
I hope everything works out for you and your dh. Please update us..
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| Posted 8/21/06 9:47 PM |
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dandj
Love of my life....
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Denise
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Re: Need advice
Don't really have anything else to add but sending you hugs... and hoping everything turns out okay...
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| Posted 8/22/06 8:30 AM |
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Christine
2nd verse same as the 1st
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Re: Need advice
I am so sorry you are going through this.
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| Posted 8/22/06 8:34 AM |
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Karen
Just chillin'!!
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Karen
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Re: Need advice
everyone else has given you excellent advice! I am so sorry you have to deal with this.
Message edited 8/22/2006 8:35:17 AM.
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| Posted 8/22/06 8:35 AM |
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NoStressMom
My Heart and Soul
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Re: Need advice
So sorry this is happening to you!!! 
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| Posted 8/22/06 8:42 AM |
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MsMBV
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I don't know if this was mentioned, but are you sure that the person he is talking to is a woman? I went through something similar, with my ex-FI. It turned out he was having *issues* with his sexual identity. I actually caught him with a man, who was a mutual friend. The biggest tip-off for me (in hindsight) was the sex, or lack there of. It was not even the lack of, rather than the need to, as you mentioned, get up & leave the room.
I am not trying to make a bad situation worse, but to me this sounds too familiar.
Please know that whatever happens, you have support here.
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| Posted 8/22/06 8:51 AM |
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dandr10199
Grace is growing up too fast!
Member since 10/05 11561 total posts
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Dina
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Re: Need advice
Trust your gut and and hire a PI.
I am sorry you are going through this.
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| Posted 8/22/06 8:58 AM |
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I just saw this today and I think after reading everyone's responses, I dont really have anything else to add except
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| Posted 8/22/06 10:42 AM |
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TheInfamousOTG
Waiting for Lil' M....
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Re: Need advice
No update yet. I wonder what the outcome was......
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| Posted 8/28/06 7:54 PM |
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nyteacher13
Three Under Four!!! :-)
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#. I was going to try to create an online account, but am nervous of his wrath if he finds out. I could see him divorcing me over doing something like that.
I think it's horrible that you're scared of what your DH might do if he found out your looked into this situation. I'm even more upset for you that you are so worried about him divorcing you over it. You do NOT need to take this from anyone and you DESERVE to be happy. It would be HIS LOSS if he were to lose you and from the way he sounds I'm sure you're WAY TOO GOOD FOR HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Have some confidence in yourself... YOU'RE in control!!! Good luck...
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| Posted 8/28/06 8:01 PM |
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nyteacher13
Three Under Four!!! :-)
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Posted by worriedmrs
Posted by Beth1210
Posted by THEINFAMOUSMRS.OTG
Does he work close enough for you to check things out? Is he in an area that you would go unseen?
could you trade cars with a friend and stake him out?
or even rent one? it's dark out when he is done working right?
I may do this one night next week... it is dark out when he is working...
Just please be very careful. This is not worth getting yourself hurt over. I'd be so upset seeing something to confirm my ideas that I would not be able to drive carefully.
Your DH sounds like a real coward. I have no use for liars or sneaks and he sounds like BOTH a liar AND a sneak. Again, you deserve SO MUCH MORE than this.
Red is right... DON'T lose sight of YOUR dreams because this "man" has no use for you. I really hope you guys don't have kids involved in this...
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| Posted 8/28/06 8:13 PM |
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nyteacher13
Three Under Four!!! :-)
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Posted by greeneyes361708
Secondly, if you do not use condoms, stop having sex with him! You don't know what he might be doing with this mystery lady, and if he doesn't use protection with her you are at risk for STDs. I'm sorry you're going through this.
Omg, I didn't even think of this... this would be horrific....
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